Human strengths and weaknesses: their impact on personality development. What weaknesses should you include in your resume?

13.10.2019

What is a disadvantage? A flaw that prevents you from living or performing certain actions. Today I will not give a lecture about how shortcomings are evil and how to get rid of them. I'm not a psychologist - I'm a recruiter. I want to talk about an important part of the interview, “Name your weaknesses.” The article will be useful to job seekers who have been looking for work for a long time, as well as working professionals who want to do something to occupy their leisure time.

If you think that HR people ask questions about a candidate’s shortcomings, in order to hear his frank answer, you should know that recruiters are not so stupid and naive as to believe that one question can bring the applicant to clean water. The fact is that questions about shortcomings force the candidate to demonstrate his resourcefulness, resistance to stress and adequacy of self-assessment.
The question about shortcomings, as a rule, is asked at the end of the interview, when a general impression of the candidate has already been formed, and all you have to do is consolidate it.

Let me, as a person who has worked for more than 10 years in the field of personnel management, give some advice to job seekers:

Tip 1. Don’t be afraid to bring up your own shortcomings.
It's only natural that you want to show off your best self. better side to a potential employer. However, do not forget that failures, along with successes, happen to everyone without exception.

Tip 2. Try to evaluate yourself adequately.
I have already said that the question of the shortcomings or weak qualities of the applicant’s personality is raised in order to assess the candidate’s resourcefulness and the adequacy of self-assessment, ability to constructive criticism.

Tip 3. Watch how you present information about your shortcomings.
Your answer gives the potential employer an idea of how you behave in difficult situations and whether you are able to adapt to your interlocutor.

Tip 4. Explain the reasons for your failures.
When a job seeker talks about his shortcomings, mistakes and failures, the recruiter always pays attention to who he blames for this: his boss, colleagues, circumstances, himself. The ability to correctly state one’s shortcomings shows how well the candidate has formed criteria for assessing his own actions and the actions of his colleagues.

Tip 5. Turn your weaknesses into strengths.
A competent applicant points out his shortcomings as stubbornness, perseverance, integrity and passion. Agree, a potential employer will like such shortcomings. If you are applying for the vacancy of a client search manager, then note your restlessness and excessive communication skills.

Tip 6. Prove that none of your shortcomings interfere with the effective performance of your work.
In this case, it is better to touch upon those shortcomings that are not directly related to the position for which you are applying.

Tip 7. Tell us about the shortcoming that you managed to eliminate.
For example, that you quit smoking three months ago, or that you were overly emotional at school. However, now you have learned to manage your emotions and make thoughtful and informed decisions.
Or tell us about a problem that you once had, after which you thought about what caused it, that you drew certain conclusions so that a similar situation would never happen again.

Tip 8: Show that you have a sense of humor.
Try to answer the question with a well-known cliché, such as “I leave my shortcomings at home,” and then proceed to a serious answer.

These tips will certainly help you during your next interview. But remember that each of you has your own characteristics that need to be emphasized much more than shortcomings!

What shortcomings would you note?

By studying the personality of a person, be it a woman, a man or a child, one can always identify a bad tendency to unseemly behavior due to, for example, errors in upbringing or psychological trauma. But even bad heredity can be protected. Let's look at the main negative traits human character.

Authoritarianism

The desire to dominate in everything, ignoring any needs of other people. An explicit or hidden demand for submission and discipline from everyone with whom a person intersects. Other people's opinions are not taken into account, any disobedience is suppressed without an attempt to find a mutually beneficial solution. It is believed that this is a typical negative trait of the Russian character.

Aggressiveness

The desire to conflict with others. IN early childhood This is a mandatory negative character trait of a child learning ways to protect his interests. Provocative, sometimes deliberately false statements, elevated tone, and insults are typical for an aggressive adult. Sometimes attempts are made to influence the opponent physically.

Gambling

A painful desire to achieve a set goal, regardless of the size of the risks, ignoring one’s own and others’ logical arguments about the excess of the amount of spending over the value of the desired result. Often causes situations leading to death, loss of health or significant financial losses.

Greed

Pathological desire for personal material gain in any situation. Getting profit at any cost becomes the only source positive emotions in life. At the same time, the duration of pleasant sensations from the benefits received is extremely short-lived - due to the uncontrollable constant desire to enrich oneself even more.

Apathy

Lack of emotional response to most external stimuli due to a particular temperament or due to the body’s protective reaction to stress. It is one of the reasons for the impossibility of achieving even simple goals due to the inability or unwillingness to concentrate and make volitional efforts.

Disorderly

Negligent fulfillment of obligations due to unwillingness to act according to rules already known to everyone or lack of understanding of the algorithms necessary to quickly and least costly achieve existing goals. Often this is a typical negative character trait of a woman who has just escaped from excessive parental care.

Indifference

A real or consciously demonstrated lack of interest in a specific subject, object, event, responsibilities due to innate emotional coldness, experienced severe stress or, instilled from infancy, a sense of superiority over people with a different social status, a different faith, nationality, race.

Irresponsibility

A consciously chosen, imposed during upbringing or conditioned by moral immaturity position of refusal to real awareness of the consequences of one’s own actions, reluctance to make decisions that affect one’s own and others’ quality of life. In difficult everyday situations, active actions are not taken due to the expectation that the problem will resolve on its own.

Facelessness

The absence of individual traits, which is why an individual subject is easily “lost” in the general mass of people like him. In the process of communication, the “gray man” does not evoke sympathy due to his fixation on uninteresting topics; in a team he is uninitiative, boring, afraid of innovations and resists them in every possible way.

Ruthlessness

Emotional indifference to other people's troubles, inability or unwillingness to sympathize, sympathize with people in particular and living beings in general, experiencing physical or emotional pain. Sometimes it is deliberate inhumanity in actions that lead to suffering and even death of the objects chosen as victims.

Rudeness

Intentional or unconscious violation of norms, the sequence of actions adopted in a given society in relation to a specific situation. The reason for deliberate cheekiness may be the desire to provoke a conflict or draw attention to one’s own person, unconsciously - errors in upbringing, emotional immaturity.

Talkativeness

A painful need to constantly participate in a dialogue with one or more interlocutors, regardless of the content of the conversation, the degree of enthusiasm of the other participants, or the relevance of the conversation. The main goal of such an interlocutor is not to receive new information, and the role of the narrator when contacting someone. At the same time, he can disseminate information that others would prefer to keep secret.

windiness

Inability to keep any promises and take into account other people's interests, lack of ability to move for a long time to achieve one goal, desire for constant change of circle of friends and partners. Lack of principles and clear behavioral boundaries, rapid fading of interest in a specific activity or person.

Lust for power

A passionate desire for control over everyone and the expectation of unquestioning obedience, the desire for unlimited power, especially over the more educated and skilled. Intoxication with one’s own superior position in situations where others are forced to seek help or seek protection or material support.

Suggestibility

In pathological form, this is a subconscious tendency to perceive behavior imposed from outside without one’s own conscious comprehension and weighing the results of one’s actions performed under the influence of someone else’s authority. However, reduced suggestibility can cause learning difficulties.

Vulgarity

Inability to find a balance between originality and vulgarity in communication, when choosing clothes, social guidelines, and so on. For example, during a dialogue, the interlocutor speaks in a raised tone, is mannered, and does not disdain dirty jokes. When choosing an outfit, he prefers flashy things, and the components often do not fit well with each other.

Stupidity

The inability or unwillingness to determine logically correct conclusions even from the simplest everyday problems, the tendency to see the grain of wisdom in pseudoscientific and populist statements, the inability to question justified critical analysis information from sources independently elevated to authoritative status.

Pride

Confidence in the social, moral, mental insignificance of others, the inability to forgive for personal and other people’s mistakes, denial of the possibility of other subjects of society having worthy characteristics. It develops against the background of distortions in upbringing, personality degradation due to illness, immaturity of the individual, coupled with high social status.

Coarseness

Reluctance to adhere to the polite format of communication with interlocutors accepted in normal society due to personality deformation due to illness, injury, stress or the frequent need to take a defensive position when territory and rights are encroached upon. Typical manifestations: communication in a raised voice, rudeness, obscene language.

Greed, stinginess

The desire to minimize costs even at the expense of health, basic hygiene and common sense. A pathological pursuit of material stability can manifest itself in the form of a refusal to get rid of garbage, trash, and ignoring reasonable requests loved one about purchasing essentials.

Cruelty

The desire to cause discomfort to living subjects for the sake of personal moral satisfaction. The impact on the victim can be both intangible - in the form of insults and refusal to satisfy some important emotional needs, and physical - through infliction of pain, torment, encroachment on life.

Forgetfulness

Inability to remember some data necessary in everyday life, a combination of actions to achieve a certain goal, an algorithm for starting or turning off a device. It occurs due to age-related changes in the brain and information overload. It may be a consequence of a stressful situation that you want to forget.

Addiction

The desire to derive pleasure from performing actions or using a certain substance, even if the source of pleasant emotions harms health, relationships with others, leads to large financial expenses, pushes to crime due to the desire to achieve a “high”, in the absence of legal access to it.

Envy

Inability to enjoy any personal benefits, achievements, qualities. The tendency to constantly compare the values of oneself and others. Moreover, the “crumbs” on the other side always seem larger, tastier and more desirable than their own “placers”. In a pathological form, it deprives one of cheerfulness and the ability to soberly evaluate one’s own and others’ merits.

Complexity

Constant belittlement in one’s own eyes of one’s own natural talents, trained abilities, denial of the value of personal achievements, inability to force oneself to declare personal achievements in a circle of authority figures. Formed due to overly strict upbringing, psychological trauma or disease of the nervous system.

tediousness

The habit of lecturing everyone, everywhere, repeatedly discussing the same topic, despite the obvious lack of interest in it among the people who are trying to be drawn into dialogue. The reason lies in the pathological love of attention and endless conversations on any topic, even if the instigator of the conversation is a complete layman on the topic being discussed.

Anger

An emotional manifestation of strong dissatisfaction with something, a landmark indicating the presence of clearly uncomfortable conditions for a person. In the absence of actions that eliminate the cause of the feeling, over time it can push one to commit an offense, so manifestations of anger should not be ignored.

Spoiled

The bad habit of demanding that your desires be fulfilled as soon as possible, without taking into account the capabilities of the person to whom the claim is made. Refusal to control and restrain one's own needs, to tolerate the slightest inconvenience, and to personally exert emotional and physical effort to achieve what one wants.

Laziness

Lack of desire to strain for personal needs, tendency to spend idle time all day long. The behavior reveals a desire to obtain comfort at the expense of the work of others, a deep aversion to useful activity even in minimal quantities. When applying for a job, this negative character trait should not be indicated on your resume.

Deceit

Consciously systematically expressing false information to interlocutors for slanderous purposes, for one’s own benefit or to disguise personal failures in some activity. The pathological form is inherent in insecure individuals who try to impress others with fictitious stories about themselves.

Hypocrisy

Feigned assurances of love, sincere admiration and goodwill towards the interlocutor during a conversation with him. The purpose of such behavior is ingratiation and the desire to flatter for one’s own benefit, while hiding true, perhaps even malicious, sentiments towards the participant in the dialogue or the object of the conversation.

Flattery

A tendency to excessively constantly praise out loud the real and imaginary merits and virtues of others, for the sake of one’s own self-interest. Obviously negative actions and actions can also be the object of exaltation. influential person, specially whitewashed by the flatterer and voiced by him as the only correct solution in the situation under consideration.

Curiosity

In a pathological form, this is the desire to find out information of interest, regardless of decency, personal feelings of those being questioned and the situation of the situation in which communication takes place. The reason for unhealthy curiosity is a painful desire to be aware of even those events that are not related to the person showing interest.

Pettiness

The habit of attaching great importance to one’s insignificant statements and actions. The widespread emphasis on one's imaginary achievements as opposed to the truly important and heroic deeds surrounding people. Attention to ordinary details to the detriment of values, the desire to obtain reports on household expenses down to “one thousandth”.

Vindictiveness

The tendency to focus personal attention on all small and large troubles, everyday conflicts, and invented grievances, in order to be sure to repay each of the offenders a hundredfold over time. In this case, the duration of the time interval from the moment of receiving a real or imaginary insult does not matter.

Impudence

Unceremonious behavior in any situation, the desire to achieve what you want with minimal costs and “over the heads” of others. Such behavior is formed due to improper upbringing, due to a difficult childhood or, conversely, due to spoiling, which has reinforced the habit of always getting what you want at any cost.

Arrogance

The perception of the majority of others as subjects of an obviously lower category due to an imaginary difference in social status or real differences in material, national, racial or other characteristics. The reason may be a defensive reaction to wounded pride in the past or distortions in upbringing.

Annoyance

Inability or unwillingness to independently deal with emerging problems, have fun or relax. The reason may lie in emotional immaturity, fear of loneliness, a desire to increase self-esteem through active participation in the lives of other people, even if they experience obvious discomfort from this and openly declare it.

Narcissism

Unreasonable and groundless praise of oneself, narcissism under any circumstances, the desire to embellish the results of one’s actions and the actions taken themselves, selfishness, indifferent attitude not only towards strangers, but also close people, interest only in personal comfort and benefit.

Negligence

Reluctance to qualitatively fulfill assumed or assigned obligations, neglect in behavior with people in everyday or professional relationships, insufficient attention to trusted values, inability - due to poor education or personal deformation - to understand the importance of diligence when working on something.

Touchiness

Increased negative reaction to everyday troubles due to hypertrophied selfishness. It is because of him that you want the world to spin at your feet, and those around you, forgetting about their own needs, to live up to your expectations around the clock and all year round: they were polite, generous and caring, and strived to ensure the comfort of others.

Limitation

Confidence that the true picture of the world is accessible only to you, and other explanations of the structure of the universe and the principles of interaction between man and the environment are a complete invention of narrow-minded louts. It occurs due to insufficient education, a congenital developmental defect that prevents the adequate assimilation of educational information.

Alarmism

The tendency to accept as reality the imaginary catastrophic consequences of any, even minor incidents in own life and the world in general. It is a manifestation of bad upbringing by a reinsurer, an overly violent fantasy or a disorder of the nervous system due to stress or illness.

vulgarity

A penchant for pretentious outfits, demonstration of real or ostentatious material security through the acquisition of unnecessary luxury items. Or, and sometimes both, a passion for dirty jokes, obscene anecdotes, often voiced in a completely inappropriate environment for the sake of causing a feeling of awkwardness among the majority of listeners.

Irritability

A negative reaction to a stimulus, expressed in an excessive manifestation of emotions, the intensity of which does not correspond to the strength of the influence of a factor that is unpleasant for some reason. The cause of irritability can be external or internal, caused by overload of the nervous system or exhaustion of the body by illness.

Extravagance

Inability to rationally spend income, including the desire to systematically or constantly make acquisitions for the sake of the process itself, and not for the purpose of exploiting the purchased item or thing. It is based on the desire to feel like “the ruler of the world”, to correspond to the status of a financially secure person.

Jealousy

Showing dissatisfaction or distrust of a subject who has a certain value for the jealous person. It is expressed by suspicion of infidelity or a greater emotional predisposition towards another person (not only a spouse, but also a mother, sister, friend may be in the place of the accused - the list can be endless).

Self-criticism

The habit of justifiably and unreasonably convicting oneself of many sins of varying magnitude. For example, insufficient attention to fulfilling duties, although in reality a person gives his all at work or in relationships. Possible reasons: low self-esteem, actively supported by an interested environment, perfectionism.

Self-confidence

Unreasonable exaltation of one's abilities, supposedly allowing one to cope with a certain or any task. It is the cause of bragging and risky actions, often committed in disregard of safety rules, the laws of physics and the arguments of logic. Based on inexperience, dependence on the desire to live on the brink of a foul.

Weakness

Lack of ability to perform volitional effort for the sake of a desired goal or to resist dangerous, illegal temptations, morally degraded individuals. Tendency to submit to other people's decisions, even when they require serious sacrifices. Such a negative character trait of a man can make him an object of ridicule in the team.

Cowardice

The inability to resist an opponent due to insufficiently developed willpower and susceptibility to phobia. It can be expressed by fleeing the scene of some event due to an imaginary or real danger to one’s own health or life, despite leaving other possible participants in the incident in danger.

Vanity

The desire to receive praise for real and imaginary merits. The desire first of all to have a positive image, and not to be worthy of compliments. Indiscriminate quality of voiced approvals - flattery is also perceived favorably. Moreover, it is not always possible to distinguish it from sincere statements.

Stubbornness

The desire to act only in accordance with one’s own ideas about the correctness of the chosen path, rejection of authorities, ignoring well-known rules purely because of the habit of acting as one has decided. Lack of ability to be flexible when interests clash, unwillingness or inability to take into account the goals and capabilities of others.

Selfishness

Conscious self-love, the desire to live in comfort, regardless of the possible inconveniences resulting from this for others. Their own interests are always exalted over the desires of other people, the opinions of the latter on this and other matters are never taken into account. All decisions are based only on one’s own benefit.

Can a person who knows nothing about mathematics teach a child to solve problems? Of course not. Likewise, parents who did not receive proper upbringing in childhood will not be able to properly influence their child. Consequently, the education of adults is no less important than the development of children.

Each person has advantages and disadvantages, through the prism of which character and behavior are formed. This truth is a positive fact. After all, the path of life is interesting because it consists of the search for an ideal, attempts to get closer to perfection.

The question is how a person relates to his own shortcomings. There are three possible scenarios here:

“I was born this way, that’s why I’m interesting. And whoever doesn’t like it should not communicate with me”;
“I'm the worst! I don’t know how to restrain my emotions, so I will never achieve a promotion, a good salary, etc.”;
“I, like everyone else, have shortcomings. I know about them and will do everything to get rid of negative manifestations or minimize them.”

People who adhere to the third principle are able to turn their advantages and disadvantages into advantages, as they are constantly improving and working on themselves.

The virtues of people of the 21st century

Public education condemns a person’s desire to emphasize his merits. It is more correct to show them in action, performing noble deeds.

There are hundreds of advantages that are inherent well-mannered person. It is not possible to list them all. However, it is possible to identify typical personal characteristics that are inherent in most cultural and developing people.

First of all, I would like to note that the education of adults is aimed at teaching a person to harmoniously combine advantages and disadvantages, turning them into advantages.

Developing and improving, a person must find that golden mean that will help not only preserve his individuality and not merge with the crowd, but also gain public recognition.

Let us list the advantages inherent in a person who educates himself throughout his life’s journey:

The ability to compassion, which manifests itself in the desire to help any living being. The ability to support a loved one in moments of joy or grief is an important quality that is not so easy to learn.
It is impossible to develop alone. Ability to communicate with friends and strangers improves communication skills that will help with intellectual and social development.
The desire is noble, selfless to help people - highest manifestation moral qualities.
Devotion and loyalty are qualities that are becoming rare in modern society.
The ability to notice details and “read between the lines” will help you not to get lost in the abundance of information and highlight the main thing.
Foresight and insight can not only help in the development of personal qualities, but also prevent mistakes in choosing the path of self-improvement.

The cultivation of these moral and volitional qualities will the perfect complement individual positive traits character of a person. Moreover, they will help control the negative emotions that accompany every person, provoking him to actions that are not consistent with a well-mannered personality.

"Chronic illness" character

You can develop many positive qualities, however, they will not bear fruitful fruits if the shortcomings are not eradicated.

Psychologists have identified negative character traits that interfere successful development personalities:

Narcissism and fixation on one's own interests.
The desire to please everyone, the inability to refuse a request. These negative character traits not only interfere with the development of a harmonious personality, but also lead to mental exhaustion and depression.
Lack of independence, need for help and support from others.
Valuing life values with money. Mercantile interest is the main source of personal degradation.
A lie in any form can distort all the best endeavors of an individual.
Cowardice and cowardice do not provide opportunities for the development of strong-willed qualities. And they are the main assistants in improving and nurturing the best character traits.
Deeply unhappy people prefer to put on a mask of cynicism, masking loneliness and the inability to cope with their complexes. However, cynicism can play a cruel joke on its adherents: a person will never be able to find harmony with himself and will be doomed to loneliness.

Whatever the character, you need to remember that advantages and disadvantages are an indicator of the uniqueness and individuality of the individual. His ability for self-development depends on how a person learns to control negative character traits and develop positive ones.

When embarking on the path of development and self-improvement, you need to learn to analyze actions, thoughts and words, and control emotional manifestations. After some time, the need for these actions will disappear, since a kind of barrier will be developed that will not allow shortcomings to manifest themselves uncontrollably.

Another important factor that influences the success of raising a harmonious personality is the ability to love and accept oneself, recognizing shortcomings as a natural manifestation of human essence.

Development of will

Nurturing strong-willed qualities is a necessary condition for personal self-improvement. This process is individual, it is associated with the specifics of a person’s psychological and physical development.

The basis for the development of volitional qualities is the period of childhood and teenage years when the foundations of moral and social concepts are laid.

There are several fundamental principles thanks to which intensive and correct development of the will occurs.

Clearly marked life goal and position. If a child understands from childhood that everything in life must be achieved independently, putting a lot of effort into it, then in adulthood the person will consciously set goals for himself and persistently achieve his goals.
Feel like the master of your own life. Recognize responsibility for decisions made.
The symbiosis of determination and confidence will allow you to independently cope with life's difficulties. The desired goal can be achieved by overcoming fears and vices.
The realization that strength of spirit is determined not by the number of successful decisions, but by how many difficulties were overcome along the way of these decisions.
Volitional qualities develop in the same way as muscles: they need constant training. Ability to overcome life's adversities - main feature victory over one's own shortcomings.
The ability to replace desires and dreams with actions at the right moment.
Do not allow the social environment to control life and the principles underlying the personal worldview.
The right to choose a way out of any life situation should become the determining factor in life. It is the ability to make decisions independently that allows you to receive satisfaction from the work done and overcoming difficulties.

The harmonious development of the will occurs only if the person is capable of self-restraint. However, these concepts cannot be identified. Restrictions are accepted by a person if something interferes with the achievement of a goal. However, you should not include feelings among them, because only with the help of positive emotions does a person feel happiness from the years he has lived.

So, in order to successfully cultivate strong-willed qualities in yourself, you must adhere to the following recommendations:

Recognize the presence of strengths and weaknesses in character;
Understand what you want to achieve in life;
Set clear goals and objectives to achieve results;
Realize that you cannot achieve everything at once. Achieving big goals happens through step-by-step work;
It is necessary to always finish what you start;
Be able to limit your needs if necessary;
Try to be better tomorrow than today.

To develop such an important quality as willpower, it is important to have a role model. Choose a standard to strive for.

Development of the spirit through education of the body

The strength of mind and strong-willed qualities of a person, which were mentioned above, cannot be developed without physical activity.

Fostering a culture of health is one of the important elements of indicators of a person’s general education.

Desires to improve the body and lead a healthy lifestyle are laid down in childhood, when, following the example of their parents, children adopt their habits and copy their actions.

However, not all people grew up in families where parents promoted sports. This does not prevent them from starting physical education in adulthood.

After all physical exercise not only build strength of spirit. They promote a healthy lifestyle that helps keep you healthy long years, helps to give up bad habits.

The formation of a healthy lifestyle also includes the question of proper nutrition. Often a person who finds himself in a stressful situation tries to “seize” the problems. At the same time, the foods he eats do not at all fit the definition of a healthy diet.

Moreover, a person begins to think about his health only when he develops certain diseases.

Such an attitude towards one’s own body is unacceptable, therefore the development of personal advantages should begin through overcoming the shortcomings associated with a permissive attitude towards physical health.

Social influence

The development of better personal qualities cannot occur in isolation from social influence.

Public education provides for such personal development that will allow a person to live in harmonious relationships with society. This takes into account the responsibility of the individual to society and the positive influence of the environment on the formation of personal qualities.

Public education is carried out not only by direct interaction between people, but by organizations specially created for these purposes.

There is a special branch of pedagogy that studies public relations. Social pedagogy studies the social potential that can have an educational and educational impact on personal development throughout a person’s life. She explores the influence family relations, information influence, religious associations, youth and social groups.

Of particular interest to pedagogical science represented by people from the lower classes social strata. These are individuals who, due to some life circumstances, began to lead an asocial lifestyle (people without a fixed place of residence, those serving sentences in prison, drug addicts, alcoholics, prostitutes).

Social pedagogy studies the specifics of educating adults, the conditions for their development in connection with changes in the economic situation and social environment. The problems of women's development and the specifics of personal changes in the sphere of professional activity are relevant for her.

Recently, pedagogy in this direction has begun to actively cooperate with church organizations in order to enrich the moral qualities of a person.

In practical activities, public education is a professional field called social work.

Let us list the areas of activity of public education and the specifics of their manifestation.

Family relationships.

The practical impact of social education on the sphere of family relations occurs for psychological support and material assistance to large and young families, people with low incomes. Special attention given to parents who have addictions. Social workers conduct explanatory conversations to help parents learn about their rights and responsibilities and expand their understanding of the possibilities provided for by law.

Helping minors and people with mental disabilities.

In our country this direction social assistance is in its infancy. However, special services and hotlines have already been created where you can turn for help in difficult life situations.

Healthcare area.

Work to provide psychological and material assistance to people with serious illnesses is still at the level of volunteer movements.

People of retirement age.

The work of social services is aimed at helping lonely and sick pensioners and is manifested in the purchase of medicines and food.

Correctional facilities.

Social education of people who have crossed the line of the law consists of conversations aimed at reviving socially correct behavior and adaptation to society after release.

So, public education is aimed at developing proper interaction between society and the individual under the control of special social services that will help in difficult periods of life.

Improve yourself with pleasure

In conclusion, I would like to note that any education of personal virtues should begin with positive thinking. Belief in your own strength is the basis for working on yourself.

When experiencing stressful situations associated with troubles at work, in the family or financial difficulties, a person experiences despair, and, of course, at these moments he does not want to improve at all.

Don't panic or become depressed. Perhaps the scale of the tragedy is not as great as it might seem at first glance.

You must remain optimistic in any situation and remember that only you can ensure your happy future.

Think positively, and then even your shortcomings will help increase all your advantages.

Although it is believed that man was created by God, in His image and likeness, he is a sinful and imperfect being. However, a person’s advantages are as undeniable as his shortcomings. And these shortcomings include such unsightly qualities as pride, greed, envy, condemnation, intolerance, stubbornness, and so on, the list can go on for a long time. Many of these qualities, unfortunately, are ingrained in a person from childhood, that is, they are the result of improper upbringing of a child in the family by parents.

A person’s strengths and weaknesses do not appear in him suddenly and suddenly, this is understandable. Everyone has a hand in shaping the distinctive character traits of a child, starting from the parents themselves and those close to them, and continuing with kindergarten, school, and so on. For example, if in childhood a child was constantly pushed, forced to rush, when he was forced to run a large number of circles and sections, try to do everything in time, otherwise he will be scolded - he develops such a quality as impatience. Stubbornness also appears when parents always try to go against the will of the child and cause in him a constant feeling of protest, and permissiveness, on the contrary, leads to promiscuity and arrogance.

The shortcomings, like the advantages of a person, of course, have deep roots. Greed can form in a child from a lack of love and attention, and this can also lead to despair and despondency, which will then lead to self-abasement. Then a boss will appear who will suppress his will, so fear, hypocrisy, and servility will arise in the person, which will in no way lead him to self-respect and self-esteem.

What are human dignity, how are they expressed in life and character? Actually, according to Dahl’s dictionary, dignity is respect, a set of fairly high moral qualities. And it should not be confused with arrogance, these are completely different things. When they say that this one means that he is worthy of respect, thanks to his valuable personal qualities, behavior in society, actions and so on. If a person begins to inflate his price, he becomes arrogant, thus losing respect for the honor and dignity of the individual. Therefore, you need to understand that these are completely different things.

A person’s strengths and weaknesses continue to form even when he leaves the childhood, under the influence of society. A positive assessment of his behavior and actions elevates him in the eyes of the public. This can give him strength and desire to fight his shortcomings and strive for further improvement. Negative assessment from the outside public opinion may lead to aggravation of these deficiencies, so ideally this assessment should be objective.

Recognition by society of a person’s dignity means a certain assessment regarding his moral qualities. The more such qualities as honesty, respect for people, nobility, goodwill, sincerity, modesty, sensitivity and so on are manifested in him, the more great value such a person represents for society. Accordingly, if parents want to raise their child as a worthy member of this very society, they must lay down and develop in him these

These also include:

Modesty. This is when a person, even having many advantages, behaves simply and unnoticed, without sticking them out or boasting.

Shame and conscience. Believers say that it is the voice of God inside a person that tells him what is good and what is bad and leads him to the desire to repent of his bad deeds.

Honor. These are also worthy of respect from society.

One who has this will never insolently insult anyone, humiliate or insult another.

This is the advantage of communicating with a person who has honor and dignity.

54 674 0 Hello! In this article we will talk about the shortcomings and advantages of a person. We all know that nothing is perfect in this world. Every creature on this Earth has its own unique, non-standard characteristics, some may call them advantages, others - disadvantages. Much depends on whether these traits interfere with the person himself. If so, is it possible to get rid of the flaws and how to do this?

Human flaws

Every person on this Earth has their own unique set of qualities. Moreover, almost any of them can be attributed to both the advantages and disadvantages of a person. Take, for example, responsiveness and generosity. In society, these qualities are generally considered good, but if we look at them from a different angle, a disadvantage appears before us.

A responsive person is always ready to respond and help. Dignity? Undoubtedly! But excessive responsiveness interferes with the person’s life; he cannot say “no” and often becomes the subject of exploitation by more cunning people around him. From this angle, this flaw prevents the owner of this quality from living and being happy, first of all.

Generosity is an undeniable virtue. But sometimes it turns into wastefulness; an overly generous person can even deprive himself and his loved ones by distributing benefits “outside”.

It turns out that shortcomings are personality traits and qualities that prevent one from living, being successful and happy, first of all, the owner of these qualities. Flaws can be destructive emotions (anger, irritability, mood swings, fearfulness, etc.), vices (gluttony, greed, envy, etc.), as well as other human weaknesses.

Conventionally, all shortcomings can be divided into several groups.

Type of defects	Examples of flaws	What can they lead to?
Psychological	Restlessness, anxiety, excessive sociability or isolation, laziness, low or high self-esteem, fears, cruelty, cynicism, lack of independence, constant need for control and evaluation of actions, commercialism, deceit and others.	This type of defects can scare people away from their owner, create problems in their personal life, and become an obstacle to career growth, deprive a person of strength and drive him into deep depression.
Physical	Height, weight, eye color, face shape, body type, imperfect skin, problems with hair or teeth, not meeting someone's standard, etc.	This type of deficiency is very subjective. Any physical quality, if desired, can be turned into a highlight or dignity. However, if nothing is done, physical defects provoke the appearance of complexes, self-doubt and lack of acceptance of oneself as an individual. This, in turn, can lead to deep personal problems, misunderstandings in relationships with other people and unfulfillment.
Women's	Excessive modesty or cheekiness, talkativeness, duplicity, consumerism, shopaholism, greed, not accepting oneself as a girl or excessive self-admiration, callousness, inability to demonstrate one’s own emotions, touchiness, etc.	Such shortcomings can lead a woman to illness and discord in her personal life. In addition, the inability to handle one’s own emotions blocks the free flow of feminine energy and scares off men.
Men's	Dictatorship and patriarchal outlook on life, rudeness, lack of humor, low intelligence, stinginess, greed, sloppiness, cowardice, lack of determination, etc.	These shortcomings cause inconvenience for men in their careers and personal lives.

How to get rid of shortcomings

Growth and self-improvement are what improve the quality of our lives, give meaning to our existence and make us lighter, better and happier. Therefore, if some quality interferes with your life, you need to get rid of it.

Find the flaw. Most often, flaws do not need to be found; people know what pulls them back and prevents them from living. If you just want to become a better person, but don't know where to start, pay attention to what irritates you in other people. Most likely, this is exactly what you have in you, but you cannot accept it.
You shouldn’t specifically look for shortcomings in yourself, and then savor them without taking any action and complaining about life. The victim attitude gives some people pleasure, but it makes them irresponsible and unable to manage their own lives.
Realize the flaw, admit to yourself that you have it, and try to accept it. The same applies to loved ones; do not try to remake the shortcomings of your loved one. Try to accept him along with his flaws. And if something doesn’t give you peace, start working on yourself, and not on raising a loved one.
Start tracking and controlling your thoughts. This may seem difficult at first, but if you can learn to do it, sooner or later the shortcomings will not be able to cross the line of your awareness. Read:
Analyze your flaw. What is his character? How and why does it bother you? What consequences can it lead to? Describe the worst scenario if this disadvantage remains with you forever. How will it end? Use this picture as motivation to quickly eradicate your shortcoming.
Find a strength to replace the disadvantage with. Remember the proverb “A holy place is never empty”? This statement is also true when working on yourself. Once you destroy the flaw that irritates you, there will be voids that need to be filled with something right or positive. Otherwise, there is a risk of acquiring new shortcomings and bad habits or strengthening old ones.
Stop making excuses for yourself and your shortcomings.
Try to find the source of the “trouble.” Where did you get it from? negative quality? Most often, legs grow from deep childhood, when we unconsciously adopt the attitudes and behavior programs of our parents.
We cultivate dignity in the place of disadvantage.

Disadvantages and summary

Sometimes employers ask applicants to fill out a column about their shortcomings. This is not done at all in order to convict candidates of imperfection, but simply to check the adequacy of the applicant’s own self-esteem. If you are asked to indicate your shortcomings in your resume, do not be afraid and put a dash in this column. There are no people without flaws.

What shortcomings can be indicated in a resume?

It is best to prepare a list of your shortcomings in advance. It should include qualities that ordinary life can be called disadvantages, but in a particular profession they manifest themselves as advantages. For example, the wording “ I see flaws in everything". On the one hand, it is a flaw, and on the other hand, it is an irreplaceable quality of a program tester or auditor. Here are examples of qualities that may be an advantage for some professions:

Excessive need for communication and love for people;
Straightforwardness, inability to restrain one’s own opinion and talk behind one’s back;
Constant thoughts about work;
Workaholism;
Slowness;
Meticulousness;
I pay great attention little things;
I can't refuse;
I stand my ground, I don’t know how to show flexibility and compliance in work matters;
Love of formalism;
Excessive energy and inability to sit in one place;
Hot temper and emotionality.

There are several neutral disadvantages that are suitable for absolutely all professions:

Various fears and fears (spiders, flying, heights, confined spaces, etc.);
Excess weight or excessive thinness;
Love (weakness) for something (sweets, kittens, shopping, etc.);
Lack or lack of experience;
Tendency to overanalyze one's mistakes and actions.

What shortcomings will scare off an employer?

When listing your shortcomings, you don’t need to become too frank. Many qualities can scare off an employer and characterize you as a bad employee. Among these qualities:

Laziness;
Excessive love of love and affairs with colleagues;
Interested only in money;
Disclaimer of any liability;
Absent-mindedness, love of breaks and social networks;
Constantly being late;
Reluctance and inability to make independent decisions.

No matter what shortcomings you have, the main thing is to learn to accept yourself for who you are, never stop improving and harmoniously compensate for shortcomings with your advantages.