The time for miracles has passed, and we
We have to look for reasons
Everything that happens in the world.
W. Shakespeare
So, dear reader, you are holding this book in your hands. Why this one? Maybe your choice was unconscious? Or were you attracted by the title? Or maybe you are already familiar with our works and they have left some kind of mark on your soul?
In any case, we are glad to welcome you to the pages of this book and hope that you will not only have the strength and patience to read it to the end, but also put into practice the ideas and recommendations contained in it. We are confident that this will bring you tangible benefits.
What is our book about? Let's answer this question right away so that you understand whether it is worth reading such a voluminous work or will it be a waste of time?
It is human nature to strive for something. A successful career, prosperity, love, family, children, education, recreation, creativity - this is not a complete list of our everyday needs. I want everything to be fine. But, unfortunately, not everyone succeeds. Maybe you have sometimes stopped the mad rush through life towards these or similar goals and asked yourself: why am I doing all this? And have you found the answer to this question?
Unfortunately, most of us live in a world of problems and experiences (mostly of a negative nature). Why is all this happening? And is it possible to make sure that problems are solved easily and quickly, the necessary goals are achieved and life brings only pleasure? How to learn to live calmly and joyfully, without unnecessary worries?
If this and other questions have crossed your mind, then our book is for you.
This book is the first step into the Intelligent World. To begin with, let us explain what an unreasonable or irrational world is. This is the world in which most of us live. This is a world in which people are unhappy with life and with each other. They are constantly striving somewhere, often without realizing where. They want something all the time, but most goals remain pipe dreams.
This book will give you a chance to get out of this irrational world and take a step into the Reasonable World, where you yourself will be the master of your life. A rational world is a world in which you can make informed decisions, because you know the causes and consequences of certain life events. Not the hectic and unpredictable world in which most people live. If something doesn't work out for you, you will know why. If you want something, you will know how to achieve it.
Is all this really possible? We claim that this is accessible to almost anyone. In any case, to those who do not consider it difficult to read our book to the end.
You can find some of the thoughts presented here in three earlier books: “How to shape the events of your life with the help of the power of thought”, “What to do when everything is not the way you want” and “How to cleanse your court of karma”. Here we have combined these blocks into a single system of views that allows a person to understand the reasons for most of the events that happen to him and learn to manage them. How successful this turned out is for you to judge.
Experiences - from an unknown future. Since you will learn to make informed decisions after mastering the ideas presented here, you will have no reason to worry. After all, any experience is a lack of understanding of the underlying causes of the problems you have. And forecasting your future troubles arising from this uncertainty.
You do not know the patterns by which certain events in your life occur. And the unknown is always scary. Previously, people were afraid of thunder, lightning, and fire that they did not understand. Today they are frightened by the unpredictable future, which, it seems, does not depend on the will, desires and practical efforts of man.
In fact, this is not true at all. We create our own future! Well, of course, not entirely ourselves. Many forces unknown to us are actively involved in this. And if you know the laws and requirements that guide these forces, then you will be able to consciously predict your future. It will become known, and you will have no reason to worry!
This book is the rules for moving through life. We hope that this book will become for you something like the rules of the road - only rules for moving through life. Here you will find those unspoken laws that govern our entire lives. These are the very traffic lights, signs and indicators that people often do not notice or do not want to notice. In this book we will try to make them visible and understandable.
How you use the information received is your own business - a person has great freedom of choice. You can, of course, rush through a red light. You can go to where the “brick” hangs. Take risks if you have health! But if you want to remain safe and sound, then you cannot do without following the rules. Moreover, if you meet certain requirements that the Higher Powers place on us, then you can count on receiving support from them. Sounds tempting, doesn't it?
Our theory is only the first step towards a great Goal. The book sets out a system of views on the world, which we called the General Theory of Karmic Interactions. It reveals the requirements that the Higher powers place on a person coming into this world. Fulfilling these requirements makes a person’s life calmer and more comfortable.
Of course, our “General Theory...” so far contains only a small fraction of the system of knowledge that could lay claim to this loud name. These are only the first and timid steps towards systematizing the knowledge that a person needs to consciously manage his life.
Someday a person will learn all the rules and laws of the existence of our material and immaterial worlds and will consciously manage his life. Life of the current and, possibly, the future. The development of such a system of intelligent relationships between man and the forces of the Unmanifested World is our distant and great Goal.
Worlds Manifested and Unmanifested. We would like to apologize in advance to those of our readers who adhere to atheistic views on life, because in this book we will use a number of special terms, including the concept of “The Unmanifest World.” What does it mean. Our world is the Manifested world. That is, one that can be touched, measured, seen or heard. But this, as you understand, is not the whole world.
Our senses are limited in their capabilities, so scientists and inventors are constantly coming up with new devices or ways to get to know our Manifested World better. But the capabilities of the devices are limited by our level of knowledge, technology, etc.
Every year (or even day) we learn something new about our world. And apparently, this will continue for quite some time. That is, in addition to our Manifested world, there is also an Unmanifested world, which we have not yet learned to sense or measure.
What is this Unmanifested World? Yes, everything that is unknown to us today. And much more is unknown than is known. For example, each of you from time to time is visited by questions: is there a God, angels, demons, aliens, etc.? If so, what are they? What are the limits of human capabilities? Why do we live? Will there be a Last Judgment? Why did something suddenly happen to me that couldn’t happen, because it could never happen? And so on.
Anyone can come up with many questions for which there are no answers with evidence. There are as many versions as you like, but no exact answers.
Therefore, in the book we will use the term “Unmanifested World”, which will have the broadest meaning. With this term we denote everything that is unknown to man. This is in a broad sense.
Part 1
We remove obstacles on the way to the desired goal
This book is about how to become more successful on the path to your desired goals.
The natural state of any person is to strive for something, set some goals and achieve them. The unfulfillment of our aspirations gives rise to dissatisfaction and other claims towards ourselves, towards people or towards all of Life in general.
Meanwhile, a person is born for joy, development, self-knowledge and spiritual evolution.
It is clear that not everyone is able to experience these feelings to the fullest. Some are born and live their whole lives in poverty, illness, conditions of restricted freedom and other deprivations. Others are born and live in conditions of high material security and security. It is clear that the latter have more opportunities to fulfill their high destiny, since they do not have to fight for survival. Or necessary, but to a lesser extent.
But life shows that having a stable income, your own home, a car and other material goods often does not make a person happier. Why?
This usually happens because people, regardless of their current situation, always striving for something else, they want to achieve something, change or improve exactly that area of life where they are not succeeding.
As one of Parkinson’s laws states, “the level of a person’s needs grows at a faster pace than the level of his income,” that is, it is common for a person to want something all the time, no matter how much he has. This is fine.
But not everyone succeeds in realizing their desires. As a result, instead of joy and self-knowledge, people are immersed in various kinds of negative experiences that do not at all decorate their lives. Is it possible to somehow change this situation? Our experience shows that it is possible.
Everyone wants something
Most of the desires of people in our materialistic world are aimed at improving material well-being, increasing security, achieving success and organizing their personal lives. People live by desires. Desires make our lives rich and fulfilling.
Even if a person has moved away from ordinary worldly desires and immersed himself in spiritual or religious activity, he still has desires - for example, to quickly “enlighten”, to quickly communicate with God or someone else - within the framework of his belief system. And even if a person does not know what he wants, then, most likely, he wants to know what could become desirable for him.
There are people without desires and goals, but they are few, and we will not consider this way of life. Let's be realistic, that is, let's focus on how to get the most out of Life and quickly, without spending excessive effort on it. That is, how to become more effective in achieving your desired goals. It turns out that this is quite possible, you just need to remove obstacles from your path.
Chapter 1
What gets in the way
Most people are only as happy as they decide to be.A. Lincoln
If a person is born for joy and self-knowledge, then what can prevent him from achieving any desired goal that will make his existence even more joyful?
Theoretically, nothing, but practically, many obstacles stand in the way of any person.
Let's consider only basic internal limiting factors that block the achievement of the desired result, without regard to economics, politics, natural conditions and other external circumstances of life. There are not many such internal barriers, but they have a huge impact on the lives of the vast majority of people.
People step on the same rake, passing them on to each other by inheritance, friendship and in many other ways.
Different strategies for achieving goals
Theoretically, two different strategies are possible to achieve any desired goal.
The first is the path of strength, struggle, overcoming difficulties.
In the animal world, an analogue is the behavior of a bison or wild boar, which are not afraid of anyone and demolish all obstacles on the way to their goal. Some people act this way in life, persistently and passionately overcoming numerous obstacles. We can say that their whole life is devoted to struggle. They even like obstacles because they allow them to experience life in its entirety - as long as they are healthy, of course.
It is clear that achieving success on this path requires considerable courage, inner confidence in victory, great energy, and innate leadership qualities. Not every person has such a set of qualities, so there are not many people who are winners.
The second option is the path to calmly and confidently achieving your goal., practically eliminating participation in conflicts, struggles, and overcoming great difficulties.
This is the path of a sage who does not waste his energy fighting people who do not realize what they are doing.
The second path suits a much larger number of people who do not have outstanding leadership qualities. We will consider this one.
We will learn to move towards the desired goal, listening to the signals that Life constantly sends us, and using its help and support.
Life interacts with us all the time, but we are not used to listening to its prompts and giving it the right orders. Nobody taught us this, so we make many mistakes, which are the reason that our desires do not come true.
We live in a world of abundance
In principle, our world has almost everything so that any person can enjoy life and develop spiritually. It contains many material goods: money, cars, housing, clothes, food and much more.
There is a lot of beauty, happiness, love, men and women, children, joy, work, creativity and everything else in the world.
Another thing is that all these innumerable riches are distributed completely unevenly, some have something in obvious excess, others, accordingly, have something in short supply.
Why does this happen and is it possible to change it, but not by forcefully dividing everything among everyone - we have already gone down this path - but in some other way? Most likely it is possible.
This will happen if each person does not wait for mercy from God, the government or some other external sources of benefits, but begins to use his potentially enormous capabilities to create the life he wants to have.
In principle, people do this, but at the same time they make many mistakes that lead to disappointing results.
Therefore, the first thing you need to do on the way to your desired goals is stop making the same mistakes. To begin with, let’s simply list them, and then consider each in more detail.
We unknowingly invite trouble for ourselves
The first and most common mistake is that we unknowingly invite trouble for ourselves. We do not monitor our thoughts, but they are the sources of the reality in which we live.
Thoughts generate actions, actions generate results. Our endless fears and doubts are a direct order of what we receive a little later and then struggle with for a long time and unsuccessfully. It would seem that man is a rational being, why does he do this? Maybe we are a civilization of masochists? But not everyone does this; some people are good at creating quite decent things and events for themselves. It would probably be nice for the rest of the “martyrs” to learn to behave the same way.
In the second chapter of the first part of the book, we will look at how people unconsciously use their potential to create all sorts of troubles for themselves.
© Sviyash A.
© Astrel Publishing House LLC
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Introduction
The time for miracles has passed, and we
We have to look for reasons
Everything that happens in the world.W. Shakespeare
So, dear reader, you are holding this book in your hands. Why this one? Maybe your choice was unconscious? Or were you attracted by the title? Or maybe you are already familiar with my other works and they have left some kind of mark on your soul?
In any case, we are glad to welcome you to the pages of this book and hope that you will have enough strength and patience not only to read it to the end, but also apply in practice the ideas and recommendations contained in it.
We are confident that this will bring you tangible benefits.
What is our book about?
Let's answer this question right away so that you understand whether it is worth reading such a voluminous work or whether it will be a waste of time.
It is human nature to strive for something. A successful career, prosperity, love, family, children, education, recreation, creativity, health - this is not a complete list of our everyday needs. I want everything to be fine.
Unfortunately, most of us live in a world of problems and experiences (mostly of a negative nature). Why is all this happening?
And is it possible to make sure that problems are solved easily and quickly, the necessary goals are achieved, and life gives you only pleasure? How to learn to live calmly and joyfully, without unnecessary worries?
If these and similar questions have crossed your mind, then our book is for you.
The first step into the Intelligent World
To begin with, let us explain what an unreasonable, or irrational, world is.
This is the world in which most of us live. This is a world in which people are unhappy with life and with each other. They are constantly striving somewhere, often without realizing where. They want something all the time, but most of their goals remain pipe dreams.
Our book will give you a chance to get out of this irrational world and take a step into the Reasonable World. A world in which you can make informed decisions because you know the causes and consequences of certain events.
If something doesn't work out for you, you will know why. If you want something, you will know how to achieve it.
YOU WILL BECOME THE REAL OWNER OF YOUR LIFE.
Is all this really possible? We claim that this is accessible to almost anyone. In any case, to those who do not consider it difficult to read our book to the end.
Key Ideas
All provisions of this book are based on several basic ideas.
We can say that the Reasonable World is a system of views according to which:
– every person is born for joy and spiritual development;
– any person potentially has unlimited possibilities for creating his life. but in most cases uses them in the strangest way;
– the situation in which each of us finds ourselves is the best that we have been able to create for ourselves today. this is the result of our efforts alone, so we need to start enjoying it now. you need to rejoice right now, and not later, when something very important happens (a husband, a job, money, housing, etc., etc.);
- There is no one but us who creates problems for us. we ourselves are responsible for everything;
– every person can change their situation for the better at any time. to do this, he only needs to realize how he created problems for himself and change his attitude towards this situation;
– our consciousness and subconsciousness, in the form of obvious and hidden thoughts and attitudes, determine our actions, and our actions form the existence with which we are dissatisfied. This means that by changing our thoughts, we will change our actions and our reality.
That's all, actually. Although there are many practical recommendations on how to implement all this.
This book is the rules for moving through life.
Perhaps our book will become for you something like the rules of the road - only movement through life. In it you will find those unspoken laws and rules that govern our entire lives. These are the very traffic lights, signs and indicators that people often do not notice or do not want to notice. We will try to make them visible and understandable to you.
How you use the information received is your own business - a person has great freedom of choice. You can, of course, rush through a red light. You can go to where the “brick” hangs. Take risks if you have health!
But if you want to remain safe and sound, then you cannot do without following the rules. Moreover, if you do not make typical mistakes, you can count on Life’s help in achieving your goals. Sounds tempting, doesn't it?
Who is it suitable for?
The technology of Intelligent Life is not suitable for everyone. For whom can it be effective?
– For those who are tired of fighting Life for their ideals or goals and would like to live a calmer and more successful life.
– For someone who is ready to take responsibility for the events that happen to him.
– For those who do not want to gain their own experience of mistakes and are ready to take into account the achievements of others.
– For those who are ready to work on themselves. Don’t just read a book and wait for a miracle, but work, that is, make certain efforts.
– For someone who has a certain intelligence, since the proposed belief system requires that a person first thinks and then acts. Most people act first and think later.
– For someone who is able to think rationally (logically) and act in accordance with consciously made decisions.
Jujit W. Wallerstein and
Joan B. Kelly
Consequences of parents' divorce:
The child's experiences during the period of late latency
Translation by E. Egorova
For some reason, the problem of the latent development of a child has not been studied deeply enough by psychologists, in contrast to the development of his younger and older brothers and sisters - during infancy and adulthood. Although no one disputes the special importance of latency for the formation of personality, which Erikson described as “a very decisive stage in the social formation of the child,” much less is known and understood about the relationships between parents and children during this intermediate period of development than the relationships in previous periods. or subsequent years thereafter. Moreover, relatively little attention has been paid to the various consequences of interrupted or inhibited development during latency. Although many school-aged children undergo treatment, the focus of research is usually on failures to resolve conflicts that arose earlier in development. Very little information about latency is contained in works devoted to the problems of adults; the condition of a person during this age period is almost not transmitted and is not restored in most of these studies. The fact that “we learn relatively little about latency from studying adults” is explained by Bornstein by the distorted and idealized picture that adults recreate in their memory when they recall the “ideal of latency,” namely the successful inhibition of instinctual impulses during this period.
Alexander Grigorievich Sviyash
REASONABLE WORLD or HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT EXCESSIVE EXPERIENCES Second edition, supplemented
Introduction
The time for miracles has passed, and we
We have to look for reasons
Everything that happens in the world.
W. Shakespeare
So, dear reader, you are holding this book in your hands. Why this one? Maybe your choice was unconscious? Or were you attracted by the title? Or maybe you are already familiar with our works and they have left some kind of mark on your soul?
In any case, we are glad to welcome you to the pages of this book and hope that you will not only have the strength and patience to read it to the end, but also put into practice the ideas and recommendations contained in it. We are confident that this will bring you tangible benefits.
What is our book about? Let's answer this question right away so that you understand whether it is worth reading such a voluminous work or will it be a waste of time?
It is human nature to strive for something. A successful career, prosperity, love, family, children, education, recreation, creativity - this is not a complete list of our everyday needs. I want everything to be fine. But, unfortunately, not everyone succeeds. Maybe you have sometimes stopped the mad rush through life towards these or similar goals and asked yourself: why am I doing all this? And have you found the answer to this question?
Unfortunately, most of us live in a world of problems and experiences (mostly of a negative nature). Why is all this happening? And is it possible to make sure that problems are solved easily and quickly, the necessary goals are achieved and life brings only pleasure? How to learn to live calmly and joyfully, without unnecessary worries?
If this and other questions have crossed your mind, then our book is for you.
This book is the first step into the Intelligent World. To begin with, let us explain what an unreasonable or irrational world is. This is the world in which most of us live. This is a world in which people are unhappy with life and with each other. They are constantly striving somewhere, often without realizing where. They want something all the time, but most goals remain pipe dreams.
This book will give you a chance to get out of this irrational world and take a step into the Reasonable World, where you yourself will be the master of your life. A rational world is a world in which you can make informed decisions, because you know the causes and consequences of certain life events. Not the hectic and unpredictable world in which most people live. If something doesn't work out for you, you will know why. If you want something, you will know how to achieve it.
Is all this really possible? We claim that this is accessible to almost anyone. In any case, to those who do not consider it difficult to read our book to the end.
You can find some of the thoughts presented here in three earlier books: “How to shape the events of your life with the help of the power of thought”, “What to do when everything is not the way you want” and “How to cleanse your court of karma”. Here we have combined these blocks into a single system of views that allows a person to understand the reasons for most of the events that happen to him and learn to manage them. How successful this turned out is for you to judge.
Experiences - from an unknown future. Since you will learn to make informed decisions after mastering the ideas presented here, you will have no reason to worry. After all, any experience is a lack of understanding of the underlying causes of the problems you have. And forecasting your future troubles arising from this uncertainty.
You do not know the patterns by which certain events in your life occur. And the unknown is always scary. Previously, people were afraid of thunder, lightning, and fire that they did not understand. Today they are frightened by the unpredictable future, which, it seems, does not depend on the will, desires and practical efforts of man.
In fact, this is not true at all. We create our own future! Well, of course, not entirely ourselves. Many forces unknown to us are actively involved in this. And if you know the laws and requirements that guide these forces, then you will be able to consciously predict your future. It will become known, and you will have no reason to worry!
This book is the rules for moving through life. We hope that this book will become for you something like the rules of the road - only rules for moving through life. Here you will find those unspoken laws that govern our entire lives. These are the very traffic lights, signs and indicators that people often do not notice or do not want to notice. In this book we will try to make them visible and understandable.
How you use the information received is your own business - a person has great freedom of choice. You can, of course, rush through a red light. You can go to where the “brick” hangs. Take risks if you have health! But if you want to remain safe and sound, then you cannot do without following the rules. Moreover, if you meet certain requirements that the Higher Powers place on us, then you can count on receiving support from them. Sounds tempting, doesn't it?
Our theory is only the first step towards a great Goal. The book sets out a system of views on the world, which we called the General Theory of Karmic Interactions. It reveals the requirements that the Higher powers place on a person coming into this world. Fulfilling these requirements makes a person’s life calmer and more comfortable.
Of course, our “General Theory...” so far contains only a small fraction of the system of knowledge that could lay claim to this loud name. These are only the first and timid steps towards systematizing the knowledge that a person needs to consciously manage his life.
Someday a person will learn all the rules and laws of the existence of our material and immaterial worlds and will consciously manage his life. Life of the current and, possibly, the future. The development of such a system of intelligent relationships between man and the forces of the Unmanifested World is our distant and great Goal.
Worlds Manifested and Unmanifested. We would like to apologize in advance to those of our readers who adhere to atheistic views on life, because in this book we will use a number of special terms, including the concept of “The Unmanifest World.” What does it mean. Our world is the Manifested world. That is, one that can be touched, measured, seen or heard. But this, as you understand, is not the whole world.
Our senses are limited in their capabilities, so scientists and inventors are constantly coming up with new devices or ways to get to know our Manifested World better. But the capabilities of the devices are limited by our level of knowledge, technology, etc.
Every year (or even day) we learn something new about our world. And apparently, this will continue for quite some time. That is, in addition to our Manifested world, there is also an Unmanifested world, which we have not yet learned to sense or measure.
What is this Unmanifested World? Yes, everything that is unknown to us today. And much more is unknown than is known. For example, each of you from time to time is visited by questions: is there a God, angels, demons, aliens, etc.? If so, what are they? What are the limits of human capabilities? Why do we live? Will there be a Last Judgment? Why did something suddenly happen to me that couldn’t happen, because it could never happen? And so on.
Anyone can come up with many questions for which there are no answers with evidence. There are as many versions as you like, but no exact answers.
Therefore, in the book we will use the term “Unmanifested World”, which will have the broadest meaning. With this term we denote everything that is unknown to man. This is in a broad sense.
And in a narrow sense, we use this term to designate the place where, perhaps, there are intelligent entities that help (or hinder) us in moving through life. We will put forward some versions about the structure of this very Unmanifested World. Moreover, we will not invent everything from scratch. And we will try to somehow rely on the Christian tradition, that is, on the knowledge (or theories) that humanity has developed over the millennia of its existence.
Why do we use the term Creator? When addressing the Supreme Being himself, who created this world, we use the term “Creator” without indicating the name accepted in one or another religious system. We suggest turning to him with prayers or other rituals accepted in your belief system. Therefore, the system of knowledge outlined in our book can be used by Christians and Muslims, Buddhists and Hare Krishnas, atheists and Theosophists, etc. And if we indicated that one should pray, for example, only to Jesus Christ, then we would thereby exclude from its readers representatives of many other religious denominations. Why should they be so deprived?