Some girls feel sympathy for their bosses, admiring their masculinity and prudence, flexible mind and charm. It is not surprising that after a short period of regular meetings at work, a woman falls in love with the manager, dreaming of reciprocity. However, in the relationship between bosses and “subordinates” there are many nuances that interfere with favorable development love union. In some mild cases flirting does not bring the desired effect, and the employee who spoke about her feelings ends up fired.
Be careful what you wish for, because some bosses don’t start love relationship with colleagues. In this case, you risk losing your job
How to behave to avoid a negative outcome of events? How to get the manager's attention? How to make your boss fall in love with you? To answer the questions that worry many girls, you need to understand in detail the peculiarities of the relationship between the managers and employees of the company.
It is of primary importance to realize that the boss is a man who is characterized by typical habits, phrases and behavior of other representatives of the stronger half of humanity. In most cases, guys like sports, sexy girls and expensive cars. Men prefer to spend free time at comedy shows or gym, in the company of single friends or in a bar over a bottle of beer. Do not erect a man-made halo over your boss’s head, but rather study his character traits, behavioral signs, etc.
Clearly define your goals at the beginning of your journey - you should become the boss’s lover, and not just another powerful boss’s mistress
Functional tasks cannot be compared social significance And personal qualities spouses and lovers, so you should project in advance desired result. To promote career ladder It is enough to catch the manager in a drunken state, collecting incriminating evidence after a stormy night with a lustful boss. To create a strong family you need long time take a closer look at the person, daily interest the boss in the versatility of his inner world.
Remember that a leader is a self-sufficient or powerful, benevolent or secretive, open or mysterious man. The nature of guys at the genetic level predisposes them to pretty girls who are not deprived of a sense of humor and intelligence. If you master the “language” of your body and know how to attract the attention of representatives of the opposite sex, then making your boss fall in love with you will not be difficult. – driving force, to which even powerful and rebellious men obey.
Signs of sympathy for an interesting employee.
Teamwork is not just a labor-intensive process from Monday to Friday. Scandals and intrigues, insults and fun, likes and dislikes - and such a whirlwind happens almost every day. Colleagues are especially interested in discussions of emerging office romances between two employees. You can fall into the same trap if a man from the team is seriously interested in you. But how can you understand that a male colleague likes you if you don’t know his liking? This is what we will talk about.
Just imagine - you came to a team that is new to you, it is large and diverse. Great amount the eyes seem to be boring into you: someone looks at you with curiosity, someone arrogantly, someone ironically, but also friendly. The first test of “needle glances” must be patiently passed, so you are unlikely to immediately notice that someone looked at you with lust or with a spark of love.
Only later, when you join the team, you will intuitively feel who feels what towards you. With women - to hell with them, it can sometimes be difficult with them if they feel you are a competitor both in your career and in leadership among men. But just with men you will begin to think about what kind of behavior this or that one has, and what is on his mind in relation to you: purely business attitude, condescension as towards a young employee or hidden sympathy? This is the case if one of them is constantly in communication with you.
Male colleagues by psychotype
And now you’ve been working in this team for several days, and you’ve learned a little about everyone’s character. And men don’t ignore you. But take a closer look at everyone’s psychotype: how they react to your appearance. As a last resort, if you become friends with a female employee, ask her which of the men is good at what.
Frivolous ladies' man
What it does and how to understand it:
- He is the first to make buttery eyes at you, smile and take an interest in your personal life with undisguised interest.
- He is a cheerful fellow and a joker, like the soul of the whole team, but at the same time, none of the women take him seriously.
- The entire team watches with particular curiosity how you react to his jokes and claims.
- He showers you with compliments with or without reason, as long as you reciprocate.
Be careful with this! This man is a ladies' man who counts his victories over women even if he can't get you into bed. Falling in love with yourself is already a victory. Although sex will not be superfluous for him either. Read it and everything will become clear to you. By the way, the strict team, because of your weakness for such a womanizer, will quickly be disappointed in you, and your reputation will be tarnished. And an office romance will not lead to anything serious.
Zealous careerist
Signs of such a man’s attention will hardly be hidden under falling in love, although he will not leave you alone almost from the first day of work:
- He will actively take control of all your affairs - he will willingly suggest what and how, but mainly working for the public and his superiors.
- There is almost no praise, but there is a whole mountain of criticism, and all your mistakes are exposed to your colleagues.
- Sometimes he can sympathize with you, but mostly hidden from everyone, so that you respect him.
- He is the initiator of any business, curries favor with his superiors and tries to command the team, although he is often besieged in his place.
Don't expect any romantic feelings from this. All these signs indicate one thing: this man loves power more than women. Even in moments of sympathy and feigned sympathy for you, he thereby attracts the “electorate” in the event of choosing a new leadership. In public he makes himself look like a big shot, but behind everyone’s back and for everyone individually, he is gentle and kind. The strategy of any careerist.
Sweet romantic
If they said about some employee: “This is a good guy!”, then you will be able to recognize all the signs of sympathy for him towards you:
- He is embarrassed, but very politely communicates with you - he blushes, stutters slightly, but while talking to the point he calms down and is ready to help.
- When communicating, he tries not to look at you directly, but from the side you accidentally catch his glances at you, they seem to go “casually.”
- You will never hear rudeness and vulgarity from him, even if by chance you overheard his conversation with his colleagues with a couple of obscenities on an abstract topic.
- He is always ready to come to your rescue, even if you don’t ask anyone for anything and sit in doubt over the papers.
You will already intuitively feel his sympathy. Perhaps this man is secretly in love with you, but it is not in his rules to show it off, as a womanizer does. And he won’t do it in public, like a careerist. Even while helping with work, he will be more interested in an intimate business relationship: sit next to you and quietly discuss some problem. Over time, his secret will still become clear. And if he is still unrequitedly in love, then perhaps you will soon have an office romance if you also like him. But, again, his behavior may not hide the feeling of falling in love. It is possible that he simply has deep respect for all women, and you thought that this was a sign of secret love.
Closed beech
The most complex psychotype of a man in a team. He seems completely lost in solitude. Constantly busy with work, uncommunicative. But he also has a heart, and he can fall in love and is capable of sympathy towards a lady. How can he behave if he still cares about you:
- He, although reluctantly, for the sake of appearance to others, will be happy to help you with your work. For appearances, this is only because he does not like to help others.
- He is more talkative and smiling with you than with the others, although he tries not to look up.
- Oddly enough, he gets irritated by conversations about his personal life - he is very afraid to expose his feelings.
- If a malicious womanizer pesters you, you can even see from the behavior of the beech how it infuriates him - a nervous tic in his shoulders, clenching fists.
Such a man is unlikely to confess his love to you, and you yourself will not know how to behave with him. It doesn't seem bad, but it's kind of prickly. Perhaps he sees a goddess in you, but he has lowered his own ego below the plinth. He is angry in his heart at your beauty and at his insecurities, but he can’t do anything. He's afraid of you. Even if you yourself try to seduce him and show the first sympathy for such a man, he will recoil from you like fire.
Now imagine - you already know about everything and everyone in your team, and suddenly a letter comes to your email from a secret admirer who secretly shows sympathy for you. You know for sure that this is one of the employees - he did not hide this from you. But who is this man? A narcissistic womanizer or perhaps a romantic. The careerist and the beech seem to be swept aside, but still not excluded.
You are intrigued, your eyes run around all the tables of the male employees and look for at least some sign of declassification of the addressee:
- Lovelace - he burst into a smile, feeling your gaze.
- The romantic was looking at you anyway, but he looked away.
- The careerist is furiously tapping on the keyboard, checking something against the documents.
- Buka - feeling your gaze, nervously shrugged his shoulders.
So, the circle narrows, we throw out the careerist, you don’t arouse his sympathy. We begin correspondence, actively, with a hint of a possible romance. The womanizer will immediately give himself away with verbosity and compliments, the beech will most likely stop virtual communication (well, at least he tried), and the romantic will restrainedly maintain correspondence, giving out information about himself in portions.
If the correspondence has gained momentum to such an extent that it is time to meet, then you can take the initiative into your own hands. For example, suggest that after work you meet him in a cafe for a cup of coffee. Pay attention to the man’s reaction: the womanizer, by the way, will suggest it himself, the romantic will agree to come, and the beech will chicken out, even if he dared to maintain correspondence.
How to behave when exposed
It all depends on your sympathy for this man. Can you imagine your shock if this nasty careerist who you don’t like at all shows up at the cafe? Well, with a show-off - to increase your rating among the electorate through such cunning intrigues. Or the ladies' man will hide, which is not easier.
But imagine if that man comes along that you really like and with whom you have the same sympathy: for example, a romantic or even this modest but brave beech. Or even one that you didn’t expect at all, but you still liked him.
In any case, behave calmly. Say something like: “But I guessed it was you!” And if you are interested, then feel free to go into battle, if, of course, you are both free. What if this virtual office affair turns into a real romance with a sequel? Maybe even then the careerist who appears in the cafe will turn out to be a romantic at heart, and the womanizer will take the path of correction. These candidates for office romance also have the right to be, and perhaps you managed to make such a person fall in love with you.
So, you came to your new place of work and met him. No, not just him, but HIM with a capital M, the man of your dreams.
But, unfortunately, he turned out to be your boss, and also a handsome man, whom all women, without exception, look at. Feelings have overwhelmed you, and all you can think about is how to make your boss fall in love with you.
Psychologists recommend not to rush headlong into the pool, but to carefully observe the object of passion in order to understand how to please your boss. Look at his immediate circle, evaluate with whom and how he communicates, whether he likes flattery, whether you have a rival.
According to many experienced seductresses, there are prohibitions that should not be violated if you want to attract the attention of an accomplished man:
- Never pester your boss with stupid advances. It is unlikely that he will become interested in you if he understands that you are not very smart.
- If you are noticed by a handsome, young boss, be prepared for envious colleagues to talk about you.
- A boss in love does not always begin to flirt with the object of desire; much more often he has doubts about the sincerity of his intentions, and therefore ignores courtship. You should behave more restrained until you gain his trust.
- If a boss falls in love with a subordinate, this does not mean at all that she can be careless about her work. If you're flirting with your boss just for the sake of messing around, it's unlikely to be viewed favorably.
- There is no need to wear a super mini or a low-cut dress if the office has strict dress codes. Of course, you will be noticed, but not at all because you have slender legs or magnificent breasts.
Don’t forget that the boss is an ordinary man who likes the attention of the fairer sex, so it’s quite possible to achieve his favor. So, if you fall in love with your boss, what should you do?
The main thing is to never doubt your strengths and feminine charm; men are perfectly aware of any uncertainty. Watch the film “The Most Charming and Attractive,” where a friend-psychologist gives the main character very practical advice.
Watch your appearance: he must understand that you are the very femininity and charm. Don’t get carried away with flirting, watch his reaction: modest smiles, small signs of attention, unobtrusive compliments - all these are the first signs of a man in love. Make it a rule to learn something new about him every day, learn his schedule. Try to find at least 10 minutes during working hours to be alone with him.
How to tell if your boss is in love with you
We looked in detail at how to please a male boss, now let's talk about how to understand whether he likes you.
The second sign of how a lover behaves is flirting. If your boss feels in love, he will definitely communicate with you differently than with other subordinates. For example, he will be interested not only in the plans of the company, but also in whether you like roses.
Evening meetings and endless text messages “with or without reason” are a great way to determine whether your boss has begun to fall in love with you. Pay special attention to how he communicates with you during overtime hours, is he trying to show care, attention, or is he just demanding results? Try to find out from your colleagues whether the boss sends messages to everyone; if only for you, it means he is in love, but has not yet decided to do more.
When a male boss begins to feel in love, he will definitely try to establish a trusting relationship with you - for example, he will tell some secret of the company or offer indulgences that you clearly do not deserve.
The surest sign of a boss in love is if one day he suddenly changes his image, especially if the day before you spent a long time discussing what would suit his clothes, which haircut would better emphasize the dignity of his face. An important sign is how the boss behaved during this conversation: whether he touched your hand, tried to hug you, or looked languidly into your eyes. Frequent and long laughter and feigned gaiety also signal that he cares about you.
How to get your boss's love
Psychologists suggest using a little trick - trying to start a relationship in a place not related to work. To do this, you will have to show your spy skills and dig deep into his personal life, find out what he likes, whether he has hobbies or interests - for example, whether he plays sports.
How to find out where he spends his free time? In fact, everything is very simple: try asking your male colleagues, because they definitely know about all the weaknesses of their superiors.
Use any excuse to show him your attention - in this case, his birthday or February 23rd are ideal. Try to prepare a special gift for him: if your boss loves football, solemnly present him with the symbol of his favorite team - it could be a scarf or T-shirt with sports symbols.
This is the main reason why many office romances, having never begun, end because excessive self-confidence forces women to make fatal mistakes. The boss understands that you are trying to use him for personal purposes, and therefore will try to distance himself from you as much as possible.
If, after all, you were able to achieve the favor of your boss, try to keep your mouth shut and not tell any of your colleagues about this - there will definitely be envious people and will try to belittle you in the eyes of your loved one. You shouldn’t set up romantic dates with your boss yourself - it’s better if all the initiative comes from him. Before starting courtship, it won’t hurt you to make sure that your boss is free and you are not in danger of playing the role of an eternal mistress, and a broken family is not the best basis for a new relationship. Author: Natalya Ivanova
Every woman has a natural desire to please, regardless of her age and marital status. Light flirting with a colleague, neighbor or random passer-by lifts your mood. The realization that someone likes her attracts attention, gives confidence, raises her tone and the woman simply glows from within. But often excessive attention, especially in a work team, especially from a superior colleague, creates a lot of problems... Or, on the contrary, opens up new horizons for development and advancement. Each situation is individual and which path a woman should take is up to her to decide. And we will try to consider every scenario.
I'm a career woman
Young professionals who are not yet married are often very flattered by the attention of their boss, but only when the sympathy is mutual or the girl strives to get a promotion at any cost. Unfortunately, now many people take advantage of this situation and are not at all ashamed of this method of changing their financial status. Those who do not want to go down this path can only be advised to make an attempt to “conduct peace negotiations” in order to stop the courtship and protect themselves from the discontent of other colleagues, because this, as a rule, causes envy. If the sympathy is mutual, then it is best not to expose the relationship to everyone and keep everything secret at first.I do not need it!
In most cases, unfortunately, the boss’s attention becomes intrusive and unpleasant, and advances quickly turn into boorish harassment. This situation occurs in married women who just want to work, love their husband very much and value quiet family happiness. Peaceful negotiations often lead nowhere and inevitable dismissal follows, often scandalous and unpleasant. Many women prefer to give up and leave “quietly”, forgetting that the legal norms are on their side and it is possible to put an presumptuous boss in his place using legal methods, without resorting to sorting out the boss’s relationship with her husband and humiliation.And this might not have happened
To those who come to new team, it is important to behave with caution and modesty. We all remember the proverb “You are greeted by your clothes...” At least for the first couple of months, try not to attract undue attention to yourself, dress according to the dress code, fulfill your duties and nothing more. This behavior will give you the opportunity to “look around” the team, and your colleagues, including your boss, will appreciate you.Love can overtake you at different periods of life and at the most unexpected moment. Having discovered this wonderful feeling, some people become confused. Enjoy your crush and try to build a relationship with the object of your dreams.
Instructions
Find out if your feelings are mutual. It is not necessary to immediately confess your love to a woman. It is enough to take a closer look at a girl’s behavior to understand whether she feels sympathy for you or not. You should call for a frank conversation only when there is no other way to find out about your chances.
Start getting closer to a girl if you feel that you care about her and if you think that she is free. Invite her on a date, ask about her life and hobbies.
Be attentive to the girl. Show her concern, walk her home, give her a bouquet of flowers. To stand out from the crowd of fans, come up with interesting idea for your date.
Try to distract yourself if your feeling is not mutual. Let it seem to you now that the world will not be the same without her. Believe me, after some time everything will be the same as before.
Immerse yourself in study, work, hobbies. Meet with friends more often and have fun. There is no need for you to sit at home and wallow in self-pity.
Hello, dear readers! A male boss undeniably attracts attention. He is strong, confident, successful. How can you not fall in love with such a handsome man? But what to do when you want to achieve reciprocity? Today I want to talk to you about how to make your boss fall in love with you, what tricks you can use, how not to go too far, and what the dangers of romance in the workplace can be.
Step by step
Fall in love with your boss - famous story. But it is extremely important to understand the differences in falling in love with the image of a strong and successful man and the real nascent love in your heart.
If you see any signs of interest from your boss, but are not sure about them, then I recommend you read Steve Harvey's book " You don't know anything about men" In it you will find many secrets about the stronger sex.
The first step you should take is to sort out your feelings. You need to understand where this relationship will lead you, whether you are ready to share a house with this person, build a life, and raise children. If you just feel like this could all work out, but you don't feel confident, then I wouldn't advise you to have an affair at work. After all, this could end badly for you.
Sure? Then let's move on to the next step. Appearance. I think you won’t argue that men first of all pay attention to a beautiful wrapper. But this is much more difficult to do in the office. You must comply with the dress code.
Remember that revealing cleavage is too short skirts, bright makeup - they will look extremely inappropriate in the workplace, and you will only alienate your boss.
Don't forget that you are a subordinate. Take the company's rules very seriously. Moreover, men like understatement. The more clothes a woman wears, the more she wants to take them off. Be neat, always watch not only your suit, but also your hair, manicure, and makeup. Don't forget about magical power heels.
You should remember that your job is to give the boss subtle hints. The same applies to flirting. I don’t think you need to explain that open flirting is completely inappropriate at work. You can only lightly touch his hand as you hand over the papers. A mysterious smile and soft gaze.
What is the danger
The first point is that your initiative may be ineffective if the boss is in a relationship with you. When he avoids you, behaves distantly and only in a businesslike manner, then it is better not to waste your energy, nerves and time.
The second point is he. Of course, anyone can be lassoed. You can verify this in the article “”. Have you often heard stories about an unfree boss and a subordinate that ended well? Just for the sake of bed, variety, he can let you into his life. But he will not be ready to leave his wife if he is given a choice.
The third point is the difficulties of an affair at work. Let's imagine that you made your boss fall in love with you and you started a relationship. You will have to work hard not to bring personal problems into the office and vice versa. Once I witnessed a similar personal showdown in a bank between two employees. It looked terrible.
Of course, secret meetings and passion excite. But sooner or later it will end. Be ready.
How long have you been working with your boss? Have you already given him any hints? Does he show you signs of attention?
Be vigilant and confident in the future, then everything will definitely work out for you.
Good luck to you!