Give me some water to drink, otherwise I’m so hungry that I have nowhere to sleep. You want to eat so much that there is nowhere to spend the night Hammer as an argument

This expression perfectly suits the situation that I wanted to describe..

No matter how funny it may sound, living in Greece, we don’t swim in the sea every day. Once a year my mother and her nephew come, we rent an apartment and take the children out to sunbathe. We have a noisy and cheerful company of mom, me, my two daughters and nephew.

We have been coming to the same apartment for several years now, the owner knows us well and books us our favorite room: the pool is just a stone's throw away and the sea is nearby. This hotel has 30 rooms, the area is quite large and is mainly visited by families with children. This year there were especially many children, so our tomboys quickly found company.

Most of all they spent time with the girl, let's call her Dasha. The new friend very quickly organized various games, our children looked into her mouth and walked with their tails, which is no wonder, because Dasha was eight, and ours were six and four, respectively.

The girl’s parents looked quite adequate and gave the impression of a quite prosperous family: they always said hello, smiling, pleasant people. Dasha had a two-year-old sister who was very difficult to put to sleep during the day. At this time, and throughout her sister’s sleep, Dasha was supposed to be absent from the room and be quieter than water.

The children played outside all day, occasionally stopping in for a snack or drink. Dasha always ran in with our children and asked for water, explaining that her sister and mom were sleeping, dad was resting on the balcony and she couldn’t go into the room (we, naturally, didn’t ask, the girl blurted out everything herself, as if making excuses). Of course, I don’t mind pouring a glass of water for my child, but the explanation seemed a little wild to me. Then Dasha came running and asked to go to the toilet, giving the same reasoning. My mother and I were, of course, surprised, but they let us go to the toilet. (And if we weren’t there, where would she have gone to the toilet, I wonder?) The next day the same thing happened again. most, but at that time my one and a half year old daughter was sleeping with us and a visit to the toilet was politely refused.

On the street, the girl told all the kids not to make noise, because my sister was sleeping, and if she woke up, they would kill her, and when my child was sleeping and I asked the children to play quietly, she bawled louder than anyone else.

I was tormented by one question: how can you intimidate and train a child so that he is afraid to come home if his sister is sleeping? Do not allow him to go into the room to drink water or go to the toilet!! Moreover, it was the first floor with a large veranda, where you could leave a bottle of water for your child on the table... My four-year-old daughter knows that she needs to be quiet when her sister is sleeping, but I can’t imagine my child going to for strangers to drink water or pee.

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People ask to spend the night in different ways. The hero of the old joke began his request modestly and from afar, but got to the heart of the matter quickly enough: “Give me some water to drink, otherwise I’m so hungry that there’s nowhere to sleep.” But in reality, some citizens do not make do with verbal requests and add more weighty arguments.

HAMMER AS AN ARGUMENT

So thirty-year-old citizen K., going to his friend’s place to spend the night, grabbed a bottle of vodka. When the alcohol was happily dealt with, the owner of the apartment opaquely hinted that it was time to know the honor. Like, dear guests, aren’t you tired of your hosts?

Citizen K. was not tired of the owner, which the guest tried to convey to the consciousness of his victim. As the most powerful argument, citizen K. used a hammer. Four blows to the head with a construction tool were enough to end the discussion. The owner of the apartment collapsed dead under the pressure of such arguments, and the upset guest went wherever he looked.

UNEXPECTED REVELATIONS

And the eyes of citizen K. looked towards his friend citizen L.

A man came to ask for an overnight stay or just relieve stress - it doesn’t matter. Citizen L. did not wait for the tragic development of events and delve into the difficult experiences of her friend, and as soon as the scandal began, she called the police.

Citizen K., apparently, really liked the law enforcement officers, because it was to them that he informed them that a corpse was waiting for them in one of the apartments in the city.

It was difficult to believe, but the police still went to the specified address, where they found the body of the murdered apartment owner. Citizen K. at first categorically refused to admit that the corpse was his doing. But then I remembered where I put the hammer and other details of that day. The detainee had already been convicted of murder, but after his release in 2005 he did not come to the attention of law enforcement agencies.

To give or not to give to the poor - everyone decides this question on their own. And in each specific case the solution may be different. Let's take a closer look at the situation: a woman with a child enters a subway car and asks for your help. How to help? Depends on you. And often it also depends on whether you want to save the child or financially support his “owners”

The case of Natasha
For three hours now we had been sitting with Natasha at the Kievsky station. In her arms, two-month-old Vanechka squeaked from time to time. Natasha said that she really wanted to return to her parents in Ukraine. She gave birth to Vanya in Moscow and soon realized that she couldn’t last here with him. But there was no money for a return ticket. Then she wrote a sign: “Help raise money” - and with the child in her arms she walked through the subway cars.
I approached her right in the carriage and offered to buy a ticket. She agreed. “What a poor fellow! - I thought. “So exhausted that she doesn’t have the strength to somehow show joy!” But just in case, I still decided to check the documents. Seems okay: Natalya Ivanovna Kovach, 16 years old, place of registration is the city of Rakhiv, Transcarpathian region. (I asked the police officers on duty at the station to check Natasha’s Ukrainian passport and the certificate from the hospital about the birth of the child. Two paper icons were also included in the passport.) One thing is strange: according to the papers, it turned out that Natasha arrived in Moscow in the eighth month of pregnancy. But what doesn't happen in this world.
We are waiting for the train. To clear my conscience, I decided to put her on the train myself. But for now I kept the ticket with me - you never know. Suddenly Natasha gets up: “I’m going to the toilet.” - “Where are you going with the child? Leave it to me." - “Nothing, I’m already used to it.” After half an hour of waiting, I realized that Natasha would not return.
Then, in a conversation with Tatyana Kuznetsova, the head of the public organization “Territory of Childhood,” which helps orphans, I remembered one more detail: during all these three hours, Natasha did not part with her “Help!” sign for a second.
“These are professional beggars. Most likely, Natasha was specially invited to “work” in Moscow as a beggar while she was pregnant. With an eye to the fact that she will give birth here and will beg,” Tatyana comments on my story. The fact is that “mothers” with babies are served more readily. According to operational data, such a woman earns from one and a half to three thousand rubles a day.

How to help your child
A woman with a child in her arms asking for help is an appeal to the mind and heart. To submit or not to submit? The problem is not even that most of these beggars are not real, but that their children are destined for the same future. They have been working, as can be seen from the story with Natasha and her son, since infancy... But even if it is obvious that this beggar woman is a professional, the child may be better off with his own mother, even if she makes her living by deception.
Another question is that, according to Tatyana Kuznetsova, many of these children do not belong to those “mothers” who beg with them on the subway. Police officers had to deal with the fact that pseudo-beggars mix diphenhydramine into the milk of infants so that they do not interfere with their “work.” The babies also sleep because of exhaustion: “mothers” do not have time to feed them or walk with them. As a result, children develop pathologies. Here are some real life examples.
This spring one of the project volunteers saw a woman on the subway with a four-month-old baby in her arms. The baby didn't even blink. When she called the police, the beggar woman did not have documents for the child. They were both escorted to the department. Soon the child’s “mother” asked to smoke, went out and disappeared into the water. The baby developed a cleft palate and could hardly feed himself. Activists found people who wanted to adopt a child.
Another case - about a pseudo-widower. He stood at the VDNH metro station with a two-year-old child in a kangaroo. The baby squirmed and cried. A participant in the “Childhood Territory” project (this time a different one) called the police. About half an hour later, while the identity of the activist and the “widower” was being clarified at the department, the “deceased” mother appeared. The boy had to be sent to the hospital for health reasons. According to the police, within a short time they caught three beggar women with the same baby. Another beggar was detained for child abuse - subway passengers noticed that the boy was beaten. There was also such a case: a beggar woman was caught with a dead baby in her arms.

Recommendations for those who care
What to do if it is obvious that the child needs your help? Is there a legal way to prosecute beggars for child exploitation?
There is Article 151 of the Criminal Code, which provides for imprisonment for up to six years for involving children in begging. But there is no penalty for USING children. And it is possible to INVOLVE a child in begging only if he independently evaluates what is happening. That is, the baby cannot be involved in anything. In addition, proof of systematicity is required. To do this, the same beggar must be detained three times during the calendar year. As a result, Article 151 turns out to be ineffective. In 2001, 29 criminal cases were initiated and brought to court in Moscow, in 2002 - 27 cases, in 2003 - 24, and in 2004 - only 6 cases.
Several years ago, a Department for Minors Affairs was created on the Moscow Metro, which also deals with the detention of beggars with children. As of June 13, 263 such arrests had been made since the beginning of the year. The head of the department, Sergei Kuguk, complained that passengers almost never call the police if they encounter beggars. At the same time, begging in the subway is considered an offense, and police officers have the right and even the obligation to detain beggars. True, practice shows that they do this with great reluctance. But if you want to help your child, don't let this bother you. This is what Tatyana Kuznetsova advises to do in such cases.
No need to approach beggars - you will scare them away. And immediately go to the police room and demand the arrest of the suspicious beggar. Don’t rush to leave yourself: you will need a witness! If a police officer refuses to help you, say that you will complain to the head of the department, Colonel Sergei Kuguk. Show knowledge of the law: mention Article 151 of the Criminal Code and Article 5.35 of the Code of Administrative Offenses (“failure to fulfill obligations for the maintenance and upbringing of minors”), under which beggars can be held accountable.
The police will check your documents and take written explanations. It is important here to point out that the beggar woman had a sign or that you saw her being served. Then the beggar must be taken to the police department on the metro. If there are no documents for the child, he is sent to the hospital. Until the mother arrives there with documents (and if not the mother, then she will not arrive), he is registered in an orphanage or a baby home. By the way, the police must call an ambulance in any case so that a doctor can examine the child.
If it turns out that the suspect has been detained twice before, prosecution under Art. 151 of the Criminal Code. In addition, a beggar can immediately be brought to administrative responsibility under Art. 5.35 Code of Administrative Offences.
If you see a beggar woman not at the station, but in the carriage, you can use emergency communication with the driver or call the control telephone number or the police duty station (you will find telephone numbers at the end of the article). You will need to provide the train route and carriage number.

Where to contact
Before 19.00 you need to call 921-93-50 to the Department of Juvenile Affairs of the Internal Affairs Directorate on the Moscow Metro. In addition, each line has 24-hour emergency telephone numbers:
222-17-63 -- Sokolnicheskaya;
158-78-84 – Zamoskvoretskaya;
222-11-43 – Filevskaya;
222-26-48 -- Ring and Kalininskaya;
222-78-10 – Taganskaya;
222-75-78 -- Arbatsko-Pokrovskaya;
684-99-49 -- Kaluga-Rizhskaya;
222-11-83 -- Serpukhovsko-Timiryazevskaya;
351-80-91 -- Maryinsko-Chkalovskaya.

Anna PALCHEVA

Every person must decide this question by listening to the voice of his conscience. There is a known case with one saint who gave his clothes to a beggar, and then saw that they were being sold at the market. He was very upset, but not because the beggar had deceived him, but because he thought that the Lord had not accepted his alms. But then Christ appeared to him in the very clothes that he had given to the beggar. After all, these are the words of the Lord: “... I was naked, and you clothed Me” (Matthew 25:36). Usually they ask for Christ’s sake and give for Christ’s sake. And if a person gives alms for the sake of Christ, out of compassion, without trying to evaluate the situation, the Lord will accept this alms. And he won’t ask us how or what the beggar will spend the money on.
Some people do not give alms to drunks, some do not give to anyone, but help people in some other way. For example, a large family, a family without a father - that is, people about whom it is known for sure that they need help. After all, there really are “professionals” among the beggars.
The words of the Gospel, “Give to him who asks you” (Matthew 5:42), should probably be understood in the sense that you need to give to those who really need help. This does not mean giving alcoholics a bottle, drug addicts drugs, or suicides poison. On the other hand, if a person is suspicious of everyone, he will eventually harden his heart and stop helping anyone. There are people who do not help anyone on the basis that “beggars are all deceivers.” But this is how they cover up their reluctance to share.
As for the exploitation of children - if there really is such a mafia in Moscow - you need to be very careful here. It seems to me that this is not a question like: to be or not to be? Each time you need to solve the problem anew, proceed from the real state of affairs and pray to God. You just don’t need to judge those people who beg for alms. What is important here is not some kind of legalistic position, but sympathy, compassion, love.

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