Everything will be fine. I'm strong. I'm tired, but I have to endure it. Others have an even worse situation than me. If I don’t think about the bad, it will disappear on its own.
Stop! Will not help. On the contrary, such thoughts will attract weakness, melancholy, and depression. Maybe it’s better to accept the fact that everything is just enough, but your strength is already at zero? It takes courage, but facing the problem head on is the only way to eliminate it forever. Fatigue - where does it come from and how to overcome it?
“I’m so tired” - why does this happen?
The true causes of the problem are often large-scale and lie deep inside. One loud boss or untimely torn tights are unlikely to cause a loss of strength, mood long time. If fatigue sets in too often, and you feel like you’re backed into a corner, then your patience is already full. Here are seven main reasons that in most cases threaten overwork:
- Difficulty making or accepting change.
- Constant stress, frequent worries, anxiety, worry.
- Wasting time on an unloved activity that has no meaning for the person himself. Complete lack of self-realization in the area of interest. Routine.
- Intense physical or mental work in large volumes. The pace of life is too fast.
- Pressure from society or a specific group of people. As a rule, this is a spouse, children or parents, but it also happens that the work team or ordinary acquaintances are pushed into worse boundaries than others.
- Physiological or psychological problems. Ignoring fatigue is also a serious obstacle to recovery.
- Lack of support. Loneliness.
The real solution will be to work with the first reason, because the others are, by and large, its results, which significantly aggravate the situation. Majority human problems disappear with change. Fatigue is no exception. If you have a desire to return happiness and vigor, then it’s time to act. But how exactly?
What to do if you're tired of everything
Relax
Everything is logical: if a person is tired, then it is better for him to rest, take a breath. However, the question is what kind of fatigue made itself felt. Accordingly, the ways to deal with poor health will be different.
Physical exhaustion. Sleepless nights, poor diet, heavy stress on the body - is it possible to feel happy in such conditions? Fortunately, this can be solved by not simple, but quite accessible actions:
- draw up a daily schedule (including sleep, optimal distribution of time between work and leisure), strictly follow it;
- spend time in a sanatorium, closer to nature - the sea and mountain air work wonders;
- pay attention to your daily diet: get rid of coffee, replacing it with cocoa or hot chocolate; start taking vitamins, the doses and types of which are best discussed individually with your doctor;
- sign up for a massage or other relaxing procedure;
- learn more about reflexology - a technique for influencing sensitive points.
Moral fatigue. Scandals at home, conflicts at work, a lot of responsibilities for which not everyone will even say “thank you” - all this can lead to severe depression. To avoid unpleasant consequences, you can:
- periodically arrange “rest days” for yourself - the grandmother can sit with the child once a week, and the husband is quite capable of doing at least partial cleaning;
- devote more time to your appearance. Beautiful = confident;
- meet more often with good friends at your favorite establishment;
- do not forget about your interests and hobbies.
Intellectual fatigue. The brain works constantly, even during sleep. If the loads become unbearable, headaches, weakness, drowsiness occur, and all reactions noticeably decrease. Instead of constantly raping your brain, trying to “start” it again, it’s better:
- correctly alternate mental and physical activities. 10 minute walk around fresh air refreshes thoughts, activates imagination;
- provide the “main analyzer” with healthy and tasty food. Dried fruits, yoghurts, nuts increase efficiency and productivity;
- get a good night's sleep;
- periodically change the type of thought processes - reading, counting, analysis, memorization, etc.
Spiritual burden. Sometimes there is a feeling of internal exhaustion, although there seems to be no reason for it. Health is good, no stress Lately did not happen, and there is no overwork as such. What to do in such specific cases? Some tips:
- sign up for yoga at centers where it is taught not just as a “set of physical exercises for weight loss,” but also as a spiritual practice;
- learn the art of meditation, purification of thoughts;
- believers can visit church, talk with the priest or parishioners, and confess;
- distance yourself as far as possible from negativity - bad news from the media, political unrest, neighbor gossip.
Perhaps fatigue is provoked precisely by the burden of something negative. And it’s better to let it out. How else can this be done?
Eliminate “energy vampires”
“I listen to her - and I myself feel as if all my strength is leaving” - there are a couple of such “bloodsuckers” around. These are people who always talk about bad things, turn every good news into doubt, and look for danger and negativity everywhere.
“Is your husband late at work for the only time in a year? So he’s cheating!” - they say. And it doesn’t matter at all that the husband actually chose a gift for his wife, running around half the city to find her favorite blue roses. The same ones that the ubiquitous neighbor has already called “atonement for some sin.”
And it happens that the faithful himself turns out to be the one who drinks all the juices: “I returned tired from work with heavy bags of groceries at the ready. Because no one wanted to meet him - football is on TV. I washed the dishes, cooked/heated dinner, checked the child’s homework, cleaned up the cat’s litter box, fixed the shelf. At the same time, she asked for help three times, each time receiving nothing but a lazy “Well now.” She fell off her feet and fell onto the bed, and then from above she also received an insult for her unfulfilled marital duty. Tired!".
If it’s boiling, then why endure it? Garbage is thrown away without regret. It is better to surround yourself with worthy people who value good attitude, actions.
Leave
What about work? Where are the children?! What to do with the cat?!
Vacation. To my husband and grandmother. Same way. In addition, it is not necessary to go on the run and fly to distant islands. Moving to another city or area with the same children, spouses, mothers, jobs, cats is also suitable. The whole point is a change of scenery. If this is not enough, you can relax at the dacha, go on a visit, organize a meeting of classmates or arrange a romantic rendezvous. It is advisable to spend at least a couple of hours a week somewhere outside the workplace or the kitchen stove.
Quit
Half of the world's women suffer from fatigue due to work alone. The boss has lost his temper because of problems at home, a new colleague is aiming for someone else’s job, responsibilities are increasing, and project deadlines are burning like teenage love in the spring. And okay, if only this was a dream job, but so...
Application for at will- and go ahead to conquer the peaks. To the question “What to live on?” didn’t bother me, it’s better to get a part-time job somewhere or find a place where there will be less stress. Salaries will most likely decrease – that’s a fact. But what is more important: peace of mind, enjoying life or money? Although the problem with material means If desired, you can also solve it. How?
With the help of... a hobby. With enough persistence, any hobby can be turned into a source of profit. Open your own business, sell cakes, paintings or knitted items, convert the garage into a studio and advertise for enrollment in dance courses. Gradually but persistently - and here are the reins of control own life are returned to hands.
Visit a specialist's office
It's simple. Therapist - if fatigue is expressed in chronic physical ailment. Psychologist - if you have something to say, something to cry about. Psychotherapist - if the situation has become so twisted that there is no way out in sight.
The fear of going to the doctor is so deeply ingrained in the mind that it seems as if it has reached the genetic level and is inherited. However, it is unfounded. Doctors are people who want to help others. For other reasons, it is simply impossible to serve 5-9 years at lecture desks. These professionals offer help, and sometimes it is desperately needed.
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The first question is “With whom?” The clear answer is with a positive person who knows how to value friendship and relationships. Optimists have a wonderful trait - they themselves are always at their peak. Have a good mood, and they pull others along with them. Perhaps a new acquaintance will help you discover something new in yourself or the world around you. Sometimes stranger gives one piece of advice, but more valuable than all the recommendations from loved ones. If making new friends on the street is scary, here are some great places to meet:
- courses, clubs that bring together like-minded people;
- pet parks, if available;
- dating sites, social networks;
- speed dating - quick dates;
- discussion clubs;
- group therapy with a psychotherapist;
- bookstores, galleries, other places of cultural education.
Decide on what we are silent about
Confess your love, organize a public meeting, jump with a parachute, buy a horse farm, change your sex, in the end!
Keeping secrets for years, suppressing real desires is incredibly tiring. It’s exhausting, it makes you live someone else’s life, and waste your own time. Unfortunately, the world is not a fairy tale. A fairy godmother will not appear here with a magic wand that will grant all wishes. This means that you need to act independently, armed only with a sincere desire and a group of loved ones, supporting people.
If you have been tired of everything for a long time, life is not a joy, this is not a reason to give up. But this is an excellent excuse to rethink everything, to start fighting for what you really want. And may you be lucky!
Sometimes there come moments in life when everything goes wrong. Things aren't going well at work and problems arise at home. Troubles are growing every day, like a snowball, gradually increasing in size. And then it becomes very difficult to cope with them. It is during this difficult period that many women begin to complain about their fate, repeating: “I’m tired of everything.” This situation necessarily requires specification, otherwise it will be impossible to find the optimal solution or suggest a way out of the crisis.
First of all, you should understand that any difficulty does not arise overnight. Problems arise over the years, and only because we do not want to solve the emerging complexity in a timely manner, but prefer to put it off until later. Agree, how tempting the idea of pushing off unpleasant matters until tomorrow sounds sometimes, just so as not to bother your head with them today. Common situation? The moment when a woman is tired of everything simultaneously signals the presence of a difficulty and that it was not noticed in time.
Form of expression
How does universal fatigue manifest itself? What are its distinctive features? First of all, this is the lack of desires and intentions to change anything in life, despite the obvious severity of the problem. This may seem absurd, but the brighter the difficulty, the less strength a person feels to overcome it. That’s when destructive thoughts like the following appear: “I’m tired of everything, I don’t want to live.” Of course, this is an extreme degree of dissatisfaction with oneself, but it also occurs if no attempts are made to correct or change the situation.
The person begins to feel very tired. Work seems like an unbearable burden, a burden that is placed on fragile shoulders and forced to be carried. I don’t want to go anywhere or see anyone. Weekends and evenings are spent at home watching TV. A person only has enough time to switch channels by inertia. Some individuals, being in this state, sincerely ask: “I’m tired of everything, what should I do?” To solve a problem, you need to learn to look in depth.
Finding the real reason
Everything in the world has its roots. The origins of your fatigue also need to be found; this is the only way to truly correct it. To stop repeating: “I’m tired of everything, I don’t want anything,” you need to admit to yourself your own weakness. Sometimes this is very difficult to do, given the lack of will and desire to act.
Find a reason to delve into your past. Consider different cases from life. Look for a compelling reason why your current situation may have largely taken such a negative form. Understand that if you keep repeating: “I’m tired of everything and everyone,” it means that the matter is serious and it’s time to take truly effective measures of influence. What can help you?
A change of scenery
You need to not just go for a walk, but perhaps go somewhere to gain new positive impressions. The best way To overcome prolonged depression and the inability to solve a specific situation is a change of environment. If you have nowhere to go or finances do not allow it, do not despair. Just try to change your usual rhythm of life, and you will definitely feel better.
When you have the opportunity to travel, don't hesitate. Feel free to go buy tickets and leave everything to do. Now it is much more important for you to save peace of mind and a feeling of satisfaction. You must not allow negative thoughts to control your state and drive you into depression. Constantly spinning in your head: “I’m tired of everything”? Allow yourself a well-deserved vacation at least once a year!
Balanced diet
This may seem strange to some, but what we eat affects our perception of the world. Products not only provide what is necessary for life nutrients, but also very important for a person’s mood and well-being. Nutrition must be correct and balanced. Provide your body with a regular supply of vitamins and microelements and you will see how much your mood will improve and you will become interested in life and new events.
How to organize proper nutrition? Never eat on the run, swallowing whole pieces in a hurry. Always chew your food thoroughly and do not get distracted during your next lunch or dinner. It is much healthier to eat freshly prepared food than canned food. Make sure you have all the essential nutrients in your diet. Then you will stop constantly saying: “I’m tired of everything to do.”
Give vent to your emotions
Probably everyone has heard about how harmful it really is to accumulate negative emotions. Over time, they are capable of destroying a person from the inside, undermining a completely healthy psyche, and making a person withdrawn and irritable. This is how a person is designed that he constantly needs to share his feelings with others. Moreover, it is necessary that there are people nearby whom you can completely trust when talking about your innermost experiences.
The syndrome called “Tired of everything” necessarily requires close attention. You must not allow feelings of dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction with life to accumulate, otherwise at some point everything can escalate very seriously. If you feel that you need to speak out, then meet with friends and share your experiences with them. When there is no suitable company nearby, it is extremely important to find such a person who can understand and support in difficult times. You can solve your problems with the help of a psychologist.
Timely rest
Some people fiercely drive themselves into certain limits, from which they themselves sometimes cannot escape for a long time. Even if you are very busy, at least sometimes you need to allow yourself to rest. If you are driving own business, it is clear that you have little free time, and therefore try to use it and plan it as wisely as possible. If you feel that you are pretty tired and have accumulated irritability, take some time for yourself - arrange an unforgettable vacation. Then the thought “I'm tired of everything” will not bother you so often. Don't neglect physical exercise, they not only charge you with the necessary energy, but also improve your mood.
Help others
They say that if you feel bad, you need to find someone who is even worse. This is partly true. When you compare your own condition with what your neighbor may have, you immediately feel an incredible sense of relief. Strive to help others as much as possible at a time when you yourself need help. This is how you will support yourself. Those around you will certainly be grateful to you, and your mood will rise to a high level.
“I'm tired of everything” - this thought does not appear in one day. This condition can accumulate over years, exhibiting a wide range of unfavorable symptoms. The main thing is not to focus on how you feel, but to see the best that life has to offer.
Creation
This point will probably be of most interest to people with creative thinking. Creativity is a wonderful trait that needs to be developed. Everyone has their own talents, but not everyone develops them. The abilities bestowed by nature need to be known and promoted for their better implementation. When you have doubts about your own inferiority, it is extremely important to be able to do what gives you the most pleasure and allows you to express your individuality.
Everyone wants to feel the necessary strength in themselves in order to fully move forward and demonstrate their own abilities. In life I want to be wealthy and independent. In many ways, creative impulses and ideas contribute to this goal.
Say no to alcohol
Many people mistakenly believe that feelings of dissatisfaction with life can be cured with a glass of wine or a glass of cognac. There is no greater delusion in the world than trying to make excuses for your own shortcomings! Alcohol not only won't help you when you're feeling extremely sad, it will also add to a host of problems, such as bad relationship with loved ones, quarrels and scandals in the family, deteriorating health. Ultimately, frequent use will lead to addiction. If you are overcome by the heavy thought “I’m tired of everything,” a photo of a person who abuses alcohol will help you give up this addiction in time. Those who drink frequently have deteriorating skin and various health problems. You don't want to grow old prematurely, do you? Draw conclusions. Alcohol has never helped anyone cope with life's difficulties.
Thus, the condition of chronic fatigue should be treated by developing a fresh, positive outlook on life. Don’t let your energy sour in unfavorable conditions, realize your own destiny, communicate with like-minded people. This is the only way to recharge positive emotions, which will be very useful in Everyday life. Be calm and cheerful!
Everyone experiences periods of devastation, and they can be overcome if you follow simple rules.
1. Determine the reason why you are tired from work
To change your life, you need to know what exactly needs to be changed. So ask yourself why you like or dislike yours. Understand what caused dissatisfaction with work.
You are underestimated, you don’t like the team, a tough schedule, a lot overtime? The reasons for dissatisfaction can be very different, and the most important thing is to find them.
2. Pay attention to your health
Nerves at work worsen your health. Heavy workload, conflicts, loss of interest in work will definitely affect your well-being. And the employer does not need employees who are constantly sick. So here's some unexpected advice: if you have problems at work, pay attention to your health. Give up bad habits, sleep well and eat well.
3. Find extra income that will help you relax
You will have to work, even if you really don’t want to. No one has canceled the need to eat, utilities are expensive, the family needs to be fed... But if work does not bring pleasure, you need to find an activity that will bring it. And on which you can also make money.
If you are a good dancer, try teaching dance. If you draw, paint a picture and sell it. You can earn money by sewing, knitting or other handicrafts. Arrange online courses on a topic that you are well versed in. There are as many options as there are many talents you have.
Of course, it is not necessary to earn money this way, but you can try.
4. Develop professionally
If you work in one position for a long time, the work becomes automatic and becomes boring. And if the thought comes to your mind that you already “know everything,” this is a sign that you need to develop further. Because in the 21st century it is physically impossible to know everything.
Go to courses in your field - they will tell you what you missed and share their experience. And in classes in a different direction, you can master a different profession or at least learn to better understand what your colleagues are doing. And this is the beginning of professional growth. At least ask your colleagues about what, how and why they do it, and then look for more information on the Internet.
5. Change your environment
A workaholic will not be able to make new friends. Closing himself in the close company of colleagues, he forgets what normal personal communication is and loses the skills of friendly communication. Yes and to support interesting conversation, you need to share something else with others besides work information. Perhaps it is this fact that you don’t meet new people in life that is the reason for fatigue. Think about who you communicate with most. If with colleagues, remember old connections outside of work or make new ones.
6. Remember why you got the job
A husband and wife who have lost romance in their relationship are advised to remember the time when they met and the reason why they could not live without each other. In the same way, those who are tired of work need to remember why they came to work for this company in the first place. Perhaps your priorities in life have changed and your work no longer matches them. Or the work process itself has changed, the people who made it special have left the company. When you figure it out, you will understand what needs to be changed in your work.
7. Take a break and rest
In case of serious problems at work, they always advise you to distract yourself: take a vacation for at least a week, go to a neighboring city for a few days and see the sights. They are rightly advised - a change of environment helps clear your thoughts. And then you can look at the problems with fresh eyes.
The main thing is to temporarily turn off your phone, tablet and other gadgets, do not read work email, so that no one can contact you regarding work issues.
The most important rule to follow if work has ceased to be enjoyable is that the situation needs to be changed urgently. How is another question. But if you continue to work in a company you don’t like, the work will stop benefiting both you and her.
“Nothing makes me happy, everything seems gray and dull. I already forgot when last time I was dreaming about something. It seems that I have turned into an old woman - decrepit, weak, always dissatisfied. Tired of everything. What to do?"
Everyone has similar thoughts. At a certain point, a person gets tired of his work, daily responsibilities, and those around him. Even from myself. Why is this happening? How to start living in a new way, and most importantly, where to get the strength for this?
What is happening to me?
The truth is that we all get tired. Sometimes a person is exhausted by a series of troubles and problems that have to be constantly solved. But most often this feeling occurs for no apparent reason. Every day the apathy grows and at a certain moment comes the understanding that something needs to be done. But what? Without understanding the reasons for this condition, any action will resemble fighting with windmills. Therefore, first of all, you need to sit down and understand yourself a little.
What can cause overwhelming fatigue?
What to do?
So, what to do if you are tired of problems and everything that happens? The problem needs to be approached comprehensively. It is equally important to get your physical and emotional state in order. You need to sleep well, eat right, and move more. At the same time, you should learn to distract yourself from joyless thoughts. You need to be able to be positive.
Author's story. “At one time it seemed to me that I was very tired of what was happening. I just wanted to lie there and do nothing. I don’t know how it would have ended if one day a puppy hadn’t come to the house. At first I just fed him, and then I took him in for good. As a result, my troubles increased. I had to walk Luchik (that’s what I named the puppy) every day, feed him, and clean him. It would seem that my troubles have increased. But with him I gained an interest in life. Ray met me from work and wagged his tail cheerfully, kissed my hands, swam with me and slept. We became very attached to each other. And later I met a guy who was also walking his pet and after a couple of weeks we started dating.
And that's what I want to say. When you are very tired, you especially need love. You just need to let her into your heart. You don't have to have an animal. You can just help someone. Visit a lonely grandmother-neighbor. Feed homeless people or animals at the zoo. Give some things to Orphanage. Love and kindness towards others is the best healer. If you learn to give it for free, your fatigue will go away as if by hand.”
Where to get strength?
When it seems like you have absolutely no energy, it’s time to start organizing your day. To feel physically good, it is useful to listen to the following tips:
- Go to bed no later than 23:00. The fact is that the body rests best at night. The necessary hormones are produced that are responsible for youth, beauty, and good mood.
- Sleep at least 8 hours. This is exactly how much time your body needs for you to feel rested and full of energy.
- Start your day with a little exercise. Just 10 minutes of simple exercises will give you a boost of energy for the whole day. By the way, at the end you can take a contrast shower, this will invigorate you even more.
- Have a delicious breakfast. People who skip their morning meal feel tired throughout the day. Therefore, to feel full of energy, you need to eat well in the morning.
- Introduce into your diet foods rich in magnesium and B vitamins (nuts, beans, spinach, seafood, meat, liver). They are the ones responsible for emotional balance. Another option is to take vitamins.
- Give up bad habits. Try to limit your consumption of coffee and alcoholic beverages. Quit smoking. Such addictions greatly undermine the human psyche.
How to bring back the joy of life?
Positive emotions are very important. But how to get them? Don't wait for someone to come and pull you out of your sad thoughts. Get started on your own:
In conclusion, I would like to add that the thoughts “how tired I am” are just thoughts. They only become a problem if you get too hung up on them. So isn't it better to spend this time on something more pleasant and useful?
Irina, Rostov-on-Don