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"Politeness is to the mind what beauty is to the face. "Voltaire

By knowledge of the world we mean knowledge secular customs and politeness. Politeness as a social virtue is necessary for us in order to be useful and pleasant to others. It is obligatory in social life as well as in business and in life relationships in general. Without it, any relationship with people becomes impossible.

Politeness is a quality that we learn and that we must teach our children, just as we learn to speak correctly and dress with taste. Labrussiere said that " one must have very outstanding qualities in order not to need politeness".

Secular and social relations between men and women - obey one general rule, which consists in the indispensable observance of politeness, courtesy and tact, and in the absence of selfishness: guided by this, it is easy to get on the real road.

Entering the world is an event in the life of a young girl that makes her heart beat faster and her cheeks flush with excitement.

Girl begins to go out into the world at the age of 16 to 20 years, depending on her development and also on certain circumstances relating to her mother and older sisters, she begins to go to theaters, to receptions, balls and dinners, makes all visits with her mother and receives meals with her guests at home

Between husband and wife, brother and sister, uncle and niece, cousin and cousin, the distance created by the difference between the sexes should always be felt: on the one hand, modesty and restraint are necessary, on the other, respect and consideration.

A man becomes rude and wild as soon as he ceases to be polite and attentive. That is why familiarity and complete freedom in friendship can exist between men or women, but are unthinkable between a man and a woman. Let us add that it is precisely this slight embarrassment and restraint that gives a special charm to their mutual relationship.

A decent person can only be called one who has nothing to hide from anyone, and who has no reason to blush for a single action in his life. A prudent married man should not make friends outside his home: he does not need them, and besides, he knows that such visits involve him in alien elements family life.
Nevertheless, all men, relying on their strong character, consider themselves entitled to have such friends whom they do not dare introduce to their family. From such relationships, however, serious troubles often arise.

When visiting a theater, those who take a box and invite acquaintances into it give up the front seats to these latter. If the two invitees are strangers to each other, then they both sit in front; if they are members of the same family, then only one of them should take advantage of this courtesy, and the other should resolutely refuse.

When walking with her husband and another man, along the street or in the garden, a woman should walk between them: it goes without saying that she walks arm in arm with only one: walking arm in arm with both is extremely ridiculous and ugly. The front seats in the theater are always given to ladies, no matter how respectable the age of the men accompanying them. But in the box of some princess, the minister sits in front of the princess’s lady of state, no matter how noble they are. Etiquette requires it.

Having seen friends at the theater, it is indecent to make signs to them, much less call them; they simply bow slightly without getting up; if it's very important person- he should stand up respectfully. During intermissions, men approach familiar ladies, no matter where they are sitting.
If the ladies are without a gentleman, you should offer to show them to the foyer and see them off when leaving. It is forbidden to offer food to strangers if there is no close acquaintance at home, or if they are not relatives. But if a man accompanies ladies to the theater, on the contrary, he should offer them ice cream, soft drinks or sweets.

It goes without saying that a man accompanying a woman, be it his wife, relative or acquaintance, should not leave her to talk with other women or offer them his services. During the intermission, he is allowed to leave for a few minutes and exchange a few words with a friend in the foyer; but he has no right to stay with other women he knows. If other men come to the box to talk for a few minutes with his lady, he can use this time to see his acquaintances, but must return before his companion is left alone.

A woman is considered to have lost her position in society from the moment she entered into a reprehensible relationship with a man,

A married woman and a widow can go to church, shop and make visits alone.
A woman who has a husband should not go to balls, the theater or dinners without him; if he does not like going out, she is condemned to share his solitude, of course, if she does not have a fiancee’s daughter: in the latter case, the mother is obliged to take her daughter out.

For For the first ball it is customary to dress a young girl in a light, simple, white suit, with a daisy or a pink bud in her hair and a blue or pink ribbon belt. No jewelry, except perhaps a string of pearls. The hairstyle should be simple, without frizzy curls and, especially, without frizzy hair. The corsage should not be too low-cut.
If a girl has a father, then he leads her into the hall by the hand, introduces her to his old friends, and the gentlemen who want to dance with his daughter are introduced to him.
A young girl showing up to the first ball in a pink dress, trimmed with flowers and ribbons, with gold necklaces and bracelets, would make an extremely unpleasant impression.
From the day the girl first appeared in the world, visitors left business cards for her in the same way as for her mother; In the invitation notes they invite her to evenings and dinners.

The first trip into the world of a young man, just left school. First of all, when appearing at a ball for the first time, he must take extreme care of his costume, be it a tailcoat or a uniform; boots, gloves, hat, tie, hairstyle - everything must be impeccable. Whatever the moral and mental qualities of the young man, he must forget about them and remember that at the ball he is only a dancer and an amiable gentleman. Therefore, he should try to be as attentive as possible to the owners of the house and to his ladies with whom he dances; his helpfulness to ladies young and old, beautiful and ugly, poor and rich, testifies to his excellent upbringing and refinement of feelings.

A woman should avoid receiving social acquaintances in her bedroom; a young girl cannot afford this under any pretext; Only a doctor, a close elderly relative, or a priest enters the bedroom, and then only if the patient cannot get up.
The first woman never asks a man about his health; and only after he inquired about how she was feeling did she ask him about the same thing, but in passing.

When a woman meets a man she knows on the street who will have the tactlessness to stop her or walk next to her, she must immediately invent an excuse to leave him, either by going to a store or taking a carriage.

In public places, women mostly sit on the side where fewer people pass by. When leaving a carriage, even a public one, a woman can accept help from a complete stranger and thank him with a kind word.

.Dear person does not compromise a woman, but on the contrary, makes her respect her too. But there are people whose mere acquaintance spoils a woman’s reputation. As absurd as this may seem, it is a fact. Neither age nor position means anything here: it’s all about a person’s decency.

A woman accepts the services and courtesy of her gentleman, whether he is her husband or just an acquaintance. She is polite, grateful, but at the same time reserved. She does not force herself to ask, but takes for herself by right the best places everywhere and the best pieces at the table: a woman is a slave who forces herself to be served, a man is a master who obeys. Her room should be the best in the house. Failure to do all this shows contempt on the part of the husband.

A man is always obliged to help a woman in difficulty - no matter whether she is old or young, beautiful or ugly. In response to her expression of gratitude, he raises his hat and immediately leaves.
It is awkward for a woman to refuse these small favors, or accept them as courtship.

A decent woman will never agree to visit a man who has not introduced his wife to her.
During visits, a woman cannot say goodbye and leave with one of the visitors, so as not to give rise to slander; a man should not do the same to a woman.

A young man should not offer a bouquet or flowers to a young girl unless she is his bride, or a friend of the bride for whom he is best man. However, on occasion, he can offer a flower or a bouquet to the girl’s mother and herself.
While walking with the ladies, a man can buy bouquets on the street, but with the purpose of presenting them to all his companions. He should never allow a woman of his circle to buy a bouquet in his presence; he should hurry to pay for it, and the lady should not interfere with him, but out of delicacy, she will do better if she does not want to buy flowers, knowing what this obliges her gentleman to.

Tact is the head of everything: having it, you will always find a way out of difficulties.
Tact is not exactly the same as common sense, although it follows from this latter, it is a refined feeling, as if of second sight, indicating where and when you need to stop, what is indecent to show, and what, on the contrary, will make a pleasant impression on your interlocutor. In the world, tact serves as an enormous resource; he alone can lead a person far: but one should not, however, assume that tact is not needed in the family circle.
Tact, as a feeling, cannot be defined; it is something elusive. For this reason, rude characters do not notice it, and only selected impressionable natures know its value.
Sometimes tact is given to a person without education and wealth, and at the same time, people who are placed very highly are deprived of it.

What should one do in certain cases? widow, or single woman with no family. It is obvious that there are many difficult circumstances from which one can get out only with the help of great tact and a deep knowledge of secular customs. For a single woman there are three very different situations: she either does not marry at all, in other words, remains an old maid, or becomes a widow, or separates from her husband.

In conversation she should be very reserved, and she is never given primacy in the ceremony of social etiquette. A young widow must live with her husband’s family during the entire period of mourning; this is mandatory; if she is very young and if the parents of the deceased do not have other children, she should live with them until she remarries.
If she has children, she can live alone.

A single woman is not obliged to give dinners in return for those to which she is invited. At the same time, she should not be too secluded, and those people with whom she is not very close, she should show hospitality by receiving them in her home, if she herself intends to visit them. She can invite men to her dinners and evenings, who will then pay her a visit on her reception day.

At any age and in any position, however, it is absolutely impossible for a woman to be alone at evenings or at the theater. Therefore, in this case, it is quite decent to accept the services of a relative, friend, sometimes even a friend of one of them.

source Book "Life in the world, at home and at court": rules of etiquette intended for the upper strata of Russia" (1890, St. Petersburg http://antikclub.ru/load/club_collektors/books/1/31-1- 0-890

Rules of etiquette for the upper strata of Russia. Part 2

From the book "Life in the world, at home and at court" 1890, St. Petersburg- pay attention, friends, how deep a meaning was put into the concept of secular etiquette in the times of the nobles, but even now these laws are not outdated, and now we can observe upstarts and arrogants “clinging” to power, and even from the “elite” “Vulgarly familiar behavior is not uncommon. At first it is difficult to read due to the symbols of the old font, but then you get used to it and everything becomes intelligible.

Nothing requires such a deep knowledge of the world as social relations.
In a strict sense, it concerns only the relations between different classes of society, and we constantly meet people who show in this subject the greatest tactlessness.

I was received by an important person who I asked for a favor, would you advise me to bow to him when I meet? and can I talk to him?
— Our answer was: no, because your relationship is fleeting, and the difference in rank does not allow you to hope for equality between you. If this person wishes to recognize you, then he will do so himself; One should not boast about this very fragile acquaintance, which arose due to mere chance.

The properties of relationships depend on the causes that gave rise to them. Thus, an acquaintance established in a salon on the basis of equality, as a result of the mutual desire of the parties, and without any other reason other than mutual sympathy, is simply called secular relations. If after the first date an invitation comes from any party, it is responded to with a visit and a similar invitation; exchange cards, invitations and all kinds of pleasantries, within the framework of secular decency

If the basis of the acquaintance is some kind of interest, and if the mutual introduction occurred at the request of the interested party, then this is already not a secular relationship: the highest person is paid a visit, but he is not obliged to pay it back or leave his card.

Business relations do not require any personal courtesies. Outside the office, office or store, acquaintance ceases, whatever the situation in society.

They say talent and intelligence replace wealth and nobility. This is absolutely fair, but along with talent and intelligence it is also necessary to have common sense and a sense of self-worth. It happens that a music teacher considers herself equal to the duchess, meanwhile, it may turn out that the musician does not have not only a title, but also talent, while the duchess has both nobility and talent, but does not boast about them.

Most people adhere to the rules of etiquette out of decency and habit: from modesty about oneself and from respect for people. Indeed, a modest and kind person unconsciously understands all shades of secular connections, whatever his position in society.

So, the most important and titled boss must always be kind and polite to his subordinates; the subordinate, in turn, if he does not have inappropriate pride, should know that he has no need to be afraid of being too respectful. Respect, modesty and politeness do not have anything low or bad in themselves, and they should not be confused with servility, as many do by mistake.

True sophistication consists in observing the greatest politeness in everything, down to the most insignificant details.

A woman agrees not to be considered a beauty, on the condition that she be called sophisticated; many people are ready to admit that they are neither rich nor noble, knowing that their sophistication completely replaces gold and coats of arms; finally, both intelligence and talent need sophistication just as it is necessary for beauty, wealth and nobility. Therefore, whoever really wants to be refined must observe the most refined politeness in his social relations. (Golden words!!!)

Many upstarts, eager to show off their secular manners, often justify their careless nods to friends when meeting, their gritted responses to the politeness of persons below them in the social hierarchy, and their vulgar familiarity with their superiors by the fact that they imitate models from the highest circle; but we can argue that these examples are completely devoid of tact and good taste, and unfortunately, they are found in all strata of society. It is not enough to be born a prince to have knowledge of the world, and a working woman who knows her place is much smarter in this case than a high-society lady who rattles off her titles.

Knowing your place is what’s hard! What would happen if an employee did not recognize the primacy of his boss, soldier-officer, child-parents? (Has socialism come out?) Let everyone take his place, and social relations will cease to be confused and spoiled by envy, jealousy, vanity and pride.

To receive an insult from an old man and not think about taking revenge on him does not mean humiliation; they forgive him because of his age and gray hair; in the same way, bowing under the blessing of a bishop or before the title of marshal.

You should never publicly impose your company on a high-ranking person, especially if he is with people of his own circle. Much more pride lies in trying to avoid shame by keeping in the background than trying to take first place.

In general, in all relationships between people, even the closest and most friendly ones, you need to avoid intrusiveness, but on the contrary, try to get others to seek your company. But without being intrusive, at the same time you need to express the measure of friendliness and cordiality.

In all public relations, restraint, forbearance and politeness are necessary.

A chatterbox, an envious person, an ill-wisher, a curious person is not only capable of quarreling best friends, causing the greatest misfortunes, making the innocent suffer, but cannot even hope to have friends.

How many troubles and even misfortunes can be caused by one careless word, sometimes spoken without any malicious intent!

Then, all that remains is to follow the rules of etiquette and social life in order to exist in peace and contentment, making those around us as happy as we ourselves.