A wedding is one of the brightest events in everyone's life. Of course, every woman wants it to go flawlessly - this applies to both the ceremony and the choice of clothing. The right dress for a church wedding is another chance to create the mood for the entire ceremony and remember the delight in the eyes of your chosen one for a long time.
Choosing the right wedding dress
When buying a wedding dress, you should never forget about traditions! Women's attire when visiting church has long been subject to requirements that are still in effect today. When going for a fitting, consider the most important nuances.
- Length - only to the floor! It is strictly forbidden to show your legs in church, so you should buy something more modest and romantic.
- A closed top is highly desirable. A wedding dress with a lace bolero, sleeves or cape will perfectly highlight your style - and without unnecessary exposure.
- Colors are only light. Converts to the Catholic faith are only allowed to marry in white. Orthodoxy is less categorical on this matter, but you should still refuse colored outfits.
- You can't do without accessories. You are only allowed to be in the temple with your head covered - take care to select a veil or an elegant hat that matches your dress.
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Perhaps a wedding is one of the most significant, joyful and beautiful Christian rites, which with its sublime atmosphere inspires even those simply present at it with a feeling of joy and love, not to mention the young people who decided to seal their union before God.
The wedding itself is defined as a church service during which the Sacrament of Marriage is performed: a Christian marriage is blessed and sanctified. In an Orthodox marriage, each spouse must take his place. The husband should be the head of the family, responsible for the direction of family life, for its well-being and strength. The wife must build family life, not allowing everyday vanity to destroy her spiritual foundation. To summarize what has been said, we can say that a woman is the soul of any family, and a man is the body.
The word “marriage” is of Slavic origin, and it means “to be together.” In the old days, a team of horses walking together in a bundle was called a marriage couple. According to church canons, spouses upon entering into a church marriage are united “into one flesh,” i.e. become one being in their aspirations, determination of values, joy and sorrow.
From the time of Peter I until March 1917.
For absolutely all Orthodox residents of the Russian state, only a marriage concluded in a church through a wedding was considered valid. In today's society, church marriage is not mandatory, because... actually has no legal force, but a huge number of newlyweds seek to register their union in the church. True, the motivation of all couples is completely different, some pay tribute to fashion, while others follow parental instructions. Still others consider this simply necessary for further family life, according to their inner convictions.
In this article I would like to provide explanations on some issues regarding this ritual in order to help young people who are just thinking about a family to take the right steps.
When is the best time to get married?
Until quite recently, most people living in Soviet society did not even think about getting married, because... religion was “underground” at that time. But in the early nineties, its revival began, and with it such a ritual as a wedding. And many couples began to include this ritual in their wedding celebration in order to somehow diversify and embellish it. However, unfortunately, only a few people had an understanding of the ritual, basically the same as today. Of course, today's couples are more enlightened on this issue, but the majority still do not understand the sacred meaning of the sacrament. For most, this is just a beautiful “add-on” to the wedding. Of course, the sacrament of a wedding is a very beautiful and bewitching action, shrouded in an aura of some kind of touchingness. And, of course, it cannot be compared with registration in the Civil Registry Office. The very atmosphere in the church, the walls decorated with frescoes, many icons, burning candles everywhere - all this evokes a certain reverence and awe in a person. But external attributes should not be taken as a basis. The defining moment should be those two people who consciously wanted to come here and get married.
If your couple wants to get married in a church, try to be more thoughtful about this issue. Think carefully before taking this step, take your time. The focus should not be on the beauty of the ceremony, but on the obligations that the spouses undertake. Civil marriage is officially regulated by the family code, which very clearly defines all the rights and obligations of the spouses. When getting married, you make a promise to love each other all your life, to be patient and reasonable, only you make this promise not to someone who can later judge you for unworthy behavior, but, in fact, to yourself. You can always deceive others, but you are unlikely to deceive yourself. Take your time with your impulses; the desire to get married should “ripen in your mind”, become a necessity in your life, and not just one of the beautiful moments.
Many couples today combine official registration in the registry office and a wedding in a church on the same day. This, in my opinion, is not quite the right decision on several counts. A wedding is basically holiday for two, calmness and tranquility should be at its core, and not the noisy partying of guests.
Another parameter is that this ritual requires certain training, and you already have enough trouble. It’s true that many people object and say, one more thing, one less, what’s the difference? But it turns out that if you do everything according to the rules, then there will really be quite a lot of trouble.
In addition, the question of time arises, I mean that you should very accurately calculate where and how long you will be for the entire wedding day. One couple I know managed to register due to an unexpected snowfall, but were late for the wedding.
For another couple, on the contrary, everything went well, but there were complaints from the bride that it was difficult to fit everything together in one day, not only in the wedding schedule, but also in her head. Not to mention physical fatigue , which will arise after such a busy day.
Therefore, it is quite reasonable and convenient to separate these two events by at least different days, and in some cases, years. True, here too there are objections from the young people, who say that if the wedding does not take place on the same day, then they will have no time later. In my opinion, this is all nonsense, because if you quite consciously decided to take such a step, then, in principle, no one and nothing can stop you from taking it.
Another argument that was given to me at one time is that it is too expensive to separate these two holidays. To this I would like to answer the following - as has already been said - “a wedding is a holiday for two” and, in principle, it is not customary to invite a large number of people to it; usually the list of invitees includes only mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers and siblings and sisters. The wedding itself, together with all its component parts, will cost you about three, or maximum four thousand (this means a donation for the church, a towel, icons, candles). If an outfit is chosen correctly and initially for registration, it may not require the purchase of a new one at all, and if something needs to be purchased, it will only be accessories, which also will not require significant financial costs.
The banquet can even be organized at home, because... If you follow the rules and do not invite a large number of people, then it is quite possible for everyone to fit at one table at home. But even if you want to sit in a cafe in the same narrow family circle, it won’t cost you too much. And in general, imagine how wonderful it is when two completely different, but united in spirit holidays remain in your memory, and not one hectic day full of events.
How to dress for a wedding ?
If possible, the length should be “floor-length”; the maximum allowance is a length no higher than the knee. Some brides are considering the option of a dress with a train. In principle, this is a Catholic tradition. In Rus', dresses with trains were not sewn, but modern clergy are unlikely to show dissatisfaction with this matter. Most likely, after the wedding you can hear many complaints from the witness, because at the wedding itself it is quite difficult to hold the crown above your head and move without simultaneously stepping on the train of the dress. Moreover, the bride, at whose wedding I was present as a witness, had a dress without a train, but quite voluminous and right down to the floor. And while moving I had to be careful not to step on it.
The wedding dress itself can be anything, but preferably closed. The back, neckline and shoulders should not be exposed. Ideally, this is a dress with long sleeves, a shallow neckline and a closed back. Although the sleeve may be short, the most important thing is that it covers the shoulders.
Often, young people plan both a civil wedding and a wedding on the same day, and here the brides face a rather difficult question. Either wear a closed dress at both events, or purchase two dresses for two events. However, this option can be very expensive for many. True, you shouldn’t get upset in advance, because... There is always a way out. For example, an open dress can be complemented with accessories, such as long gloves, a stole, a lace bolero that can be removed immediately after the wedding, a beautiful openwork shawl or a special cape for a wedding. Don’t be afraid to cover your arms and shoulders; you are unlikely to lose anything in your beauty; you are more likely to gain it, because... brides in such a dress look quite tender and touching. In principle, you can do without all kinds of capes, if you have a long and fluffy veil, it will cover open areas of the body.
It is not customary to give or sell the dress in which people get married, as well as baptismal shirts; all these things, as well as wedding candles and icons, are kept together.
It is well known that a woman must enter the Orthodox Church with her head covered. Therefore, when deciding on a wedding hairstyle and its decoration, you should take this point into account. You should check with your priest in advance whether the crowns will be placed on the head or whether they will be held by witnesses, because your choice of headdress and hairstyle will depend on this moment.
The hairstyle for a wedding should not be high; many curls and other elements that can be crushed by a scarf at a wedding are excluded. The best option is and remains a veil, because... it allows the bride to do her hair comfortably and look great at the same time. It’s true that the veil should not be too small; it should cover the top of the head. Whatever headdress you choose, try to secure it, otherwise during the ceremony it will definitely move, and this will certainly disturb you, and you will have to adjust it every now and then.
Brides are not recommended to wear high-heeled dress shoes for their wedding, and this is not a matter of customs, but of the banal comfort of your feet, because... During the entire ceremony you will have to stand for quite a while. But it will be quite difficult to stand on them, and after the wedding you will want nothing more than one thing, to get rid of the “pads” as soon as possible. Therefore, the choice should be made towards shoes with solid soles or with minimal heels.
The bride should wear a minimum amount of cosmetics. In addition, makeup should not be too bright, but most of today's brides prefer natural notes even without this clarification. The only point to note is that women are prohibited from kissing a crown, cross, or icon with painted lips, but this can be corrected by simply removing the lipstick immediately before entering the church. Therefore, stock up on special products, both for removing it and for reapplying it. In general, naturalness should be visible in the bride’s entire appearance.
The groom should look serious at the wedding, so a formal suit is perfect for this occasion. Of course, the preferred colors, as in the case of the bride, are light ones, but there are no strict rules in this regard for grooms. Of course, casual sportswear, as well as denim, is not a suitable outfit for a wedding. The groom should not wear a headdress.
Invited guests must also comply with a number of requirements. For women, hats and closed clothing are required; the presence of women in dresses and skirts is desirable, but many parishes do not prohibit trouser suits. All guests, without exception, must wear their crosses on this day, including, of course, as you understand, witnesses and young people.
Sincerely, Irina Kravchuk.
Two lovers often decide to tie the knot not only in front of the state, but also in front of God. Under the painted dome of the church, among gilded icons and burning candles, the couple’s hearts are sealed forever. A wedding is an important stage that involves observing many traditions. These include some requirements for the appearance of the bride and groom. Since dozens of eyes will be focused on the beautiful bride on this day, it is very important to take care of her dignified, beautiful, but at the same time modest attire. You will find out what dress you need for a wedding in a church in this article.
An exciting event - a wedding, probably one of the most beautiful and mysterious in the world. So that nothing interferes with this ceremony, prepare in advance. What are the requirements for a wedding dress?
- Catholic women wear white clothes for weddings. At the same time Orthodox wedding dresses differ in their greater permissibility. Beige, light pink, light lilac, and cream tones are suitable for the ritual. The main thing is that the color of the dress for a wedding in a church should not be variegated or dark.
- Be sure to choose a modest wedding dress. The product should not be low-cut, bare-backed, or with other provocative elements. Shoulders should be covered. The most popular model with long and ¾ sleeves. In terms of style, the church does not limit the newlywed. The wedding dress can be A-line, fluffy, mermaid or empire style.
- Length above the knee is unacceptable. A wedding dress should not be short! A toe-length skirt is the most suitable option. Catholic brides who want to get married purchase an outfit with a train. There is no such requirement in the Orthodox faith.
Preparation and wedding ceremony
It becomes relevant to get married not on the wedding day, but after a certain time of being married. If a couple with a sincere soul and heart decided to tie the knot before the Almighty, it does not matter much to the church whether the spouses lived together for a day, a year or 15 years.
Days such as Saturday, Tuesday and Thursday are not suitable for the Sacrament. It is not permissible to get married during Lent, on the eve of major church holidays.
The Church does not recommend wearing the dress after the wedding, and it cannot be sold or given away. It is customary to preserve the wedding dress and icons as a baptismal shirt.
Styles
The modern fashion industry presents brides with a wide range of different dress models. Floor-length robes with a covered back and shoulders can be attractive and original. An example of an exquisite wedding attire is Kate Middleton's outfit. The delicate lace dress won fans all over the world, who decided to use this style at their ceremony.
In order not to buy a simple wedding dress, you can go to church in open clothes, using elements that cover your shoulders and back. We'll talk about this later.
Let's talk about the most current styles used for weddings.
Classic flare dress
The usual styles of wedding dresses are A-line. The model gradually widens downwards, has a closed back and shoulders, and is considered a classic wedding dress. The style looks quite modest; it is important that the product does not have flashy elements in the form of stones and sparkles. A minimalist style is preferable; it can be diluted with embroidery and pearls. The shape fits almost any figure perfectly.
With sleeves
A model with sleeves is ideal for the Sacrament. These can be 3/4 sleeves, long, bat or lanterns. Elegant and graceful models with sleeves look sophisticated.
Closed models
The most modest option for a wedding. This dress provides covered arms and shoulders, chest and back of the bride and groom. Some styles have a collar that covers the neck. This is an ideal option for a bride with full arms and breasts. If the ceremony is planned in winter, a closed dress is best suited. You will feel comfortable and warm in it.
Evening models
Some women choose evening dresses whose shape and color are suitable for a wedding. The less magnificent the style, the easier you will endure the ceremony. We recommend discarding the plume, as it may interfere with the witness when walking around the lectern. Evening dresses are especially popular among couples who have decided to get married after several years of family life. In this case, they choose not a wedding, but simply an elegant floor-length dress in pink, gold, mint, green shades.
Models with lace
The photo shows dozens of variations of dresses with guipure. Refined and elegant decoration is not forbidden. Airy and graceful styles with lace do not need additional decor, since they themselves are an interesting decor. The newlywed in such a robe becomes incredibly fragile and graceful. Lace can be located on the back, arms and shoulders, as well as throughout the product. Just make sure that the dress is not transparent.
Styles for pregnant women
Sometimes the bride decides to walk down the aisle while pregnant. In this case, it is recommended to choose a model taking into account the period. In the first trimester, trapezoidal, empire and “Princess” styles are acceptable. For a large tummy, the Greek silhouette is best suited.
For overweight people
Women with curvy figures can choose an elegant dress that will emphasize their attractiveness and figure advantages. For plus size brides, stylists recommend the Greek style, which is universal. It hides voluminous hips, narrow hips and broad shoulders, and a large belly. If you still have harmonious proportions and are overweight, try on the “fish” silhouette. This style suits newlyweds with above average height.
Dress for an older woman
Sometimes ladies get married after years of marriage. The couple becomes more confident in their feelings and kinship of souls. Closed styles will help these ladies look elegant and interesting. For middle-aged women, stylists recommend colored dresses: light beige, pale gold, sand, light olive. You should avoid white color, since against its background age-related changes on the skin are more expressive. For an older woman, an A-line silhouette and a semi-fitting style are suitable. At the age of 40, you can afford a straight silhouette wedding dress if you have a slim figure. On a woman who is 50 years old, the option with guipure looks great, hiding imperfect hands and age spots on the skin. In addition, lace is great for slimming.
Shoes and accessories
If the newlywed’s clothing does not cover her back and arms, it is necessary to supplement it with the following elements:
- Shawl or bolero– an excellent choice for this important event. In the cold season, the accessory will make the bride's appearance modest and provide warmth.
- You can cover yourself with a jacket. Elegant models made of silk and satin to match the outfit are suitable.
- For a wedding that will take place in the summer, a shawl or cape is suitable. The accessory is made of silk and lace, chiffon fabric. It is important that the selected element looks harmonious with the whole image.
- Dresses complemented with a hood are popular. This element is made of the finest lace or chiffon and looks very delicate.
- In cold winter, it is permissible to wear a coat or short fur coat to church instead of a bolero. These elements should be combined with the outfit in shade.
- A wedding dress without sleeves or with short sleeves is complemented by gloves.
Listen to your intuition and your heart when choosing your wedding dress. And then the Sacrament of Wedding will give only bright and positive emotions, and will become an unforgettable day of the union of two loving people!
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Hello. Please tell me, is it possible to sell a wedding dress? They signed and got married in it. I heard that you can’t sell veils and shoes. And there are a lot of contradictions about the dress. Thanks in advance
valentine
Valentina, you can do as you wish with the dress, the veil, and other items of your wedding wardrobe. There are no special church rules in this regard, and everything else is superstition or prejudice.
Priest Vladimir Shlykov
Hello! Father, please tell me, is it acceptable for a wedding to wear a dress that barely covers the knees and with sleeves above the elbow? Is it possible to get married on April 27?
Nina
Nina, such “technical” issues, as well as the wedding date, must be discussed with the priest with whom you are planning to get married. I think, however, it is unlikely that you will have time to agree on the wedding on April 27.
Priest Vladimir Shlykov
Hello, please tell me, my husband and I want to get married, what clothes should we wear for the wedding? Is it possible to rent a dress for a wedding? Thank you.
Milan
Hello Milana. Can be rented. The dress should be light, strict, without a neckline and with long sleeves. The man, of course, is in a classic suit.
Priest Alexander Beloslyudov
Good day! Please tell me, as far as I know, you can get married twice and get married three times, but the third time without getting married, is that so? A friend of mine says that you can only get married once in your life, the second time will definitely be unhappy, God will not give happiness to a woman or a man if, after getting divorced, a person decides to start a family again, she drew this conclusion from her situation with marriage. Is it possible for a woman to wear a white wedding dress if she is getting married or getting married for the third time? They say that under no circumstances should you wear it, otherwise you will be unhappy for the rest of your life; you can wear a dress of any color except white. Is it true that the groom cannot see the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding, otherwise the groom will be disappointed in the bride and the wedding dress cannot be worn just like that, for example, for a photo or something else? Or is it all fables and superstitions?
Xenia
“About the white dress” - no comment, everything described is a gross superstition. The Church blesses no more than three church marriages (this means weddings); the canons do not talk about registry offices at all. Another thing is that now there is no point in marrying many people even once. Too frivolous. But if a person repents for the mistakes of his first marriage and becomes a Christian not just in words, his next marriage may well be happy and saving. There are enough examples.
Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy
Good afternoon What remains from my parents (unfortunately, they are no longer there) are wedding candles, rings and my mother’s wedding dress. Do I need to light these candles or just store them? And is it possible to wash a wedding dress?
Marina
Marina. Wedding candles can be lit or stored – at your discretion. The wedding dress can also be washed.
Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)
Hello, father. During the wedding, namely, when we walked around the lectern, I fell behind my husband and the priest, and they went ahead a little. Almost six months have passed, and it’s unpleasant for me to remember everything. I don’t believe in omens, and there are no such signs. Every day I worry about my inattention. Are such cases common during weddings?
Maria
Hello Maria! All this is simply, let’s say, “technical issues” related to the pomp of clothing, and not related to the sacrament itself. It happens that witnesses step on the dress, and the veil falls to one side. Don't blame yourself. Well, if your thoughts don’t give you peace at all, I advise you to confess.
Priest Vladimir Shlykov
Hello, I'm going to go to church for confession. I don’t wear skirts, can I come in trousers, but wear a raincoat on top just below the knees?
Svetlana
Dear Svetlana, imagine that you came to a restaurant and said to the doorman at the entrance: I don’t wear evening suits, can I go into the hall in a quilted jacket, overalls and tarpaulin boots? Each place has its own generally accepted dress code. A cheap skirt in a second-hand store costs about a hundred rubles. You can buy it specifically for visiting the temple, I hope that you will come there more than once, and will visit the House of God more or less regularly. In addition, a dress and a skirt make a woman look so beautiful that they should be, at least in small quantities, in any woman’s wardrobe.
Archpriest Andrey Efanov
Hello! My husband and I got married on the day of marriage registration at the registry office, I was in a wedding dress. Can this dress be sold?
Elena
Elena, why can’t you sell a wedding dress? If the things are good and expensive, and you can get some money for them, then, of course, the dress, without any doubt, can be sold. Before you sell the dress, you need to sprinkle it with Holy water, since this must be done when the owner changes and when buying new things. In the prayer book there is a short prayer for the laity, it’s called “On the consecration of every thing,” you can sprinkle the dress yourself, and then calmly sell it.
Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)
Hello, father! During her lifetime she gave her dress to her friend, but after some time she died suddenly. At the funeral, I saw that she was buried in this dress! Her mother says that she didn’t know about it, and that it’s okay, because I gave it to her during my lifetime, and I was very scared! I don’t mind the dress at all, I’m afraid it doesn’t pose a danger to me? Then her mom gave me her things, can I wear them? I didn’t want to take it, again out of fear, but I couldn’t refuse. I know that my deceased friend would share with pleasure, and if she sees us, she doesn’t feel sorry. Please tell me what should I do? Maybe my fears are simply due to the great stress from losing a friend, maybe I need to go to church? Thank you in advance.
Elena
Yes, Elena, your fears are completely unfounded. Please throw such superstitions out of your head: firstly, they have nothing to do with reality, and, secondly, they simply darken life.
Hegumen Nikon (Golovko)
Hello, father! Please explain what is the reason for the rule of women wearing skirts in the temple and the fact that they are not supposed to enter the temple in trousers? It is clear that each gender has its own clothing. But even priests don’t wear trousers and jeans in churches. And also, what is the reason for the fact that women must enter with their heads covered, and men vice versa? I really want to know. Thank you.
Lyudmila
Lyudmila, at the beginning, let's immediately separate the spiritual vestments that priests wear from the usual secular clothes that lay people wear - the fact that priests do not wear suits or shirts with jeans to services is not an argument here.
And about the need to wear clothes appropriate to the sex, it is said in the Holy Scripture: “A woman should not wear men’s clothing, and a man should not dress in women’s clothing, for anyone who does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God” (Deut. 22:5).
Regarding a woman's head being covered during prayer, please read the First Epistle of the Apostle Paul to the Corinthians, chapter 11, verses 1 to 19.
Hegumen Nikon (Golovko)
Hello. There is one question regarding traditions. I heard from friends that it is customary for unmarried girls to be buried in a wedding dress. Is there really such a tradition? What is it due to? Is she Orthodox? Thanks in advance for your answer.
Alexey
Dear Alexey, this tradition, in my opinion, is religiously neutral and simply expresses the grief of loved ones that the deceased did not experience the joys of marriage and motherhood. There is no need to introduce it in areas where there is no such tradition, but it is also not worth fighting it if there are no superstitions around this ritual.
Archpriest Andrey Efanov
Good afternoon I have a question: what clothes should women wear to visit the Temple, skirts or trousers? I myself started visiting the Temple recently and noticed that almost all the women come in skirts, but some also wear trousers and even tracksuits! Is there some kind of dress code for visiting Church, or maybe you can “run” into the church in a robe (excuse the sarcasm, father)?
Irina
Irina, in Old Testament times people were stoned to death for wearing clothes of the opposite sex. There were no trousers for women. In our, it must be said, godless times, both the clergy and bishops reason like this: it is better to come to church in trousers than not to come at all because of trousers. But when attempts begin to “legitimize” this new type of clothing for women, this already begins to go overboard. A woman must dress in clothes of her gender: a dress or blouse with a skirt and have a headdress. It is pious, feminine, graceful, beautiful and holy. And moreover, it does not cause any temptation - and temptation is unacceptable in the Church.
Hegumen Nikon (Golovko)
Good afternoon Please tell me, is it possible to sell the wedding dress you wore when you got married?
Tanya
Although the thought of this may cause superstitious fear, there are no prohibitions in this regard. On the contrary, sometimes pragmatism is the best cure for superstition.
Deacon Ilia Kokin
Hello, father! Please tell me, is it obligatory for a woman to wear a skirt to church? I have always thought and believed that God first of all looks at his heart, so that it is open for communication, kind, filled with love, and what a person comes with is up to him to decide. Am I thinking correctly? Thanks for the answer.
Evgenia
Hello, Evgenia! A person who just crosses the threshold of the temple finds himself in a world completely unknown to him, living according to his own rules that are not always understandable to the “newcomer”. One of the first rules he becomes acquainted with is the requirement for appearance. Almost everyone knows these requirements in an Orthodox church (no headdress for men, a skirt and headscarf for women, a modest and neat appearance for everyone). To our contemporaries they seem outdated, testifying to inert, “illiberal” church thinking. “After all, God looks at the heart, and not at a person’s appearance!” - they say. Church arguments seem unconvincing to them.
However, in the spiritual life of a Christian, everything matters: appearance, behavior, and internal structure. And these days, the requirements for appearance not only have not lost their meaning, but have also acquired a new meaning.
The Holy Scripture says: “A woman must not wear men’s clothing, and a man must not put on a woman’s clothing, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God” (Deut. 22:5). This was also the teaching of the Church Fathers: Tertullian, St. Cyprian of Carthage, and St. Ambrose of Milan. Agree, after all, clothing should correspond to gender, age and place, and most importantly, to Christian identity.
Priest Vladimir Shlykov
Hello Father! Please tell me one question. When I buried my mother, I dressed her in something old and ugly (unfortunately, I didn’t know about the customs), and now my conscience is tormenting me. I have already bought a new beautiful outfit for her, but I don’t know what to do with it. Tell me what to do.
Natalia
Don’t worry, it’s better to give the new dress to someone close to your mother or someone simply in need to commemorate her soul.
Deacon Ilia Kokin
I bought a dress for a wedding, white with red flowers, my husband had a red shirt. I heard that the priest can refuse a wedding. Previously, in Rus', young ladies in red dresses got married. Will they marry us now? I really want to get married.
Julia
Of course, the priest is unlikely to refuse a wedding because of the color of the dress; this is not specified anywhere. The main thing in a Wedding is not the color of the dress, but the very meaning of this Sacrament, which creates a new Christian family. You can find detailed information about it, including on our website, following the links http://site/Arhiv/??cid=2&id =264
Deacon Ilia Kokin
Hello, father! One question bothers me. My ex-husband and I divorced and divorced 2.5 years ago. We lived together for almost 12 years. We have been in court for almost a year now over the division of our joint home. I went through a lot during this time. I ask the Lord to enlighten him, so that my ex-husband stops doing evil to me. After the wedding, the dress and ring remained. One day I decided to collect the rings that he gave and take them to church. I asked them to decorate the Miraculous Icon of the Kazan Mother of God with them, which I love very much and feel helped by. And then I accidentally heard that you can’t give your wedding ring to anyone, especially to the Mother of God, otherwise I supposedly “got married” to her. I want a family again, I love one person. What should I do? Did I do something wrong? And what to do with the dress? I tried to sell it, but for six months there was not a single person willing to buy it...
Natalia
Hello, Natalya! I think that if you think carefully yourself, you will understand that you will not be able to “get married” to the Most Holy Theotokos. Moreover, simply by giving a ring to decorate Her icon. They donated a ring - and thank God! Do not forget to turn to the Mother of God in prayer yourself. You are free to do as you wish with your dress.
Priest Alexander Gumerov
Hello, father, bless. My question is: is it possible to sell the wedding dress I wore in the church?
Olga
There are no church regulations or rules in this regard, and throw away superstitions and forget about them. Another thing is that for most women, a wedding dress is a symbol of new life, purity of thoughts and desires, joy and love, which many strive to preserve as a memory of a joyful event. I hope this desire of yours is not dictated by something negative in your relationship with your spouse, and you are not going to get a divorce and run away in different directions? Or is this how you plan to solve your financial difficulties? In any case, think before you implement what you have planned, and I would advise - it’s better to save it, remembering when you look at it one of the happiest days of your life.
Priest Alexander Babushkin
Father bless! I have a question. Modern fashion is focused on immoral clothing. In this regard, I have difficulty purchasing skirts and dresses of decent length on the market (I live in a village). I like Muslim clothing, long dresses, skirts. Is it possible for an Orthodox Christian woman to purchase and wear Muslim clothing?
Elena
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God bless you!
I don’t quite understand what you mean by the term “Muslim clothing”? After all, not everything sewn by Muslim hands is ritual, directly related to a person’s religiosity. Yes, in general, the clothes are Tatar, Uzbek - brighter than Russian, but it does not necessarily imply wearing, for example, a burqa. Of course, it is impossible for an Orthodox woman to wear clothes directly associated with Islam (hijab, etc.). But I think, most likely, the question is not posed that way. You just need to take the trouble to choose the one that suits your taste or, as has been customary for centuries, sew it yourself not only for yourself, but also for the whole family. After all, the supposedly universal tradition of buying ready-made clothes has existed for no more than 50 years. But little has changed in village life over the years. Unless people... Well, it’s time to learn at least to a small extent what our ancestors were fluent in - sewing, knitting, cooking, and housekeeping in general. Very soon, when your neighbors eat exclusively products with the Doshirak brand and wear tasteless clothes from popular brands, your children will learn from you and rejoice: “Mom can do everything!” God help you.
Archpriest Ilia Shapiro
Good afternoon, this is the second time I’m writing to you and I really want to get an answer. Please tell me why the church is not open late in the evening, why you can’t come to the temple at night and pray, why they don’t let people there, it turns out that it’s almost impossible to talk to the priest, because he can only do this in the presence of other people... And one more thing one question - I will soon have a baby, and we plan to have a wedding on April 21, immediately after the end of Lent, without a wedding for now, and my grandmother alone advised not to have a wedding until Radonitsa, she says that neither you yourself will live, nor your children will have a life , although all their lives they knew that weddings were held on the Red Hill... and how does the church feel about pregnant women wearing a white dress and veil, are there any prohibitions in this area? Thanks in advance for your answer, I really hope you can help me...
2. I apologize, but I have one more question - I was baptized under one name, and then, apparently for security purposes, I was baptized a second time, in the church they said that I had never been baptized, but the name on my passport remained the same, now The question is - will such a sin affect me? I was little when this procedure was performed and didn’t quite understand, and now I don’t even know under which name to light a candle for my health, in the end I put two, for two names, but this is not right... what should I do?
Inna
Hello Inna, sorry for the delay in response. Churches are usually open from morning until evening services. There is no such practice for a church to be open all day long. Even in monasteries where monks live and they don’t seem to have to go home, the church is closed after the evening service. But this does not mean that God stops hearing our prayers - you can pray anytime and anywhere. As for the wedding, I think they may well meet you halfway, because white is not only a symbol of virginity, but also of joy. As for the wedding date, you are right - traditionally people get married starting on St. Thomas Week (or “Red Hill”), but you can postpone the wedding for one or two weeks. Now about Baptism. Of course, being baptized twice is unacceptable, but let’s leave this on the conscience of those who did this to you for some superstitious reasons. By our actions we do not force God to give us the grace of Baptism a second time. I am sure that what happened will not affect you in any way. So you can honor both saints and, accordingly, pray to them and light candles, but you need to use the name that was given to you at Baptism for the first time.
Deacon Ilia Kokin
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God helps those who marry in church throughout their entire life journey. The sacrament of marriage is most often performed on the wedding day. A wedding is an event that gives a special solemnity to the wedding day. This is an incredibly beautiful event. But what kind of dress should you wear to get married so that not only the holiday will be beautiful, but your life will be truly lived? How not to make a mistake when choosing an outfit? What kind of dresses does the church allow?
What dress can you wear for a wedding?
You can't walk down the aisle in just any outfit. It has its own rules and foundations. So the decoration in which you go to church should not be overly revealing. The church does not welcome exposed parts of the body. What kind of dress do you need for a wedding?
Here you will need a knee-length outfit. Of course, on her most important day, the bride wants to look sexy. You can do this: buy vestments for both the registry office and the church. But if funds do not allow, and you want to get married, then you will have to choose a modest outfit or complement a revealing outfit with a cape or a modest bolero. Open hands should be covered with gloves.
Wedding decoration can be made from a variety of fabrics. Chiffon, lace, satin - all this is suitable. But it’s better to avoid sparkles, beads and rhinestones. However, this does not mean that the vestment should be overly simple. A luxurious addition to the outfit is the train. In the case of the Orthodox Church, such an addition is not very appropriate, but for the Catholic Church the train is just perfect.
What dress can you wear for a wedding? Here it is worth knowing how to choose the right vestment. Listen to the following recommendations:
- Strict models are best suited for weddings. Under no circumstances should you wear vulgar attire.
- The vestment must cover the knees. However, this does not mean that it should be on the floor.
- The vestment may have a small cutout.
- Only an outfit with sleeves is suitable for a wedding. The sleeve can be long or short. A lot depends on the style of the dress. You can buy temporary sleeves. When going to church, you need to fasten your sleeves, but at the registry office you can unfasten them.
There are many brides who dream of a short wedding dress, but do not want to buy two outfits. A transforming dress will be a real lifesaver. In just a couple of seconds, you can turn a long vestment into a short one and vice versa. These dresses are offered in a variety of styles. You can purchase, for example, an outfit with a full skirt or a “mermaid tail.”
Please note that it is important not only to choose the right outfit, but also to remember to cover your head. You cannot enter church bareheaded. The bride's head can be covered with a scarf or veil. It is better to refuse the hat. Do not forget that crowns are used in the wedding process. They are placed on the heads like crowns or carried over the heads of the couple. Be sure to check with the church in advance how this will happen in your case. And taking this information into account, choose a suitable hairstyle for yourself. Only in this case will the crown and you look beautiful.
Dress color
Wedding dresses come in a variety of colors. The choice here is simply huge. But what color should the wedding dress be?
The church accepts white and a variety of other light-colored decorations. Purple, green or red vestments are not suitable for the ceremony in church. The wedding vestment should not have any dark or bright inserts. White decorations are great for those getting married for the first time. But what dress should a married woman wear to her wedding?
A woman who is already married should choose a wedding dress that is made in pink and light blue. Separately, it is worth noting the ivory tone decoration. This outfit can also be worn by that representative of the fair half of humanity who is getting married for the first time. A married woman should wear it if a magnificent celebration is planned. If the holiday will take place in a modest circle, then it is quite possible to choose the most ordinary vestments. A dress of burgundy, chocolate or dark blue would even be appropriate here.
White color is a symbol of innocence. On a married woman who already has children, and on a pregnant bride, a dress of this color will simply look awkward. Colored vestments are also not suitable for weddings.
It is very important to choose the right shoes for your wedding attire. It is best if these are closed shoes. Shoes should be as modest as possible. A heel is allowed, but it should not be very high and stable. Please note that you will have to spend more than one hour in the church. High, uncomfortable heels will make your feet very tired.
Now you know what a wedding dress should be, so you will look decent in church!
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