Mental pain, suffering - every person experienced this torment. Resentment from betrayal, betrayal, injustice, grief, melancholy - all these feelings are associated with pain that cannot be relieved with medication.
Unfortunately, many people, trying to escape the pain that torments them, find themselves trapped in addictions. This applies to alcohol, drugs, addiction gambling.
Running away from problems is for the weak. It sounds corny, but it's true. Most people, who tend not to take responsibility for their lives, who look for the cause of failures and mental discomfort from the outside, cannot survive the slightest pain and do everything not to feel it, which only aggravates the situation.
On the other hand, mental pain pushes creative people to create masterpieces; for example, the most beautiful poems are written precisely in a state of mental anguish, looking for a way out.
What to do when your soul hurts?
Let's consider several possible situations when torment arises, and try to understand how you can heal mental wounds.
Hidden benefit
Psychological work with a problem begins with establishing its cause. If you communicate with people who constantly "hit" the possibility, you will not need psychotherapy. It will be enough to change your environment. But if you deliberately find yourself next to such people over and over again, it makes sense to think about why you need this. What pushes you to such “self-torture”? Is there some hidden benefit for you in this?
Very often it causes severe mental pain. In this case, treatment will be useless as long as there is a need to achieve hidden goals. In order to do so, it is necessary to identify them and revise them.
Grief
Another common cause of mental pain is a prolonged experience, for example, from a person or from the loss of a close relative.
In these cases, the help of a psychologist is often necessary, but the person himself can take steps to get rid of the problem.
Firstly, there is no need to fuel memories by looking at photographs of departed people or listening to sad music. Secondly, try to switch your attention to new activities, do what you like most, and most importantly, do not be alone.
When experiencing grief, there is a period when you need to endure sharp pain, let her go. A psychotherapist can help with this. If you are unable to forget the deceased person, try to mentally talk to him and say goodbye. Left alone, light a candle, think about the one who left, internally let him go, making the decision to continue living. Very often, such a choice requires real courage.
Bodily tension
Any phenomena of our consciousness, one way or another, manifest themselves at the bodily level. Acute mental pain leads to the appearance of areas of tension, or muscle tension, in the body. For example, a hunched, tense back, “petrified” shoulders, clenched jaws. Such manifestations are a consequence of restraint. Movement frees the body, returns life to it, and, as a result, mental pain ceases to be unbearable, it “blooms” and gradually goes away. Try to move more, walk, play sports, even if at first it will be difficult for you to force yourself to devote time to this. This will help you cope with pain.
Working with Restraint
You often hear: “Don’t keep your grief to yourself, talk it out, you will feel better.” This is true. On initial stage a person needs to release negative emotions and share experiences with loved ones. If you have no one to talk to, you can do simple work: take a piece of paper and write on it what worries you, torments you, what hurts your soul. If you write sincerely and do not hold back, you will quickly feel relief. This work is useful in that it helps to better understand oneself, and the experiences taken outside no longer seem so scary and insurmountable. By the way, it is recommended to destroy the piece of paper after completing the work. For example, it can be burned. This symbolic action will help you let go. negative emotions.
Defeat
Mental pain can also be caused by the experience of defeat in a matter that is very important to a person. In this case, the memories come back again and again, a feeling of shame arises, and thoughts of what should have been done are tormented. Similar state of mind will be cured if a person finds the cause of his defeat and builds a different course of action. You need to stop self-searching and understand what led to failure, and what qualities you need to change in yourself to avoid this in the future.
In general, the psychology of experience is built on looking for support in your mind, and only then working with feelings. is the master of himself and his life, which allows him to experience negative emotions without being captured by them. In addition, having learned to think and build our lives correctly, we begin to work for the future, eliminating the occurrence of mental pain and developing resilience in the face of a variety of life circumstances.
Heartache allows you to gain new experience and maturity. The main thing is not to be afraid to live in the present to the fullest, rejoicing, grieving, suffering, learning lessons and achieving new victories. After all, we all came into this world to experience the fullness of existence, and not to hide in a cocoon of experiences. Think about it, you can live and continuously move forward, or you can “experience”, that is, remain in place while life passes by. The choice is yours.
A person experiences mental pain for various reasons. Some lose loved ones, others break up with a loved one. It is not always possible to suppress sadness and start with clean slate. Healing mental wounds requires time, effort and constant work on oneself. A depressed state often results in prolonged depression, so it is important to find a balance in time so as not to aggravate the situation.
Unleash your feelings
Don't ignore the fact that sadness is drawing you deeper and deeper. The heart hurts and the soul cries, this is normal. Turn on a hot shower and cry, beat the mattress, scream, just don’t keep it all to yourself. Try to find the balance that makes you feel as comfortable as possible.
Don’t fake a smile, pretending that everything is fine. There is also no need to constantly think about what happened, provoking a nervous breakdown. Home meditation or yoga classes will help you find harmony. These directions are created for healing the soul and solitude with one’s own “I”.
In cases where the above methods are not suitable, create a “sanctuary” in your apartment. Set up a cozy corner, hang curtains in pastel colors, buy soft pillows. Obviously, at first you won’t want to go outside for a long time, but you shouldn’t delay it. When in Once again tears will come, go back to your cozy corner, brew a mug green tea with honey and close your eyes.
Control your actions and mind
There are often cases when a person experiences mental pain and remains in it for a long time. Try to look for a way out so as not to drown in despair. It’s one thing if you decide to wait a week to cope with the torment, it’s another thing when you fall into a prolonged depression.
During heartache, each of us goes through certain stages on the path to healing (grief, anger, indifference, anxiety, fear and humility). Analyze your own actions, think about what helps you move forward.
Perhaps the transition from sadness to dissatisfaction was carried out with the help physical activity or permanent employment at work. When motivation is found, use it to move on to the remaining stages until you accept what happened.
There are no people who can do without social communication. Family and friends will always support you and fill the void with advice or words of regret. Invite a friend over and cook delicious dinner or order pizza at home, turn on interesting film on a neutral topic. Speak out, ask what she would do in your place, listen to practical advice.
Make it a habit to organize such gatherings every evening over a cup of tea or delicious ice cream. You should not drink alcohol even in small quantities. Under the influence of alcohol will rush powerful emotions, which you definitely won’t be able to cope with.
If communicating with people is not an option, buy a diary. Conduct a frank dialogue in it, transfer all the pain and accumulated torment to paper. When the time comes and you can let go of what happened, you will need to burn the written sheets and move on to a new stage.
Would you like to keep a diary? It's okay, get a pet. You should not buy a dog if you are not ready for such a serious step. Choose a parrot (preferably a talking one), a cat or fish. The new inhabitant will give strength, as he requires attention, affection and communication. Focus on your pet, take care of it, invest all your love and energy.
Remove material memories
If you are lost loved one, you shouldn’t throw away his things, that would be mean. Collect them in a box and carefully place them in the far corner of the closet. Restore everything to its place when the pain subsides. If you have broken up with a loved one who broke your heart through his own actions, get rid of the “evidence” forever. Take personal items, shaving accessories, and photo frames to the trash. Delete pictures from your PC and phone, erase the number.
If not all items make you remember what happened, sort it. Take the thing in your hand and pay attention to the first associations. Does a wall collage make you cry? Remove and dispose of it. Does the smell of perfume drive you crazy? Remove from sight. Bed linen does not cause negative feelings? Leave it. Repeat the steps with each item that misleads you.
Take a break from what's happening
Pick up a book you've been wanting to read for a long time. Start watching a new series or find a hobby. Sign up for dancing, go to a trial class in stretching, Pilates or yoga. Call your friends, invite them to bowling, a water park or a picnic. Try to spend as little time alone as possible, communicate with interesting people.
If professional employment involves an ongoing work process, throw yourself into it headlong. Improve your qualifications or learn a new specialty. Visit distant relatives, take an outing every weekend.
It's good if you have the opportunity to go abroad. It is not necessary to buy expensive tours for 2 weeks; a three-day trip to the sea or to countries with a large concentration of attractions will be enough.
When a person begins to fantasize or imagine good moments, he is automatically healed. There is nothing wrong with dreams, visualize everything to the smallest detail. Imagine swimming in the sea or driving a newly purchased car.
Find 15-20 minutes a day for a flight of fancy. During a short stay in virtual world the border with reality is erased, existing problems become less important.
Turn on your favorite music, find a comfortable position and close your eyes. Experts have proven more than once that music therapy has a beneficial effect on nervous system and improves mood. Endorphins released fight stress and smooth out difficult perceptions of reality. After 5 sessions, your attitude towards what is happening changes, and strength appears for new achievements.
Avoid sad memories
You have already gotten rid of things that can remind you of what happened. At this stage, it is necessary to suppress negative memories that bring you to your original state. A regular song playing that day or a walk in familiar places can trigger new stress.
It is not forbidden to think about what happened, but thoughts should be directed in a positive direction. If you notice that sadness will soon come, switch to something neutral or cheerful. Go for a walk where you have never been before, go to a river or lake.
Time will pass, you will learn to live with it, you will be able to easily switch from a once painful topic to completely opposite things. Now it seems to you that it will not get better, but this is not so. Soon the events will be in the past, and you will find the strength to move on.
It is impossible to survive mental pain without changing yourself. Change the decor in the apartment, make cosmetic repairs, rearrange the furniture. If you don’t want to be in this home, move to new house or another city.Pay attention to appearance
Get your hair, face, and figure in order. Go shopping and buy beautiful things that fit perfectly. Find an extreme hobby, go swimming or master snowboarding techniques.
Avoid shaving your head, getting tattoos, or wearing bright colors. Leave such changes for later. Meet new people, spend more time with them. Such a move will not allow discussing the sad events that have happened every half hour.
Develop materially and enrich yourself spiritually
Master literature on sociology, history, psychology or business. Find a profitable job, set a goal and move forward to achieve it. In order not to relax, make a bet with your friends.
Don't keep your emotions in your head similar cases There is a possible risk of depression. Invite your friends over, talk it out, spend time having intimate conversations. Monitor your thoughts and actions, do not force memories. Step back, find something interesting to do, go visit relatives or friends.
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In the most severe illnesses We also need the strongest means, precisely applied.(Hippocrates)
Pain is something that everyone is familiar with. Pain can be different: physical and internal or mental (in psychology such pain is called psychalgia). Any pain is heaviness, torment, suffering. We perceive pain as cruel punishment, injustice, evil... This is what we want to stop.
So how can we stop it?
How to deal with pain?
First, let's admit that pain is not evil. Pain is our hardwired last resort to force us to take care of ourselves. We wouldn't live to see today if there was no pain.
If there was no pain, then we would not feel tooth decay, and then we would lose all our teeth.
If there was no pain, then no one would think of treating bruises, fractures, or internal diseases. This means that we would only live to see our first serious illness. If we didn’t feel pain, we wouldn’t understand that something was wrong with our body, and we wouldn’t go to specialists for help.
Pain is our most faithful assistant, protecting our lives and our well-being. Pain warns worst consequences, drawing our attention to the fact that something is wrong with us and demands that we fix them.
How to respond to pain?
What would you say if you saw a picture like this... A person who bought a new expensive car, equipped with a good alarm system, wakes up at night because the alarm system is screaming throughout the entire yard. Without finding out the reason, he begins to scold the alarm. In his opinion, it is the alarm system that is to blame, which does not allow him to sleep. Not the thieves who break into the car, not he himself, who out of laziness does not want to go out and look or call the police, but the alarm system! Of course, we will consider such a person not particularly smart (to say the least).
Or another situation... A person suffers pain, despite the fact that everyone around him recommends urgently seeing a doctor. He himself believes that only pain bothers him. At first he tolerates it, then tries to drown it out with painkillers. The pain continues to intensify, but in the end it turns out that if he had contacted him right away, the doctor would have helped him avoid serious consequences for the body. Now the unpleasant consequences are obvious. Is this person smart?
Oh, how we ourselves are like these characters when we suffer from mental pain! Unfortunately, we often do not want to see the reasons for our mental pain. For some reason, we stupidly endure, suffer, suffer, reach despair (even suicide), try different ways to drown out the pain, we try to fight it, forget ourselves, but... we don’t hear its signal, we don’t correct its cause.
People whose mental pain is so great that they want to free themselves from this pain by committing suicide are like those who struggle with alarms and fuses, not with the real reason. They believe that one can be freed from mental pain by destroying the body. It’s not the body that hurts! It’s the same as if a person has a stomach ulcer and he tries to cure it by amputating his leg!..
So what's wrong when your soul hurts?
A normal person understands that it is not pain itself that prevents us from living, but the reason that causes this pain. Therefore, when something hurts in our body, we try to understand the location of the pain and find its cause. If there is hope that the cause can correct itself, we wait, endure, taking painkillers, and if we understand that the cause remains and the pain does not go away, then we go to the doctor, undergo a diagnostic test, and with the help of an appropriate specialist we correct this cause. If your kidney hurts, we go to a urologist, if your throat hurts, go to an otolaryngologist, if your stomach hurts, go to a gastroenterologist, if your heart hurts, go to a cardiologist. And who should you turn to if your soul hurts?
When the body hurts, we understand that from the nerve endings at the point where the disease is localized, a signal about trouble comes to the corresponding part of the brain.
Where and where does the signal come from in case of mental pain? Have you ever thought about this?
No? And why? This is worth thinking about carefully...
Maybe the signal arrives in the brain in an unknown way? Maybe it comes to the heart, because sometimes it hurts from worry? Could it be that the solar plexus is the seat of spiritual pain?
Alas. Science decisively and unequivocally states that human consciousness is not localized in the body. That is, no clot nerve cells, even the brain, cannot and does not perform the function of what we call human consciousness. In the near future, our article on this topic will be posted on the website with links to many authoritative sources of high and impartial science.
Therefore, if you are a purely materialist and completely deny the existence of the soul, the invisible world and everything connected with it, we can make you happy: it means that nothing hurts you. Because according to science, there is no consciousness in the material body, which means there can be no mental pain. Therefore, you can now begin to rejoice - just as materially as you suffer - and finish reading this article.
Psychology - a science whose very name contains recognition of the existence of the soul (psyche - soul, logos - to know) - lost a lot when it abandoned the very concept of the soul. That is, it sets itself the task of treating the soul, which it has ceased to recognize, but has not introduced any other reasonable understanding of the soul. The situation is simply absurd. How can you treat an organ if you don’t recognize it and know nothing about it? Therefore, traditional psychology almost always throws up its hands in the case of mental pain. With the help of modern pharmacological drugs, you can reduce the intensity of the pain of the soul, with the help of psychotherapeutic techniques, distract from the pain, learn to live with it, even drown out this pain for a certain time, but despite the vast experience accumulated over a century and a half, modern psychology does not have the ability to influence the eradication reasons leading to this severe pain.
Why does the soul hurt? (Let's say right away that we are not considering cases of severe mental illness - schizophrenia, etc. - which occur in suicide victims in approximately 20% of cases.)
Just as the body hurts because we damage it in some way or do not give it what it needs, so does the soul. What does the soul need?
One of the modern priests writes:
“It is well known that ignoring the deepest aspirations human spirit gives rise to the very distortion of human nature that is traditionally called sin - the source of disease. Therefore, the most important thing for a sick person is reconciliation with God, restoration of trampled or lost manifestations of the human spirit. Reconciliation with God is repentance, this awareness of one’s sin, awareness of responsibility for one’s life, for the state into which a person has driven himself and the desire, the thirst to begin new life, reconciling with God and asking Him for forgiveness.
Since ancient times, the Church has always associated illness with the internal state of a person, with human sin. Therefore, the basis of the church Sacrament of Anointing for the healing of the sick is a prayer for the forgiveness of sins. And regardless of whether we resort to the Sacrament of Anointing, or we are going to be treated, the first thing we must start with is awareness of our responsibility, awareness of our sin and the will of God for you to be healthy.”
Sin is not a fashionable word. Perhaps because people who are far from the Church understand by it a violation of some rules, the observance of which is required of us by God, and not at all by ourselves. After all, the motto of our time is “take everything from life.” And here for some reason they demand something from us. Of course, we can’t like this...
In fact, sin is a crime against one's own soul. If you compare it with the body, it’s like not feeding your body, like cutting it with a knife, hammering nails into it, pouring acid on it. God in in this case looks like a good doctor who stands next to him, with medical instruments and drugs at the ready, and asks us to quickly stop self-torture and come to him so that he can cure us.
If you observe yourself, every person can notice how unpleasant it becomes in his soul when he does something bad. For example, he will get angry with someone, become cowardly, upset someone, take a bribe, not give someone what he asks for, or cheat on his wife. As such actions accumulate, it becomes harder and harder for the soul. And we forget what real, pure, childish joy is. We are trying to replace joy with primitive pleasures. But they don’t make you happy, they only dull you. And the soul dries up and hurts more and more...
And when something happens an important event in our life - for example, some great loss, it does not even occur to us that the enormous pain that has befallen us is somehow connected with our mistakes. But that's exactly how it is. Pain in various crises of human relationships is caused by our vindictiveness, or hatred, or vanity. Pain when breaking love relationship would be many times less if the relationship itself were not overshadowed by resentment and selfishness. The pain of the death of a loved one is aggravated by murmuring against God. And so on.
The conclusion is the following: mental pain signals to us that something is wrong with the soul, perhaps we have wounded our soul somewhere and must correct ourselves.
Where is the pain of the soul treated?
If we have never dealt with our soul, believing that spiritual life consists of visiting theaters and reading novels, then we need help in treating mental pain, we cannot cope on our own.
Where to run when your soul hurts? Where to go for help?
Of course, it’s better to go to a place where you can definitely get treatment. This should be a place that has proven treatment traditions, tools and conditions for treatment, and most importantly, millions of cured patients.
In fact, we have already named the main and only Doctor of mental pain above. I have seen hundreds of people healed from heartache. And all of them were completely cured in only one place and only with a single Doctor. This hospital is the Church, and Chief Physician in it is the Lord God!
This Doctor, who does not treat for money, He does it selflessly and with great love. This Doctor is waiting for those who feel bad, because He is always ready to lend a helping hand. He doesn't have days off or lunch breaks. He is always ready to begin healing your soul.
This Doctor treats not with fake ones, but with eternally living, proven and very effective medications. He never refused to help anyone, but He will not force Himself on you, He will not persuade you to be treated by Him, because this Doctor respects your freedom and choice, and He does not need advertising. This Doctor simply sincerely wants to help you because he loves you. He is counting on your trust in Him and your fulfillment of His instructions.
If you still have little trust and therefore are still afraid to turn to Him, remember that you are not risking anything. You can commit suicide even after only a year of spiritual life. After all, you still have nothing to lose.
How does God heal heartache?
We have already found out that pain is caused by violations of the needs of the soul. This means that this pain must be treated by satisfying these needs.
Do not believe that the lists of human needs that are widely spread and practically canonized by populist psychologists (the most famous of them is Maslow’s pyramid), including self-realization, recognition, social status, communication, affection - this is really what a person needs. Even if you score 100 out of 100 according to this list, you will not be happy. Because happy is the one who satisfies the needs of the soul. And they differ from the mentioned list.
The main and only need of the soul is actually love. And God is love. Drawing closer to God increases love. Moving away from God through sins reduces love and increases mental pain.
This means that the soul does not need some little things. She needs God Himself. Only He can satisfy her needs.
And He is ready to give Himself to us. He wants to give himself to us and through this save us from pain and enlighten our souls with love.
Prayer is compared to the breath of the soul or food for the soul. Those who prayed experienced the truth of these comparisons for themselves. Science has not been able to touch or measure the substance that enters the soul during prayer. The Church calls this substance grace. Prayer is the fastest healer of mental pain.
An equally necessary source of grace for a person is the communion of the body and Blood of Christ. This article is not theological. We just want to point out to you the only thing Right way healing the soul from its pain. Therefore, regarding the great miracle of communion, we will only say that the fruits of this miracle are undoubted and tangible. Many people I know got rid of severe psychological disorders, physical illnesses, despair, depression after taking communion, and once, almost before my eyes, a woman recovered from melanoma (a very aggressive malignant tumor). Communion is preceded by the healing sacrament of repentance - confession. During confession, a person is forgiven all his confessed sins. It’s as if all the nails that he stuck into it are removed from his soul, and all the wounds he inflicts on himself are healed. A person's conscience becomes clear. Do you still remember how good it feels when your conscience is clear?
One can be satisfied with the short-term effect, the successful survival of a certain crisis. But then a new crisis will soon come. Perhaps heavier than before. If you do not want to experience pain, if you want to live in love and joy, you need to take care of your soul constantly.
You need to train yourself to give the soul what it needs and not do what hurts it. To do this you need to change your habits.
This is a long process that requires constant attention and effort. But as you, with the help of the Doctor, find your mistakes and correct them in the depths of your soul, the heaviness will leave you, a feeling of true joy will fill your soul.
The main work will be done not by you, but by this unappreciated, omniscient, loving Doctor. All you have to do is accept this wonderful gift of healing.
If you want to be physically healthy, you must follow the rules of hygiene. If you want to be healthy mentally, then you also need to observe your hygiene standards). As Professor Zurab Kekelidze, Deputy Director of the State scientific center social and forensic psychiatry named after V.P. Serbsky: “There is such a thing as mental hygiene. Don't do anything that harms your mental health! Read the Ten Commandments - everything is written there! We don’t know the laws, we do a lot of stupid things.”
This is evidenced by the experience of generations who lived before us. They understood this well, saw it, felt the results, and passed it on to their children.
And don’t scold the pain, don’t complain about it, don’t suffer, but go treat it.
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Mental pain brings more than just emotional suffering. It directly affects health and destiny. How to get rid of mental pain if memories and feelings are overwhelming, and you have no strength to cope with them? Now we will learn how to do this.
What is heartache and why does it happen?
Mental pain is an emotional feeling that arises due to unpleasant events. Its strength depends not so much on the situation itself, but on the attitude towards this situation. For example, when a loved one dies, we experience great emotional pain. But there are countries where at funerals they rejoice that a person’s soul has passed on to another world.
Such analogues can be brought to any unpleasant events, be it betrayal, meanness or treason. Any situation can be approached differently.
We all have certain programs and rules programmed by which we live and we react to events according to our settings.
One of the main causes of mental pain is human selfishness. Let's take betrayal for example. People generally do not feel a connection with the Universe, with God, they do not see big picture their fate and do not understand that any pain teaches something. Instead of understanding why this happened and what lessons need to be learned, anger or some other emotion appears, which is deposited in a person as mental pain.
If mental pain is not worked through, then depression may begin, various diseases may appear, and the person will become less successful and happy. These pains need to be removed.
Practice of getting rid of pain in the soul
Relax, close your eyes and remember one of the most severe mental pains. Let us recall this situation so that you have a visual picture. We mentally place it on the left in front of the internal screen.
We do the following actions slowly, with feelings and full attention. Now mentally take the picture of the unpleasant event out of your head and turn it into white light. This way you will remove it from your head.
To squeeze this situation out of your body, you need to exhale sharply and mentally imagine how this unpleasant situation comes out of you as you exhale. You can take several exhalations or many more until you feel relief. The sharper and stronger the exhalations, the better.
The situation must be removed from feelings with love. Feel the state and also mentally squeeze this picture out of yourself with love. You can do this: as you inhale, inhale the love of your saint, and as you exhale, this love pushes out your mental pain. This will be even more effective, because your power of love may not be enough.
So, mental pain needs to be removed at 3 levels: from the head by blurring the picture or turning it into white light, from the body by exhaling from emotions, squeezing it out with love.
Next we thank the saint: I thank you holy man(Name) for giving me the strength of my soul, the strength of love. Now I will look at this person (situation) with the same eyes, with the same heart. I am not this pain, I am not this death, I am not this resentment.(your situation) . I am the eternal shining soul, I am pure consciousness.
There is physical and mental pain. The first one is quite easy to deal with, because modern medicine can quickly determine its source and prescribe the necessary course of treatment. But with mental pain everything is much more complicated. Therefore, many people live with it for years without fully understanding what caused it to appear.
But psychology does not stand still. Having delved into the nooks and crannies of consciousness, experts have learned a lot about the human psyche, in particular how to get rid of mental pain. Following simple tips, you can not only overcome your inner suffering, but also regain lost happiness.
Mental pain: what is it?
It is very difficult to give an accurate description of this phenomenon. After all inner world impossible to measure, touch, and even less see. But at the same time, the sensations of psychological trauma are no less painful than those of a fracture or burn, and sometimes they can be much worse.
So what is heartache? First of all, it is a feeling caused by consciousness in response to emotional shock. Depending on the cause of its occurrence, the pain can be either barely noticeable or heartbreaking. But even after minor shocks, a person feels overwhelmed and broken, as if he had run out of electricity.
And if you do nothing, then soon the pain will be complemented by despair. And when you give up completely, depression will come. But fighting this enemy is much more difficult, and sometimes even impossible without the help of a specialist.
But before you learn how to cope with mental pain, you should understand its sources. After all, this is the only way to overcome her without harming yourself.
Where do emotional shocks come from?
Many are sure that emotional distress can only arise after serious emotional upheaval. For example, the death of a loved one, the discovery of a serious illness, an accident, betrayal, and so on. Naturally, such life shocks will affect a person’s psyche, but the truth is that in most cases, the causes of mental pain are less noticeable reasons.
So, what can disrupt inner harmony and bring confusion into the soul?
1. Life behind the mask. IN modern world Often you have to lie, not only to others, but also to yourself. This is necessary to present yourself in a better light - to become more significant. But you'll have to pay for your lies peace of mind, because our consciousness does not like being played with. And even more so, it will not calmly accept the fact that they want to change it.
2. Unfinished tasks. Quite often, mental pain arises from dissatisfaction with one’s own actions. For example, when, because of work, you have to sacrifice a child’s performance, or when, instead of going to the gym, a person lay on the couch all day. All these unfulfilled dreams, plans and meetings fall like a dead weight on your shoulders and are guaranteed to lead to emotional depression.
3. Impotence. Lack of money, strength, beauty, health, knowledge - this list can be continued for a very long time, but the essence is the same - powerlessness. When a person cannot get what he wants, he suffers.
There's nothing worse than unrequited love
Heartache from love is a separate case. Unlike other troubles, unrequited feelings can hurt greatly. And what more people strives to get the object of his admiration, the stronger the pain digs into his heart.
In such cases, it is often said that the person seems to be drying out. This is partly true, because apart from dreams of his beloved, he is not interested in anything. It becomes completely unimportant what is happening around, what people are around and what to do next.
And in order to save its owner from danger, consciousness sends him an alarm signal - pain. In this way, the brain tries to force a person to look around and understand that it is impossible to live like this any longer.
Three strict prohibitions
Before you begin your own healing, you should remember one thing important rule: Never slide into the abyss of vice. Indeed, during this period the temptation is very great, and, alas, many succumb to it, making more and more attempts to quench their pain with the help of alcohol, nicotine and drugs.
This method not only does not relieve pain, but also increases emotional distress. The feeling of one’s own lack of will complements the already gray picture, pushing you to give up. Having set foot on this path, a person is deprived of the opportunity to reason sensibly, which will certainly lead to defeat.
Therefore, it is worth strictly prohibiting alcohol, drugs and cigarettes. This will not only help you concentrate on finding a solution to the problem, but will also keep you healthy. And, as you know, it is worth its weight in gold. It is much better to get addicted to green tea, it is not only healthy, but can also lift your mood a little.
Awareness is the first step to peace of mind
As stated above, heartache comes in many forms. Therefore, it is important to understand what caused it this time. Having looked into yourself, you should understand your own feelings, how long ago they appeared.
In most cases, the answer lies on the surface, you just have to look a little closer and you will find it. After this, solving the problem will be much easier, because, knowing the enemy by sight, you can build a war strategy.
But sometimes there are several sources of emotional excitement, and they are so closely intertwined that it is difficult to distinguish them from each other. Therefore, even when the main problem is found, you should continue to search, because who knows what else is hidden from view.
Perhaps at first such an exploration of one’s own consciousness will not be easy, but you should not stop. Over time, such a practice will become habitual, moreover, the brain will begin to take it for granted, opening access to hidden corners of consciousness.
Not all problems can be solved
Sometimes it is impossible to eliminate the cause of mental pain. For example, you cannot resurrect a dead person, erase memories of a loved one, become someone else at one moment, and so on. What to do then? How to cope with mental pain?
Answer: no way. It is simply impossible to completely get rid of such pain, no matter how much time passes. The only thing that remains is to learn to live with this feeling, to accept it as part of yourself. This will help reduce the pain just enough that you can calmly coexist with it.
Although this may not seem like a very happy prospect, it is still the reality. And accepting it means embarking on the path of getting rid of suffering. This is the only way to get the much-desired peace and begin to experience joyful feelings again.
Eat, sleep and walk
Due to emotional stress, the body weakens, and as a result, problems become more and more difficult to deal with. Therefore, it is very important not to forget about things like sleep, food and walks in the fresh air.
- When going to bed, a person is left alone with his problems, which sometimes makes it very difficult to fall asleep. But you need to understand that without a night's rest the brain does not work well, which will further aggravate the situation. To fall asleep faster, you should use counting rhymes; they help you to distract yourself and relax.
- Healthy eating. You should not eat stress with anything, otherwise stomach problems will be added to the mental trauma. It is also worth taking care of your daily intake of vitamins and minerals; they will strengthen not only the body, but also the psyche.
- Walks. Even though in times like these you might want to hide from the world, you shouldn’t do that. Short walks around the area will not only enrich your blood with oxygen, but also help you unwind a little. The main thing is not to delve into yourself, but to try to catch something new in the surrounding landscape.
Sport is the best doctor
Nothing dispels sadness like active training. Fortunately, in the modern world there is great amount all kinds of sports clubs And gyms, so finding the right one won’t be difficult.
Sport can not only distract from current problems, but can also strengthen the will. Will make the mind more resistant to psychological stress and stress. He teaches you to win and overcome your own fears and failures.
The most difficult thing in this method is to take the first step, go out the door and go to the right address. And if you still can’t force yourself, then at least you should start doing exercises in the morning. Even if not much, it will help.
Visits to a psychologist
Experts know how to get rid of mental pain. A qualified psychologist will not only help you find the cause of suffering, but will also suggest the most effective ways her decisions. Unfortunately, many people are afraid of such meetings, because, in their opinion, this is a manifestation of weakness, and sometimes even worse - a mental disorder.
But the reality is that a psychologist can really help. And if you make an effort on yourself and turn to him, you can avoid many problems, including the appearance of depression.
But be that as it may, one thing is important - mental pain exists, and we need to fight it. There are many methods for this, but their essence is one - move forward, no matter what happens.