The first husband of Sogdiana. Singer Sogdiana: I am grateful to the fathers of my sons. Origin of stage name

There, by the way, the ex-spouses met - the singer was born and raised in Uzbekistan... In the summer of this year, Sogdiana finally convinced her ex-husband to sign a settlement agreement. They agreed that the boy’s permanent place of residence would be with his father, in Tashkent. And regarding the child’s upbringing, the parents decided that they would do it together, in turns: for some time he would live with his father, for some time with his mother. “Thank God, now we are both ready to do anything for the good of our son. Previously, Ram, apparently, was afraid: since he forcibly took the child from me, then I, too, would try to act in a similar way.

But over time, I became convinced that I was not my son’s enemy, and in no case did I want to create a stressful situation for him or expose him to new experiences. Fortunately, time smooths things out. Our grievances, misunderstandings - everything has passed, everything has been forgotten. And now we've come to unanimous opinion that Arjun is my child, and we will communicate with him as much as we want. Most importantly, Ram realized that our son really needed dear mother, no one can replace her,” says the singer.

After the necessary papers were signed, Sogdiana began to think about how best to meet with Arjun, so as not to traumatize his psyche too much. Since she was told that the boy (he will soon be three years old) is very impressionable and vulnerable by nature, the singer decided that their meeting should take place at his home, on his territory, in an environment familiar to the child.

Sogdiana could not suddenly break away from Moscow to Tashkent - she younger son From his second marriage, Mikail is still very small, she feeds him breast milk. And then my husband Bashir (they got married a year ago) said: “Go calmly, don’t worry. And we will wait for your return. Just don’t worry too much so that Arjun doesn’t feel your inner jitters.” “Of course, I tried very hard to cope with my anxiety, but nothing worked. While I was flying on the plane to Tashkent, everyone imagined our meeting, and I couldn’t believe that very soon I would see my son. I was shaking from the inside, I was tense, compressed like a spring. I was terribly afraid that Arjunya wouldn’t recognize me, would be scared, would cry, and wouldn’t come to me.

I thought how I could survive this, what would happen to my heart, which was already fluttering wildly in my chest... When the nanny opened the door for me, and Arjun stood next to her on the threshold, I could not utter a word. She just looked at him without stopping. And the nanny asked: “Oh, Arjun, who came to you?” “Mom,” he answered calmly. And I was relieved a little...

I didn’t immediately attack my son with kisses, I was afraid to scare him. I was waiting for him to get used to me a little and come up on his own. He took me to his room, began to sort out the gifts that I had brought him, and showed me his toys. He walked nearby and looked carefully. And when I asked him to take me for a ride in his big car, he said: “No, I won’t take me for a ride.” Trying to start a conversation, I said: “Oh, what a pity. Mom will be upset and cry.” And then Arjunya suddenly did frightened eyes, ran up to me, hugged me, and began to feel sorry for me - apparently so that I wouldn’t be upset.

Singer Sogdiana is one of the brightest graduates of the popular musical television project “Star Factory”. A native of Uzbekistan skillfully dances and performs compositions in oriental style. Few people know that the singer’s real name is Oksana Nechitailo. The artist managed to be married twice and give birth to two sons. At one time, the press was stirred up by the story of the secret abduction of one of her boys - the first husband then took the child to India.

Where is Sogdiana's son from his first marriage now? Who forced the artist to change her faith? Did she manage to improve relationships with her ex-husbands? And does the singer want to get married again? The singer answered these and other questions to the host of the “Oh Mommy” program, Angelica Raj.

Sogdiana, I know that you are from Tashkent, and many people think that you are Uzbek by nationality. Your fans are starting heated discussions on the Internet about your origin. Let's satisfy the public's curiosity, so who are you really?

I have never hidden this. Indeed, I was born in Uzbekistan, in the city of Tashkent. My parents are Ukrainians. My grandfather was a military man, a colonel Soviet army. And for his great merits he was given the opportunity to purchase an apartment in any city Soviet Union. My grandmother asked it to be Tashkent: it’s warm, delicious...

But at the same time you perform music in an oriental style. Your stage image is that of an oriental beauty. Why did you rely on the East in your work?

Since childhood I have absorbed this musical culture and this mentality. So I know how to do it.

Sogdiana, your personal life is simply an action-packed drama worthy of film adaptation. You said that you perceived your divorces as a huge tragedy. Why is this so?

Then yes. But now I take it as a lesson. Well, why should I continue to grieve and shed tears now? Of course, I didn't want this to happen. My mom and dad lived together for 45 years, and there were no other options for me.

Your first husband is Indian, your second is Ingush. This is the East and the Caucasus. And you call the reason for your divorces the pathological jealousy of your husbands. But you cannot help but know that the East and Caucasus have their own idea of family values. Why couldn't you fit into their framework?

I always wanted to be married. And yet there are always two people to blame. That's all I can say.

The press calls your first husband an Indian millionaire, your second - a Dagestan oligarch. Where did your paths cross?

I met the father of my first child when I performed at his birthday party. He saw me on stage. Then it was very difficult for me to hide from him. He overtook me everywhere, acted assertively, and didn’t even ask me. That's what he decided and that's it.

And with the second - Bashir - there was a whole Detective story. He helped me a lot during the divorce process. That's how it all started.

- Was he as persistent as his first husband? It turns out that you are chosen, and not you choose?

Yes, I probably agree here.

- I know that when your first husband secretly took away your son, you did not see each other for several years. Is your son Arjun with you now?

Now it’s like this: when dad comes, he’s with dad. When dad leaves, he is with us. Now he doesn’t even remember the time when he lived separately, and I really don’t want to remind him of this. Of course, it was very difficult, there were very long negotiations.

- What persuaded his father to allow you to meet his son and communicate with him?

I think that first of all, the child himself. Because when the emotions subsided, the baby came to the fore, who, of course, needed a mother, and not a nanny. For him, dad is an unconditional authority, but he soon realized that the child was missing something. No matter how many different toys he has, everything he wants, his mother is his mother. Now we are communicating with his father. For me, a bad peace is better than a good war. The fact that I even told this story about the kidnapping was a step of desperation, I thought that I would somehow protect myself with this. But in the end, no, she didn’t protect her, and even made her angry.

Your first husband Ram is a Buddhist, your second husband Bashir is a Muslim, and you are Orthodox. Have there been times when your husbands persuaded you to accept their faith?

Yes it was, but it is very important for me to be accepted for who I am. Part of my life is creativity. How I dress or how I address God are personal issues, and the person next to me needs to initially accept them.

I did it international family. I grew up in Uzbekistan, and I myself am Ukrainian. And in general, I don’t divide people by nationality and faith. Yes, I have different faiths, but it’s all about one thing, albeit on different languages. We talk to our sons before going to bed, and the youngest, Mikail, says: “I’ll say a prayer now.” And reads a Muslim prayer. I say: “Well done, son!” And the second one - Arjun - lies and does not know what to do. I say: “And you pray, as dad teaches you.” And he read his very beautiful prayer. And I read mine, the Orthodox one. And I say: “You see, we are a family, we are one whole, you just expressed your gratitude to God in your own way, and you said the same thing in another language. But the meaning is the same.”

- The eldest son is a Buddhist, the youngest is a Muslim, doesn’t this create difficulties in communication?

No, there are absolutely no difficulties. The only thing our dads asked me was that the children should not eat beef, since Hindus do not eat it, and pork, since Muslims do not eat it. That's why we eat turkey, rabbit, chicken, and fish.

- Do you admit that you will marry again a person of a different faith and different views?

Another faith - yes, it doesn’t matter. But other views are unlikely. I have absolutely normal values. I just want a family, and I have it. I have wonderful children and a mother. I work and go home. There is no such thing that I dance somewhere until the morning, forgetting about home or my responsibilities. I just want my loved ones to understand my work. Some people work from 9:00 to 18:00, while others have a different schedule. It is necessary that close people treat this with understanding. If I stand on stage and people look at me, this does not mean that I am an approachable person.

- There was probably work main reason your divorces? Jealousy for work, for the stage, for fans...

Someday I'll tell you about it. Why don’t I finish saying something?.. In any family life a lot of things happen, and it’s better not to tell anyone about it at all. I am so grateful to my husbands that my children are with me now. Yes, there were difficulties, but I am glad that now we are friends with my ex-husbands. We agree on everything normally and see each other. These are the people I can always count on. It is important.

- Do you want to get married again?

In general, yes! The main thing is that this time everything works out.

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Sogdiana (real name Oksana Nechitailo) is one of the few students of “” who has not been forgotten. Proof of her relevance are the Golden Gramophone awards, the titles of People's Artist of the Chechen Republic and Honored Artist of Ingushetia, and constant participation in popular musical events covering the post-Soviet space.

Childhood and youth

The performer was born in Tashkent in February 1984. Despite the pronounced Asian features, Sogdiana is Ukrainian by nationality. The family came to Uzbekistan thanks to their grandfather, a soldier.

The singer's parents had nothing to do with art. Father Vladimir Nechitailo worked as an engineer at a compressor plant, mother Larisa Fedorinskaya worked as a dispatcher at a car depot. The couple raised two children - Oksana and Sergei, their brother is 12 years older.

The love of singing was instilled in Sogdiana by her beloved grandmother, who at one time sang in the church choir. The girl learned the basics of playing the piano at a special school at the conservatory, and at the age of 14 she became a laureate of the republican piano competition. In addition to academic music, Oksana was attracted pop singing. In 1999, she was a prize-winner of the popular song competition “SADO-99” among professional performers.

After graduating from school, Nechitailo entered the Uzbek State Conservatory, in the pop department. And a new peak was immediately taken musical Olympus- Oksana won the Republican modern song competition “Melodies of My Land”, and a year later she stormed the stage international competition in St. Petersburg “Path to the Stars”, where she also became a laureate.

This was followed by festivals in Bulgaria and Italy, from where the girl also brought prize figurines.

Music

In 2001, 17-year-old Sogdiana recorded her debut album “Mening Kunglim” (“My Soul”), which contained songs in Russian, Uzbek and English languages. In their native Uzbekistan they started talking about a new rising star.

After 2 years, the singer received her first award - the state youth award of the country “Nihol” (“Rostock”). In 2005, Oksana Nechitailo presented the disc “My Prince... Still Will Come!”, which included “My Prince”, “Don’t Hope”, “What Should I Do”, “Don’t Come” and “Heart Magnet”, recorded a year earlier.

Then the girl managed to star in the film “Khoja Nasreddin”. The first film role brought incredible success. But, having seemingly reached the pinnacle of popularity in the republic, the artist realized that she needed to move on. First of all, Oksana came up with a stage name for herself and became Sogdiana. This was the name of an ancient rich state, which, according to legend, was located on the territory of modern Uzbekistan. According to scientists, that country is the cradle of civilization.

In 2006, Sogdiana became a contestant at the Star Factory. This TV show revealed the artist’s name to Russians. And “Heart Magnet” turned into the calling card of an Uzbek star and entered the top 5 of the rating greatest hits year and brought the first “Golden Gramophone”. The girl received the second same award for the composition “Blue Sky”. For the third time, Sogdiana became the winner of the Golden Gramophone in 2008 with the song “Catch Up with the Wind.”

In 2011, the album “Eden” was added to the discography, which included the songs “East of Eden”, “With or Without You”, “Remember Me”, “The Sky in Diamonds”. In the same year, Sogdiana played in a film named after her and filmed according to a script specially written for her.

In 2014, the girl released a video for the hit “Lightning” and sang the song “Epidemic” in Uzbek and Russian. Soon appeared new clip"A bird without a wing." Then the fans received a gift - the composition “Nothing Is Impossible,” which Sogdiana performed with.

By the way, she has few joint performances: with and during the “Factory”, with the Tatar performer, Azerbaijani Khayyam Nisanov.

A duet with a colleague from Kazakhstan, Abdulkarim, competed for the Eurasian Music Awards. In October 2017, the video for the hit “Indivisible” premiered.

In 2018, the artist went to Baku for her first “Heat” festival, the peculiarity of which is that the award winners are chosen by the musicians themselves. IN " Instagram"The singer posted a corresponding video. Sogdiana did not receive any awards, but the press noted her elegant and stylish outfits, which stand out against the general flashy background with their originality and femininity. In September, the singer presented new album"I choose you".

Personal life

Sogdiana’s personal life was not easy at first. In 2007, the singer met Indian Ram Govinda, who performed at his birthday party. The marriage produced a son, Arjun. But then the husband began to create scandals and forbade her to go on stage and communicate with friends. The couple divorced a year later.

For all 3 pregnancies, the mother of many children gained excess weight, sometimes up to 30 kg, which with a height of 175 cm seemed critical. But, according to Sogdiana, the swimming pool and a picky attitude towards food helped her cope. And then, one concert is equivalent in load to 3 classes in gym. A main recipe losing weight - loving yourself and feeling psychological comfort every day.

The artist does not plan to stay on maternity leave, because she is inspired by what is happening in life and wants to share this joy with the audience. New songs are ready. The composition “Catch”, the video for which Sogdiana shot 2 months before giving birth, has already been presented to the public.

Discography

• 2001 - “My Soul”
• 2005 - “My prince... He will still come!”
• 2008 - “Heart Magnet”
• 2011 - “Eden”
• 2018 - “I choose you”

At the age of 26, singer Sogdiana had already survived a difficult divorce, after which her foreign husband took her son to India to be raised, successfully remarried and gave birth to another son. Today she is full of creative energy, she recently released a new album.

Don't you think that some moments in your life are like a movie?

Yes, I generally have one continuous movie and it’s not always a comedy... It’s a series, one might say. I think my life can be filmed interesting film multi-part and everything will be there... It will not yield to any Mexican series in terms of passion. Life turned out to be a good screenwriter, unexpected and interesting. Sometimes these plot twists happen!

Blitz survey “Cleo”:
— Are you friends with the Internet?
— I made friends, but I haven’t been sucked into it yet. (Laughs). I'm working on my website, using search engines, watching videos, but in social networks I'm not here.

— What is an unaffordable luxury for you?
— I can’t afford a vacation yet. But I really, really want to.

— Where did you spend your last vacation?
— I was in Dubai. My husband and I swam, sunbathed, and saw the sights. We went to the largest aquarium in the world.

— Did you have a nickname as a child?
- Yes. At school they called me a giraffe because I was the tallest in the class.

—Are you an owl or a lark?
- Owl.

— How do you relieve stress?
- Valerian. (Laughs).

Yeah, everyone knows about your melodramatic story with your ex-husband and son (Recall that Ram’s ex-husband stole his son from Sogdiana and took him to India). Tell me, how are things going now? Do you see your eldest son?

If possible, of course, we will see each other. Not the way I would like to see him every day, every hour. But, unfortunately, it doesn’t work out that way, but I’m happy that we see each other. I know many examples where women do not see their children at all, so I am grateful that the situation is this way. I think that in the future my ex-husband will be even more loyal. And we will see our son even more often.

What do you do when you meet?

We play, of course... He is so uncommunicative now... Apparently, he has more adults around him, and therefore he is a little isolated. He loves to walk in parks, sit near the fountain, walk around, touch some water, and feed the ducks. That is, some noisy events: slides, circuses are not for him. He doesn’t like all this and, I would even say, avoids it.

Of course, I’m a little upset, because it seems to me that as a child you have to experience all this: circuses, clowns, and slides to the point of nausea - this is normal for a child. I think that over time he will understand that this is all interesting.

Is a serious man growing up?

Yes, serious. For this birthday I gave him a house, and they tell me that he simply does not leave there. This is such a big children's playhouse. As they tell me, he put all his toys there, he also has a mattress there, he rests there during the day. You can invite friends, nanny, dad there. Of course, I imagine how great and fun it is, but I really want to join them, I want to go see him again in the near future.

What language do you speak?

Speaks Russian.

Also knows and uses English and Indian words. I think it’s good, he will have three languages ​​at once. They study English with him. In general, I am in favor of him knowing his native language, English and, of course, Russian, where he would be without it.

How is your second son doing?

We are already 8 months old, he is already crawling with all his might, already sitting down, very cheerful, smiling, friendly. I like that he understands humor. When, for example, you make a face at him, he starts laughing! He understands that you are playing with him like this. Sometimes he even asks to be played with like this. Such a good guy. Pah-pah-pah. I am very pleased that he likes to spend time with me. And if I leave, he begins to protest, immediately pulls the handle, cries... Therefore, I have to distract him with toys and cars. And if I need to run errands, I quietly run away. (Laughs).

Well, of course, you always want to go home to him as soon as possible. It is simply unbearable for me not to see him for a whole day or even two. I really want to organize my schedule so that I can spend more time with him.

Do you sit with your son yourself and change diapers?

-What turns you on?
— My main energizer is my child.

—Which animal do you associate yourself with?
— My husband says that I am a tigress. But they tell me that I look like a doe.

— Do you have a talisman?
- No. I don't like talismans. You can't get attached to them. Because if I suddenly forget it somewhere, I’ll think that now I won’t succeed.

— What melody is on your mobile phone?
- On my Vertu - a standard melody, on an iPhone - a standard iPhone melody.

— What is your psychological age?
“Sometimes, when they trick me, I feel like a complete girl... And sometimes it seems to me that I’ve been living for a long time.”

— What is your favorite aphorism?
“My husband often says: “Those born to crawl cannot fly.”

Naturally. And if last time I had nannies and assistants who stayed with the child around the clock, they physically did not have the opportunity to leave, since they were from Bryansk. Now I spend most of the time with him myself, no one stays at night, I’m with him all the time. It seems to me that this is more correct.

How then do you manage to combine child care and work?

It is not so difficult. If I go to some filming or event, I don’t stay there for long, I don’t hang out like many artists, but I go straight home. Yes, I travel quite a lot, film a lot, but I’m strict, I arrive right at the beginning of the event. Well, how long can a shoot or a commissioned concert last - 40 minutes, well, an hour. And then run home to my son. In my opinion, the main thing is to want and explain it to the people you work with, and everything will work out.

Don't you take it with you anywhere?

Not yet, he's so small. But there are thoughts that soon it will be possible to take him with you little by little. And to teach him that besides the people who surround him, there is another world, other people. Even at the ninth month, children already know and understand who is theirs and who is a stranger. And they react very negatively to strangers.

I really want him to be sociable and sociable. I really want to teach him to this. Therefore, when he grows up, I will definitely take him with me. Not everywhere, of course, but I will definitely attend some significant and interesting events.

Do you do the housework yourself or do you have an assistant?

Of course, there is an assistant. But I often cook myself. When I have time, I cook with pleasure; I am very pleased to please my family with my dishes. Not to order something from a restaurant, but to cook something with your soul. It’s very nice, especially if it’s delicious and everyone likes it.

Do you have signature dish?

When I didn’t know how to cook, I knew what to say: I have a signature dish such and such. Because you can’t do anything else, and when you already know how, it’s very difficult to say what your signature skill is. I cook everything. If they tell me “We want pilaf” or “Make samsa” - please... Bashir has his favorite flatbreads - I make them with pleasure. And even if I don’t know how to do something, I’ll see how to cook it. Although I remember one time something didn’t work out for me, I threw away half of it. I have a problem with heat in general. I don’t always succeed in frying, because I’m afraid I won’t cook it enough, and in the end I overcook it so much that you can’t get it out of the frying pan... It turns out something oaky and black. (Laughs). I even got burns from the oil. (Shows hand). But I can cook, bake, bake, fry without oil. And I’m afraid of using oil, but everyone says that it’s harmful, which means it’s not necessary. (Laughs).

You said that your husband loves flatbreads, but what kind of flatbreads are they?

This is a traditional dish that his mother has been preparing since childhood. She taught me. Flatbreads and national pies. You can simply prepare them like bread, or you can make them with pumpkin, cabbage, potatoes, cheese, meat, whatever. This is such a versatile thing that can be eaten for breakfast or just as bread. In any case, they are always welcome on the table.

Did your husband's mother teach you to cook?

Yes. I've heard a lot about how wonderful she cooks. Bashir said that no one cooks so quickly and so tasty! In general, she became such a role model. She came, we met, she treated me very well, like a daughter, with all her heart. And she showed me some things. More precisely, she just cooked, and I watched. Now I can call her at any time and clarify some things. She is an amazing housewife, all hand movements are polished, everything is clear and fast, and how she works with dough! I still have to study and study.

To be honest, at first I was even scared: could I do it? But the eyes are afraid, but the hands do. But before that I couldn’t even fry sausages. Of course, I didn’t succeed right away; at first everything was not so smooth, but, most importantly, it was delicious. It's working out better now.

It turns out that your husband has an example ideal woman and the mistress is his mother. But you are a creative person, you have no time for cooking, you are constantly at concerts and on the road. How does your spouse feel about this?

He takes it very well and, most importantly, he understands me. I told him from the very beginning that I creative person And I’m not a housewife, there are some things I can’t do no matter how hard I try. And he understands this very well. In our family life there is no such obligatory point that I have to wash, clean, iron and the like. But if our au pair suddenly doesn’t come, and my house isn’t cleaned, I won’t walk and step over the dirt. In no case! I’ll take it and clean everything myself, I love order.

Isn’t your husband jealous of your fans and popularity?

Never noticed. On the contrary, he is proud of me, he is pleased when I am praised, invited to concerts when there is filming.

And you new material are you showing him?

Is he criticizing?

Happens. We even argue sometimes. It happened with one song. I feel like I’m mine, but he says: no, not yours. When I receive a demo recording of a new song, I already understand what it will look like in the end, but he doesn’t see big picture. But when I recorded the song in the studio, he admitted that I was right. Well, in a dispute the truth is born.

In general, we don’t argue often, we communicate more, discuss and come to a common opinion. He suggests something, but leaves me the opportunity to make a decision myself.

Many women, after an unsuccessful first marriage, are afraid to get married a second time. Didn't you have this fear?

In my opinion, the main thing is to listen to your heart. And trust your first feeling. Our first sensations are what our heart says, and then we begin to think, analyze, and then our mind speaks. I listened to my heart.