What they give for 9 days. Days of special remembrance of the deceased

21.10.2019

9 days after death is a period during which the soul experiences many events and changes. What happens after the burial?

First 3 days

In the first 3 days, the soul is where it is important for it to be. For example, if a person was very attached to his body during life, he will be nearby. In the case when some people meant a lot to the deceased, their lately on Earth he will spend next to them. In fact, in many documentaries it says that some souls do not know what to do. Some start riding the subway and keeping an eye on relatives, others are trying to secure the future of their children. Everyone, if possible, tries to complete earthly affairs or last time look at what is very significant.

Worship of God

Worship is performed repeatedly: on the day of death, then on the third day, on the 9th day after the funeral, 40 days after repose, and also immediately before the Last Judgment. People who go to hell perform worship even after the judgment.

From 3 to 9 days

After 3 and up to 9 days after death, the soul explores the beauty of paradise. She sees the abode that is prepared for her. However, people who were vain, did mortal things and walked in evil ways will not enter heaven.

ordeals

9 days after death, the ordeal begins. They last up to 40 days. After death, we are surrounded by our sins. Each of our bad deeds has its own “guardian” - a demon. When the soul leaves the body, these demons surround it. There are so many lawlessnesses and troubles that they cannot be counted. These are all the sins a person committed during his lifetime. Some people think that after death the soul ascends upward and nothing can stop it. But this is not so, because it is the forces of evil that own the space between earth and sky. Mother of God she prayed not to see evil demons after death when she was preparing for Rapture. Therefore, the Lord personally came to guide Her soul. This is noted on the icon of Rapture. As is clear, demons come not only to “ordinary” people, but also to selected dying people.

9 days after death: before and after

Until the ninth day there is a period of feeding and formation of the “body of eternity”. Relatives and clergy begin to carry out memorial procedures. Until the 9th day, the soul sees the delights of heaven, and after that - the torment and horrors of hell. On day 40 a place is assigned. Over the course of nine days, the deceased gradually ceases to hear relatives and friends, and he can no longer see them. He can make all contacts only by using his senses of smell and touch.

Why are these days celebrated?

After death, the soul travels for 9 days and finds out possible places of its stay. Until the very end, she does not know what fate is in store for her. She is shown how beautiful and charming heavenly life(for a much shorter period of time), and the terrible events that occur in hell. During this time, relatives can pray earnestly and ask for a better fate until the Last Judgment occurs on the soul of the deceased. Correct behavior loved ones can help the soul get to heaven. Therefore, it is very important not to be lazy, but to go to church and order prayer services. You also need to devote time to this activity yourself. And it needs to be done correctly. You can get clarification from your clergyman.

Every tradition is based not only on the beliefs of people. It is associated with ancient knowledge that has long been forgotten or has come down to us in a truncated form. Nevertheless, it is better to honor traditions, at least out of respect for the memory of our ancestors. This is especially true for customs associated with the 9th day after a person’s death.

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What does this date mean in Orthodoxy?

Orthodoxy special attention devotes to the third, ninth and fortieth day from the moment a person passes into another world. Dates have sacred meaning, therefore, funeral services for the deceased are held on these days. The number 9 belongs to the category of sacred. Nine angelic ranks will intercede with the Almighty for the soul of the deceased.

The ninth day is dedicated to nine angels who will intercede with God for the salvation of the soul of the deceased.

It is believed that on the 9th day after death the soul will first appear before the eyes of God. This is an extremely important moment. It is important that on this day, relatives and friends left on Earth are mentally with the deceased and commemorate with prayers and kind words. The further path of the soul depends on how relatives and friends behave.

The Orthodox tradition does not approve when tears are constantly shed for the deceased and they ask: “Who did you leave us for?” This behavior speaks, rather, of one’s own selfishness. Endless tears and lamentations prevent the soul from leaving the earth and going to the afterlife. By releasing the soul in peace, relatives and friends, firstly, show humility, and secondly, allow the soul of the deceased to continue its unearthly path.

Of course, this does not mean that you need to suppress your feelings of loss and pain. This is simply impossible. You need to understand that prayers will bring for the soul of a departed relative more benefit than tears.

Meaning for the deceased

You can imagine what feelings the soul experiences when it is brought to the Creator. How exactly does this happen? important conversation, we are not allowed to know. Most likely, the nature of the conversation determines the individuality of the person, the number of bad and good deeds, his sincerity. This meeting can be decisive, since all doubts about the existence of God and the afterlife will go away. A person can experience sincere repentance, which will radically change his fate in another world.

According to Christian beliefs, after meeting the Creator, the soul will face a serious test - it will have to visit the space of hell. This is not done for the purpose of punishment, since the final decision is not made by God.

On the one hand, the deceased will have an introductory tour, where he will see with his own eyes the whole picture: how sinners live in hell, what kind of torment they are subjected to. Passing through different parts of the underworld, a soul burdened with sins can realize the unrighteousness of its earthly life and repent. If at the same time she hears the prayers of loved ones, then the chances of salvation are much greater.

After the ninth day, the soul will have a tour of hell.

On the other hand, the soul itself awaits ordeals - various trials based on temptations. Moreover, temptations are built on the sinful inclinations of the deceased, which he showed in earthly life. A glutton may have a table with various dishes, a greedy person a bag of gold, a lustful person a whole harem of women. If the soul overcomes passions and refuses temptations, it can hope for God's forgiveness on the 40th day.

Perhaps because of the upcoming ordeals, day 9 is so important. Prayers, kind words family and friends on this day will be a powerful support for the one who is being remembered. It is especially important to forgive the deceased all grievances and ask him for forgiveness. This will greatly ease the soul of the deceased and give him the opportunity to go to heaven.

Where is the soul of the deceased until the 9th day?

Much of the posthumous journey depends on the personality of the deceased and the circumstances of death. Deeply religious people who pass away at an advanced age feel the approach of the last hour and, in principle, are ready for it.

Such a person, having left the corporeal shell, will not waste time. He knows that the first 3 days after death will be spent on earth. Knowing the rules, he will spend the remaining days on earth visiting the people and places with which the best memories of his life are associated. He has time until an angel descends from heaven to take his soul to heaven.

These three days will be much more difficult for those whose lives were cut short as a result of an accident or murder. Such souls, suddenly torn out of life, cannot reconcile themselves and try in every possible way to “correct the mistake.” With a strong will and passionate desire to return life, they can endlessly rush around the world of the living, clinging to the illusion of return. In this case, no angel will be able to reason with such a restless dead man until he realizes his situation and completes his unfinished business. Such a soul turns into a ghost. Fortunately, this is not the rule, but the exception.

From days 3 to 9 the soul resides in heaven.

On the 3rd day, but before the funeral, the guardian angel helps the soul ascend to heaven. For the next six days, the deceased has the opportunity to explore the heavenly heavens. He is allowed to find peace, to take a break from the suffering that fills earthly life. Here they make you feel what divine goodness and eternal peace, devoid of worldly vanity, mean. The soul gains strength to appear before the Creator on the ninth day.

Documentary about the journey of the soul after death:

How to behave in a cemetery

The tradition involves visiting the grave of a deceased relative on the 9th day after death. It's better to go to the cemetery during the day. It is advisable to put the grave in order: remove garbage from the site, straighten the wreaths, put flowers; in the summer, it is better to put them in containers with water so that they last longer.

In calm weather, you can light a candle on the grave, but do not forget to extinguish it when leaving. If the deceased was a deeply religious person during his lifetime, then on the 9th day you can invite a clergyman to the cemetery to conduct a special service over the burial site. Or read the prayer yourself.

Remember that a cemetery is not a place for idle talk. It is better to focus your thoughts on the personality of the departed relative. Remember it on the good side, to yourself or out loud.

It is better to bring flowers to the grave.

You should not take alcoholic drinks to the cemetery, much less leave vodka in a glass right on the grave and pour it onto the burial site. This can harm the soul of the deceased. You can take sweets, candies and pies with you. They are treated to poor people so that they remember the deceased.

Behavior in church

If relatives adhere to Orthodox traditions, they should definitely go to church on the 9th day and perform a funeral service. The order of the ritual is as follows.

There is an icon in the church, near which parishioners light candles for the repose. Traditionally this is an image of Jesus crucified. You need to go up to the icon and cross yourself.
Relatives light the candles prepared in advance from other candles standing next to the icon. If there are none, you can light a candle from a lamp. But using matches or a lighter for this is prohibited.
When the candle lights up, it should be placed next to the icon on free space. To give stability, you can pre-melt the lower part of the candle.
After the candle for repose is lit, you must turn to the Almighty and ask him to give peace to the soul of the deceased. In this case it is necessary to name full name the person you are praying for.
Then you should cross yourself, bow to the icon and calmly move away from the table.

As a rule, candles for the repose are placed on a special table in the left half of the temple. This table has a rectangular shape, and the round ones are intended for candles for health.

Repose candles are placed next to the crucifix.

Lighted candles are a symbol of common prayer for the soul of a person who has left this world. They strengthen collective prayer, as if illuminating the path for the soul in the afterlife. It is believed that what more people asking God to forgive the deceased’s sins, the greater the chance for the soul to end up in heaven.

Prayer can be addressed to the Almighty, to the angels, and to the saints.

Tradition of the wake

The wake should not be perceived as an ordinary formal ritual. Relatives and friends of the deceased gather for a memorial dinner to remember good deeds who left this world, the merits and best events of his life. It is believed that fond memory about the deceased will facilitate the ordeal after the 9th day.

It is not customary to invite guests to devotina, so the wake is uninvited. Anyone can come if they want to remember the deceased. The presence of the closest relatives is considered mandatory.

According to the traditions of Orthodoxy

Our Father, who art in heaven!

Hallowed be Thy name,

may your kingdom come,

Thy will be done

as in heaven and on earth.

Give us this day our daily bread;

and forgive us our debts,

just as we also leave our debtors;

and do not lead us into temptation,

but deliver us from evil.

For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever.

Some say it out loud, some say it to themselves. This is a personal choice for each guest. If you do not know the prayer by heart, then it is more convenient to simply repeat it after those who pray out loud. It is better to say the prayer while standing, out of respect for the deceased.

How to properly set the table

There must be one obligatory element at the funeral table. We are talking about a traditional dish called kutia. For funerals, it is usually prepared from rice, honey and raisins. Sometimes sugar or jam is added instead of honey. A stricter tradition recommends using boiled wheat.

Many people perceive it as a simple delicacy. This is a superficial view, since kutia is a symbolic sacred dish. The grains mean the seeds of new life, the resurrection from the dead. Sweet components indicate the bliss of the soul in the afterlife. It is advisable that this traditional dish be blessed by the priest, but if this is not possible, then you should take holy water from the temple and sprinkle it on the kutya.

Kutia is a mandatory dish at a funeral meal.

In addition to kutya, jelly or compote, as well as sweet pies, should be present on the table. However, they put pies with cabbage and fish on the table. The first dish is usually borscht.

Orthodox funerals have one important restriction, which is often violated. This is a ban on alcohol, because priests consider drunkenness a sin. Therefore, a believer will not drink alcohol at a wake, knowing that this will harm the soul of the deceased. For the same reason, you should not bring alcohol to the grave and drink it there.

Another sin that is best avoided at a funeral meal is gluttony. Therefore, the church advises against holding lavish dinners in memory of the deceased. Dishes should be simple; delicacies are inappropriate here. Since it is possible to attend a wake without an invitation, it is very difficult to calculate the number of guests. After the funeral dinner, food remains, they should be given to the poor and asked to remember the deceased. Throwing away food after a funeral is a sin.

Rules of conduct during a funeral dinner

In a funeral meal, it is not the fact of eating that is important, but the atmosphere. People come to honor the memory of the deceased and support relatives in hard days loss. We must remember that this is a mourning event. Therefore, frivolous fun and loud laughter should not be allowed at the table. Collective singing is even more inappropriate.

The ancient Romans said: “The dead are either good or nothing.” This wisdom must be kept in mind during the wake. Criticizing the deceased, discussing bad deeds, negative character traits is inappropriate and ugly.

This is due to the belief that on the 40th day in heaven a decision will be made on where to send the soul of the deceased: to heaven or hell. Any negative assessments, condemnation and criticism can be decisive in sentencing.

What do the relatives of the deceased do?

On the day when the soul appears before the Creator, family and friends must make every effort to help the deceased earn heaven. It is believed that on the 9th day after death, angels intercede for the soul. But the prayers of living people are also of great importance.

Of course, if you treat funeral customs formally, then this will be of little use. The prayer for the salvation of the soul must be sincere, then it acquires true power.

Lord Jesus, accept the soul of your servant (name of the deceased), forgive him all his sins, small and large, and accept him into heaven. How he suffered in his life, how tired he was of suffering and sorrow on this earth, so now let him rest in peace and sleep eternal sleep. Protect him from the fire of hell, do not allow him to fall to the demons and to the devil to be torn to pieces. In the name of the Father, and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

It is advisable that on this day relatives visit the temple and hold a prayer service for the repose. But if this is not possible, then they turn to God at home, and also light candles in memory of the deceased.

During nine days, relatives should focus on the bright qualities of the person who has left the world. You need to sincerely ask him for forgiveness and forgive him. It is necessary to remember the deceased only from the good side.

It is advisable to light a candle or lamp in the house and at the grave. It is better to install it in front of a photograph framed with black mourning ribbon. You can place a glass of water and bread in front of the portrait.

On the 9th day after death, it is allowed to remove the covers from the mirrors. Only the mirror in the bedroom of the deceased should be left covered.

How is the 9th day after death counted?

The first is the day the person passed away. It doesn’t matter exactly when it happened: in the morning, in the evening or at night. The calendar day lasts from 0 o'clock to 23:59. This day next year marks the anniversary of the death.

If a person left this world on February 1, then the ninth day will be February 9. The mathematical difference is not 9, but 8 days (9 - 1 = 8). That is, when calculating, you need to add the number 8. Let's say the day of death was March 17, then nineties will be March 25.

The date of the funeral does not affect the calculation in any way. A person was buried on the third or fifth day; the funeral ninth day is not postponed. It is counted solely by the date when the soul left the physical body.

There is one special case when memorial rites associated with destinies are postponed. We are talking about the period of Lent. The Church recommends not holding funerals in weekdays, and move them to the next Saturday. A priest from an active church can tell you more precisely about holding funeral services during Lent.

Does the type of clothing matter?

Mourning traditions require clothing requirements. The classic color is black. This is not necessary, but clothing must be formal. Bright, frivolous outfits are inappropriate here.

Men must remove their hats when they enter the room where the funeral ritual is taking place.

In this video the priest talks in detail about Orthodox traditions associated with death.

Conclusion

Any person on Earth sooner or later loses family and friends. And everyone wants the soul of the deceased to fall into better world. Of course, we are not given the opportunity to decide someone’s fate in the afterlife. This is God's prerogative. However Higher powers take into account our behavior within 40 days from the moment of death. Therefore, it is important to know funeral and memorial traditions so as not to harm the soul of a loved one who has passed away.

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Evgeniy Tukubaev The right words and your faith are the key to success in the perfect ritual. I will provide you with information, but its implementation directly depends on you. But don’t worry, a little practice and you will succeed!

How to remember for 9 days? What should you do and what shouldn't you do? This is discussed in detail in the article. Body, soul and spirit are all creations of God. If the first is of a temporary nature, then the rest live forever. Today we will talk about why they commemorate on the 9th day, why they do it. The basic rules of this event will also be presented, it will be described how to organize everything correctly, when and where.

Of course, an important ritual that helps the dead pass on to another world is the wake on the 9th day.

Where is the soul after a person has died?

According to Orthodox canons, it is believed that the soul of the newly deceased does not depart as intended by God on the day of death. For another 40 days after it leaves the body, the soul remains on earth. During this period, relatives pray for the deceased. The 3rd, 9th and 40th days are celebrated in a special way.

Why do this? Why are they commemorated on the 9th and 40th days? The meaning of commemorations these days is to pray for the deceased before God. Note that 9 is sacred number. After a person has died, his body rests covered with earth. At the same time, the soul continues to wander around the Earth.

What happens on the 9th day? The afterlife begins from the first day. On the 3rd day, the soul of the deceased leaves his native walls. During this period, she goes on a 9-day walk. During these six days she goes through a special journey. IN given time she is preparing for a personal meeting with the Almighty. On the 40th day the journey ends.

Why is it remembered on the 9th day after death? These events help the deceased to stand before the throne of God, the Judge, with fear and trembling. Let us note that in God's hierarchy the angels have their own ranks. After a 9-day stay on the posthumous path, the choice of angels ends. They act as defenders (lawyers) in God's court. Each of them will ask God for mercy. At the same time, he will be provided with evidence of the righteous life of a person who died 9 days ago.

The first three days after death, when the soul is still near the living, a guardian angel stays next to it. The soul enters heaven for dating on the fourth day. While the verdict has not yet been pronounced, everyone finds themselves in heavenly spaces. This is done so that the soul has the opportunity to rest from the pain that haunted it on earth. All the sins of the deceased are also shown.

Meaning of 9 days

As you understand, angels bring the deceased to the throne of God. After a conversation with the Almighty, the soul goes to hell. This decision is not final. We can say that the soul goes there for acquaintance. During such a journey, various difficult obstacles arise in front of the deceased (more precisely, his soul). He must pass all the tests. Their difficulty depends entirely on the temptations encountered along the way.

Those souls who have been able to show that good triumphs over evil can expect a change of heart at God's judgment. It is very likely that they can count on forgiveness.

What is the importance of the 9th day? The fact is that the deceased has not yet been determined on his path. The memories of relatives, as well as their prayers, will provide undeniable help to the deceased. The memory of the good deeds of the deceased, his life and forgiveness of the offended bring peace to the soul.

According to Orthodox canons, it is believed that one cannot constantly mourn the deceased. This is how you keep him on the ground by your behavior. When family and friends find peace, they give peace to the departed person.

When the soul goes through the journey in hell, then sinners have the opportunity to repent. IN at the moment It is the prayers of the living that provide strong support for the dead on this difficult path.

It is very important to order a prayer service on the 9th day. After which, of course, you must definitely end the day with a wake. The prayer that sounds during commemoration helps the deceased to pass these difficult hellish trials.

The prayers of living people are filled with requests for the deceased to join the angels. If the Almighty wills, then the deceased will become a guardian angel for one of his relatives.

How to count the 9th day correctly?

When calculating, you need to take into account not only the day, but also the time. The funeral must be held no later than the ninth day. Usually they are even done earlier. There is no way to organize a wake later.

For example, if a person died after lunch, then a wake should be held eight days later. Please note that the date of death and the time of the funeral are in no way related to each other. According to Orthodox customs, it is believed that the body is buried on the second or third day. But it also happened that the date of burial was postponed even to the sixth and seventh day. Based on this, the date of the funeral is calculated only from the time of death.

Funeral according to traditions

How to remember for 9 days after death? Now we will tell you in detail. Let us note that a wake is a necessary, but not very simple, ritual in order to pay tribute to the memory of the deceased. At the same time, leaving in his mind all the best from his life.

Funerals on the 9th day are not usually held in a cemetery. You can simply come to the grave of the deceased for your loved ones. You can arrange a funeral at home. If it is not possible to do this there, then you can hold the event in a cafe.

It is customary that people are not invited to the funeral dinner. They must come on their own. Of course, you need to tell them when and where the event will take place. It is also necessary to express the desire for these people to be present at the funeral dinner, which begins and ends with the Lord's Prayer.

We set the table correctly for a funeral dinner. What dishes can you cook?

How to remember correctly for 9 days? We need to arrange a special lunch. Just remember that it has nothing to do with celebration. During this dinner there can be no laughter, fun and songs.

The Church does not recommend placing on the table and consuming alcoholic beverages that cause inappropriate behavior. In general, drunkenness is a great sin. And, as you know, during wakes people pray for the forgiveness of sins, not only of the dead, but also of the living. During lunch on the 9th day, if you indulge in drunkenness, you can harm the deceased.

How to remember for 9 days after people have prayed? Then each of those present puts on a kutya, which was specially prepared and consecrated in the church. Note that if it was not possible to consecrate the food, then it can be sprinkled with holy water three times.

Funeral kutia

As has already become clear, the main dish, that is, what is remembered for 9 days, is kutia. Each region has its own unique food preparation traditions. But the main components are grain and honey. The following cereals can be used in cooking:

millet;
corn;
wheat.

Let us note that it is not by chance that grain is chosen to prepare this dish. It has a sacred meaning. What is meant here is that the seed dies when cooked, just like a person dies. The latter can be reborn in the Kingdom of Heaven in a new appearance. To wish the deceased a heavenly life, poppy seeds and honey are added to kutya.

Not always this Lenten dish add raisins and nuts. This is because they symbolize healthy life and well-being. Symbols of heaven are sweets such as honey and sugar. They are also added to kutya. Don't turn a funeral dinner into a waste of time. This time is reserved for consoling loved ones and remembering the deceased.

Funeral lunch. Basic rules of conduct

How to remember the dead for 9 days? Lunch should start with the first course. Usually it is borscht. Also on the funeral menu there is porridge, often pea. This dish is served with cutlets, fish or poultry.

Many people are interested in how to remember for 9 days and what should be served? Now let's try to figure it out this issue. The menu at a wake must include porridge (often pea), accompanied by cutlets, fried fish or a bird.

The receiving party chooses the cold appetizers themselves. As for drinks, there should be either compote or uzvar on the table. At the end of lunch they serve thin pancakes(with cottage cheese or poppy seeds) or pies with sweet filling.

The purpose of a wake is not the consumption of food!

Note that you don’t need to prepare a lot of food so as not to fall into gluttony. In general, rituals during the taking of funeral food are an invention of people. The meal is not the main event of the day. People should just quietly remember the deceased. Don't talk bad about him. This is necessary in order not to harm him during his journey through hell.

If you talk negatively about the deceased on the 9th day, then there is a chance that he will receive a terrible sentence. Let us note that all the food left after the funeral dinner must be distributed to the needy and the poor.

Wake clothes

At the funeral dinner, prayers are read, so women cover their heads with scarves. On the 9th day, only loved ones can have black scarves, as a symbol of special sadness. If we talk about men, then in this case everything is different. They take off their hats and present themselves before God in prayer with their heads uncovered.

Behavior in church

We have already figured out how to remember for 9 days. For Orthodox loved ones it is prerequisite their presence at the service on the occasion of 9 days.

All people light candles for the repose of the deceased according to this plan:

First, go to the icon, near which there are candles for the repose. It usually depicts the crucifixion of Jesus. Cross yourself.
Light the previously purchased candle from other burning ones. If they are not there, then you can use the fire from the lamp. Under no circumstances should you use matches or lighters in this matter.
Place a lit candle in an empty space.
Next, ask God to rest the soul of the deceased, be sure to give the full name (the one with which you were baptized).
Cross yourself, bow, move away from the lamp.

The candles that are placed in the church symbolize a collective request for the deceased. When praying for the soul of the deceased, send requests to God for the mercy of a sinful person. The more people who plead for his forgiveness, the more likely he will be forgiven. You can ask both from the Holy Saints, and from the angels and God.

The wake (9 days) is the next obligatory stage after the burial. Although it originated in the Christian religion, everyone adheres to this tradition. So how to spend a wake for 9 days? What are the features of the ritual?

Memorial service

If the deceased was a Christian, then you definitely need to go to church. It is believed that

at this time the soul can still visit the places of its earthly habitat. She completes the work that a person did not have time to do during his lifetime. He says goodbye to someone, asks for forgiveness from someone. A prayer service held at this time for all church traditions, helps to calm the soul, its union with God.

It is advisable that the wake (9 days) and relatives begin with an appeal to the Lord. In a short prayer, you should ask the Almighty to forgive all the sins of the deceased and place him in the Kingdom of Heaven. This has always been part of the ritual. In the temple they light candles for the remembrance of the soul. There is a special place for this. If you don’t know, then consult a temple minister. But usually you can determine it yourself. The platform for has a rectangular shape (all others are round). Nearby there is a printed text of the prayer. Don't be lazy, read it.

What do 9 days of commemoration mean?

In Christianity, the path of the soul to the Lord is described in sufficient detail. So, in the first days, the Angels show her what life is like in Paradise. The ninth is the time, so to speak, of the exam. The soul appears before the Lord, who determines it future fate. It is believed that sinners are afraid and tormented, finally realizing how incompetently they

wasted their energy. The righteous may also suffer from not knowing whether they will be life path approved by the Lord. Help for the soul of the deceased is extremely necessary during this period. Relatives with their prayers can help her cleanse herself and receive a “pass” to Paradise.

In Christian traditions, 9 days of commemoration are considered very important, since this is the last duty, the final stage of the earthly existence of the soul. After the Lord assigns her to Heaven or Hell, the living will be practically unable to help her. The clergy say that 9 days is almost a holiday! Because at this time the soul finds its shelter. It is imperative to pray that her stay in that world will be comfortable.

Funeral dinner

A trip to a cemetery is mainly for those closest to you. And those who want to express their respect to the deceased and his family members are invited to see him off modestly. The first, second and compote are prepared. IN

In Christianity, neither all kinds of snacks and salads, nor alcohol are accepted. Traditions with a hundred grams and a piece of bread arose in very hard times when there was no other way to relieve stress. Nowadays there is no need to drink alcohol at funerals, and it is not encouraged.

Of the “excesses,” only baking is allowed. So, they usually make pies or buns and serve them to the table. Everything should take place calmly and modestly. This is not an indicator of poverty. Rather, this demonstrates the recognition of the frailty of everything physical before the spiritual. At the table, everyone is given the floor to express their grief, share the confidence that the soul will go to Heaven, and simply remember the person who recently left this world.

Funeral feast

But not everyone has lunch these days. Some people don’t have enough time, others don’t want the extra hassle. The Church does not insist on strict adherence to this particular tradition.

It is quite permissible to replace a shared meal with a treat. What is it? You need to prepare such food that it is appropriate and convenient to serve to people without an invitation to the house, and so hold the funeral for 9 days. What are they giving away? Usually cookies and sweets. The easiest option is to buy what you need in a store. It is recommended to bake pies or cookies yourself. It is believed that by such actions you express greater respect to the deceased. You can distribute what you have prepared at work, in the yard to grandmothers and children.

How to calculate the required period?

People often get confused with this. It is best to contact Father, who will help you figure out the deadlines and tell you on what day to celebrate what. Due to its importance to the soul, you need to know exactly when to hold a wake for 9 days. How to count on your own? The first day is the day the person died. It is from this that we must count. From the moment of death, the soul begins its journey through the Kingdom of Angels. She needs help on the ninth day (and before that). Do not miss any deadlines, even if the death occurred before midnight. The first day is the date of death. The third, ninth and fortieth days are then important. You need to calculate them immediately and write them down so as not to forget. These are the dates that definitely need to be celebrated.

Who is invited to the funeral?

Family members and friends are the people who should definitely participate in the sad meal. They themselves know this. Souls demand to meet and support

each other in grief. But a wake 9 days after death is an event to which people come without an invitation. It is not customary to drive away someone who wanted to take part in it, even if it is completely strangers. The logic is this: the more people pray for the salvation of the soul of the deceased, the easier it is for it to get to Heaven. Therefore, driving someone away is unacceptable, even sinful.

Try to treat as many people as possible. And if it is not necessary to invite everyone to the funeral dinner, then you can give out sweets to everyone you meet on this day. Strictly speaking, it is not accepted to invite people to the event. People themselves should ask when it will take place (and in general, whether it is planned or not). For convenience, organizers most often take responsibility themselves and call everyone who has expressed a desire to remember the deceased.

Is it necessary to go to the cemetery?

Strictly speaking, a 9-day funeral does not include such a trip in the list of essential events. The Church believes that the graveyard contains mortal remains that have no special significance. Going to church and praying are welcome. But usually people themselves want to visit the final resting place of a dear person. They bring flowers and sweets there. Thus, as it were, a tribute is paid to the deceased. But this is more important for

living than for the deceased.

Under no circumstances should you bring alcohol to the cemetery. This is strictly prohibited by the Church! If you decide that you definitely need to visit the cemetery on this day, then take care of the appropriate clothing. Outfits should be modest and not flashy. The presence of mourning symbols is also desirable. Women tie mourning scarves. Men can wear dark jackets. If it’s hot, black scarves are tied to the left forearm.

How to prepare a house for a funeral?

On this day, lamps are lit and a photograph of the deceased with a mourning ribbon is placed in a prominent place. There is no need to cover mirrors anymore. This is done only while the body is in the house. Naturally, on this day it is not customary to turn on music or watch funny films and programs.

You can place a glass of water and bread in front of the icon as a sign of help to a soul traveling through an as yet unknown world. It is desirable that an atmosphere of severity reign in the house. If you invite people to dinner, then worry about their comfort. Usually carpets are removed from the floor so that you can walk around the house in shoes. You also need to place a small vase or plate near the photograph of the deceased. This is where the money will be put. This is done when a lot of people come, including strangers to the household. They may express a desire to donate some amount to the monument. And giving money to relatives is not always convenient.

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All people who have lost their loved ones are familiar with grief for them and anxiety about their posthumous fate.

The need to pray for departed loved ones

After death, a person’s soul awaits aerial ordeals and the judgment of Christ. During the air ordeals, demons will attack the soul: they will remind the person of his past sins and will try to take him with them to hell. The fervent prayer of loved ones immediately after his death can help a person during these terrible trials.

The judgment of Christ, which awaits the soul after death, is the so-called private judgment. And all people also face a common one - the so-called Last Judgment, which will take place after the second coming of Christ. Anyone who is justified and taken into heaven by Christ after a private trial is no longer subject to a general trial. However, the fate of someone who has been convicted by a private court may change up to Last Judgment through the prayers of his family and the entire Church.

Therefore, the departed need our prayers, and remembering them in the very first days is the most important duty of a Christian.

Days of commemoration after death

Immediately after the death of a person, the Sequence on the separation of the soul from the body is read over his body, and then the psalter. In the temple, loved ones must order memorial services (funeral services), which will be performed before the funeral.

On the third day, the coffin is taken to the temple for the funeral service, which will be followed by burial. After the burial, family and friends gather for a funeral meal.

Suicides are not remembered in the church, and a memorial service is not celebrated for them.

In special cases (suicide in a state of passion, an attack of mental illness, or due to negligence), funeral services can be performed for suicides, but only with the blessing of the ruling bishop and in the presence of appropriate medical reports on the condition of the deceased before death.

What do 9 and 40 days mean?

In the first two days after death, the soul remains on earth, accompanied by angels - a guardian angel and a guide angel. She can remain invisibly in her home, next to loved ones, and can visit places where a person lived before, or those that he did not have time to see during his lifetime.

On the third day, angels lead the soul to heaven to God for the first time. Along the way, aerial ordeals occur: demons tempt a person for the last time, remind him of old sins, trying to take him with them to hell, while angels help him overcome these temptations.

Then for six days, until the 9th day after death, the soul remains in paradise and contemplates the heavenly abodes.

On the ninth day the soul again appears before God. After the 9th day, a person is shown hell, and on the 40th day he is judged.

Therefore, it is customary to commemorate the deceased on the 9th and 40th days.

Funeral service for 9 days after death - how is it remembered?

The commemoration of the deceased is performed at the Divine Liturgy on the 9th day after death, and after the Liturgy a memorial service is served.

After the funeral service, it is customary to visit the cemetery and read a litany there about the deceased. Then you can again have a memorial meal with your family.

Exactly the same commemoration is performed on the 40th day, only folk custom, on this day strangers are invited to the funeral meal.

To order a memorial in the church, you need the day before or on the same day in advance, before the start of the Liturgy, submit a registered note in the church about the repose of the deceased.

Is it possible to remember before 40 days?

A situation often arises when it is impossible to arrange a memorial meal exactly on the 40th day. It can be arranged on another day, later or even earlier.

However, commemoration at the Liturgy, at a memorial service and at a cemetery cannot be transferred.

The 40th day is decisive for a person’s posthumous fate, therefore, church commemoration must be performed exactly on this day.

How to pray for the deceased during the first 40 days after death?

In the first 40 days after death, except special commemoration on the 9th and 40th days, the fortieth day must be celebrated in the temple, that is, commemoration during 40 liturgies. It must be ordered immediately after the death of the deceased. At home the psalter is read for the deceased.

Sorokoust can be ordered in several churches at once, and the psalter can be read by agreement - so that several relatives and friends of the deceased can read it at the same time.

How to remember correctly after death?

After 40 days deceased loved ones are remembered several times a year:

on the anniversary of death
on Radonitsa (Tuesday of the second week after Easter)
V parents' Saturdays(Saturday before Maslenitsa (meat day); second, third and fourth Saturdays of Great Lent; Saturday before Pentecost)

To commemorate fallen soldiers Dmitrievskaya Saturday(Saturday before November 8 - the day of remembrance of the Great Martyr Demetrius of Thessaloniki) and May 9.

These days you need to order a commemoration at the Liturgy, a memorial service, visit the grave of a loved one and read the litiya.

How to properly remember the deceased on the anniversary of death?

On the anniversary of death it is necessary

write a custom note for commemoration at the Liturgy,
order a memorial service and
read the litiya at the cemetery.

It is also customary to host a memorial meal for family and close friends.

How to pray for the deceased at home?

In addition to days of special commemoration, they pray for the deceased every day at home. Prayers for repose are included in the morning prayer rule.

What prayers should be read at home for the deceased?

In addition to the usual prayers for the deceased, you can read special prayers:

In home prayer you can remember suicides, despite the fact that they are not remembered at church services.

Prayer for those who died unbaptized

Non-believers, heterodox or unbaptized relatives

You cannot commemorate it at the Liturgy.

However, at home you can pray for their repose: either in your own words, or read a prayer to the holy martyr Huar.

There are also prayers of women who have had abortions for the souls lost in the womb.

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How to remember for 9 days after death according to the Orthodox tradition - funeral dinner, prayers and rituals

The question of how to remember for 9 days after death and how to properly celebrate the memory of the deceased is important for families who have experienced loss. There are many customs and rituals that must be observed on this day. Funeral meal, service in the church where funeral services are held, church prayers, visiting the grave - all this is a mandatory and integral part of the wake. In order to honor the memory of your neighbor with dignity, you need to know how 9 days from the date of death are celebrated.

Commemoration of the dead in Orthodoxy

Commemoration of the dead is a special custom among Orthodox Christians. In Orthodoxy, the numbers 3, 9, 40 have sacred meaning, so these days are special for commemoration. According to church traditions, after death you need to remember a person in order to help the deceased find peace with your prayers. After leaving earthly life, the soul of the deceased is in search of its path to new life. She's looking for her new house V other world. By remembering a person and praying for him, neighbors ease the fate of the deceased and help the soul find peace.

Funeral service for 9 days after death

In Orthodoxy, Christians have a tradition of honoring the memory of the deceased for nine days from the moment of departure. There are special customs for remembering the deceased, which are extremely important to observe, because these are traditions established over time. Adhering to these traditions and rituals is important not only from the point of view of religion, but also for peace of mind and the balance of the family of the deceased.

Necessary funeral rituals for 9 days after death:

going to church;
performing a service (requiem service, lithium, funeral service, magpie);
reading a prayer (in church or at home);
visiting a grave;
funeral lunch.

Why do funerals last for 9 days?

The commemoration of the deceased is held for 9 days after death in honor of the nine angels who protect the soul of the deceased and ask the Almighty for its salvation. Following Orthodox tradition, the purpose of a memorial service is to help the deceased find his new home. The ninth day after a person’s departure is a very important period for family and friends. According to church customs, the transition of the soul of the deceased to the Kingdom of Heaven depends on them. With their prayers, relatives can help the soul of the deceased find peace.

Who is invited

Traditionally, nine days of wakes are considered uninvited. It is important that people come at will. Inviting or reminding about this date is not accepted in Orthodox traditions. However, in modern world often invited to funerals in order to plan and decide in advance organizational issues. Sometimes the relatives of the deceased themselves casually remind about this event, thereby, without breaking traditions, they warn in advance about their arrival. If expected large number people, then the memorial is held outside the home, for example, in a restaurant.

What's being cooked

The most common dish that is prepared for a funeral for 9 days is kutia: boiled wheat seeds, to which something sweet is added, such as sugar or honey. Seeds are a symbol of life, and sugar or honey is the sweetness of life after death. Instead of kutya, you can prepare another porridge, for example, rice. It is customary to place compote or jelly on the funeral table for 9 days. Sometimes at funeral meals you can see pancakes, pies, various fish dishes, cutlets, as well as borscht. According to Orthodox customs, the funeral meal should be without alcohol.

What to do for 9 days

Commemoration for 9 days after death is the day when the deceased is remembered and only good things are remembered about him. During this period, it is not customary to organize mourning gatherings or, conversely, to organize a joyful feast. It must pass quietly, and the family of the deceased must behave humbly. In addition, there are a large number of different customs that need to be taken into account.

Funeral customs 9 days:

There should be a slice of bread and a bowl of water at home from morning to night.
You need to light a candle or lamp next to the photograph of the deceased.
You need to visit the cemetery of the deceased, but you cannot arrange a funeral right in the middle of the cemetery.
The funeral meal should be modest, without excesses.
Food left over after a funeral meal should not be thrown away. The remaining food should be distributed to the poor and homeless people.
On this date, you need to give out alms, give lunches to the poor, and help those in need.

Correctly commemorating the dead on the 9th day means praying for them. Despite the pain and bitterness of loss, you need to realize that prayer will help the deceased more than tears. It is important to let go of your loved one so that his soul can find peace in the afterlife. It is extremely necessary to pray for the mercy of the Almighty towards the deceased, because if they pray for the deceased, it means there is something good in him. Therefore, it is important to visit the temple and order a magpie for the departed. Before the funeral meal, it is extremely necessary to read the rite of lithium about the deceased.

How to count 9 days after death

According to Christian canons, commemoration on the 9th day after death - important event, so you need to correctly calculate the date on which it falls. In order to correctly count nine days, you need to start the report directly from the day the deceased left. The first day should be considered the day of death itself, and not the funeral. Nine days inclusive from the moment of death must be counted only if death occurred before midnight. If death occurs after midnight, then they begin to count from the next day inclusive.

Prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased on 9 days, 3, 40 and the anniversary - how and why to read it

Prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased is the most important part of any funeral or memorial. Both, in particular, in our Orthodox faith, and in the Christian religion in general. Why is this part of the funeral ritual given so much attention?

Prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased - where did this tradition come from and why is it needed?

Prayer after the death of a person is a long-standing part of any tradition, no matter Christian or pagan. They are called differently and are absolutely accepted different shapes, but the fact remains a fact. After the death of a person, he is seen off on his journey to the other side with a certain, established chant, memorial service, or other form of religious ritual. Because in every tradition, regardless of religion, there is a practice of seeing off a person.

Prayers for the repose facilitate a person’s transition from one world to another.

Why? What is the reason? Humanity's beliefs differ in many ways. But they all agreed that the human soul, burdened with sins, will hardly be able to get into a better world. But everyone has relatives and people who love him. And the desire to make this road easier to a loved one quite natural.

This is why there are prayers for the repose of the soul. After all, they are pronounced with ardent compassion, trying to help the deceased. Higher powers, seeing such zeal on the part of relatives and friends, understand that if he is loved so much, then the extent of sins can be moderated. By bad person It is unlikely that anyone will suffer.

So the existence of such rituals is quite understandable, both logically and emotionally. Everyone wants to help their relatives, whether alive or dead. Moreover, by and large, the deceased himself no longer needs either a coffin or a monument. He's already dead, he doesn't care. This is if we talk about the body. But the soul is another matter. It is for her that mourners offer prayers. And it’s worth knowing that such prayer can help the living too. In such a way that it will help them tune in to a spiritual mood. To stand, so to speak, on the same line of communication with Heaven. Think about how many sins have accumulated in everyone’s soul. And think about this topic - how many people will mourn at your own funeral?

When to read a prayer for the repose of the soul

Prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased is an important part of the memorial service, when the soul most needs support during its wanderings. You cannot treat your dead relative carelessly, because God will feel your carelessness and will no longer be so lenient.

The most powerful help will be if you read such a prayer in Church. Before offering prayer, a living relative needs to visit the temple. It is best to arrive at the very beginning of the service, or a few minutes before. Bring a church note with you as it will need to be presented at the altar. The best moment is on proskomedia. Then, in the name of the deceased, they will take part of the special prosphora. With its help, you can receive great cleansing from sins when part of such a prosphora is placed in the Thicket of the Sacred Gifts. When the liturgy is over, a memorial service will also need to be celebrated. If you want prayer to become much more effective, then the mourner should take communion himself.

Eat certain days the year when everyone is honored in the Church. From brothers and sisters who died with everyone Christian prayers and funeral services for those who suffered a cruel or sudden death. Without the religious, ritual part that is required at such a moment.

Saturday, which is called meat fasting. It is celebrated eight days before Lent.
Saturdays bearing the name parenting days. They stand in the second, third and fourth weeks of Great Lent.
Trinity Saturday. Celebrated before the day of the Holy Trinity.
Radonitsa. Second week after Easter, Tuesday.
Saturday, which is considered both parental and Dimitrievsky. It is celebrated on the eighth of November, which is the day of remembrance of the saint and martyr, Demetrius of Thessalonica. Initially, it took place on the eve of the Battle of Kulikovo and during it the names of Orthodox soldiers who died defending their native land were remembered.
Commemoration of the Orthodox, deceased soldiers, May 9 (April 26, old style).

On the remembrance of the dead: memorial service, memorial prayer, parental Saturdays

What else do you need to remember for proper commemoration? Firstly, special dates. The deceased should be remembered on his birthday, day of death and name day. Also on these days, it is advised to generously make church donations, where his name will always be honored. And also - alms to the poor, with the expectation that they will remember the name of your relative when they pray.

Text of the prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased:

Remember, O Lord our God, in the faith and hope of the life of Thy eternally departed servant (name), and as the Good One and the Lover of Mankind, forgiving sins and consuming untruths, weaken, forsake and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins; deliver him from eternal torment and the fire of Gehenna and grant him the communion and pleasure of Your eternal good things, prepared for those who love You, and rest with Your saints, as You are Generous; There is no man who will live and not sin. But You are the only one besides all sin, and Your righteousness is righteousness forever; and You are the only God of mercies and generosity, and love for mankind, and to You we send glory, to the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

Prayer for 9 days after death, as well as for the 3rd day, 40 days and anniversary

Why is the prayer read? at 3 days, 9 and 40 days after death? It is believed that during the first 3 days the soul prepares to depart. She is still in the body, but holds on to it with literally a few threads. Then, when the body is buried on the 3rd day, the last connection is broken. And from the 3rd day to the 9th day, the newly departed soul is shown the tabernacles of paradise, so to speak. What Paradise looks like, what pleasures await the soul, how good and pleasant it is there.

But when the 10th day comes, a completely different picture unfolds before the soul. They begin to show her the torments of hell and what awaits her if she ends up here. All this time she does not know what exactly awaits her, Heaven or Hell. And the deceased finds out about this only on the 40th day. It is these days when fate is decided human soul, she most of all needs support from living relatives. Therefore, it is customary to read prayers and perform memorial services on these dates. So, as we ourselves see, prayer for 9 days after death, for 3 days and for 40 are very important. After all, it is on these days that the fate of man, or rather the fate of the immortal soul, is decided.

There are several basic rules that must be followed when holding funerals on such significant dates. The first is the right atmosphere, at home, or together, where the event will take place. Relatives should pour water into a glass, put a slice of bread on top and light a lamp.

The second is the number of those who remember. There shouldn't be many of them. These are close relatives and friends, as well as colleagues with whom he maintained the closest contact. Women must match their hair to their headscarf, without exception. And men should be without any hats.

The third is an invitation. It is not customary to invite people to a wake, because this is the only way to find out who really cares about the peace of mind of the deceased. They must come on their own. But sometimes it happens that a person, under the weight of grief, forgets what day it is. So you can casually remind him without inviting him directly.

Funeral Divine Liturgy and memorial service in the Church of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker - Patriarchal Compound of Sofia

Fourth - food. Everyone who is going to set the table on this day should remember that compote, kutya and porridge in general are an obligatory attribute of the funeral table. You can prepare the deceased’s favorite food and place it at the head of the table.

The fifth and most important rule is that you have not gathered to dine. You must remember the deceased. Remember the pleasant moments you shared together, some facts from his life. Let it emerge in your memory as if alive. Like the person who was next to you. Feel its warmth.

Prayer for 9 days after death:

God of spirits and all flesh, having trampled down death and abolished the devil, and given life to Thy world! Himself, Lord, give rest to the souls of your departed servants: your most holy patriarchs, your eminence metropolitans, archbishops and bishops, who served you in the priestly, ecclesiastical and monastic ranks;

Every sin committed by them in word or deed or thought, as a good Lover of mankind, God forgives, as if there is no man who will live and not sin. For You are the only one besides sin, Your righteousness is righteousness forever, and Your word- true. For You are the Resurrection, and the Life and Repose of Your departed servants (the name of the rivers), Christ our God, and to You we send glory with Your beginningless Father, and Your Most Holy, and Good, and Life-giving Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen.

Prayer for 3 days:

Rest, O Lord, to the soul of Thy departed servant (Thy departed servant, the soul of Thy departed servant) (name) (bow), and as much as man has sinned in this life (humans have sinned), Thou, as the Lover of Mankind, forgive him (u, them) and have mercy (bow), deliver eternal torment (bow), give to the heavenly Kingdom a partaker (participant, partakers) (bow), and do something useful to our souls (bow).

Prayer for 40 days:

Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.

Prayer for an anniversary after death:

God, merciful Lord, remembering the anniversary of the death of Your servant (name), we ask You to honor him (her) with a place in Your Kingdom, grant blessed peace and bring him into the radiance of Your glory.

Lord, look mercifully on our prayers for the soul of Your servant (name), whose anniversary of death we remember; we ask You to number him (her) among the host of Your saints, grant forgiveness of sins and eternal peace. Through Christ, Our Lord. Amen.

Prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased is an important part of any funeral and memorial ceremony. Because it helps the soul to cleanse itself, both for the soul of the deceased and for the souls of the living. Moreover, when reading such a prayer, the Lord God himself will evaluate the actions of the deceased with greater mercy.

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